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Old 06-14-2010, 03:28 PM   #26
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I'm a single FA in my early 30's.
I think the age distribution here just mimics the rest of the world.
I've found there are fewer people close to my age that are single.
I'm usually the odd man out in my circle of friends.
Most of my high school and college friends have gotten married or shacked up.
I know a few recent divorcees and some die hard bachelors.

I think there's a biological urge that hits humans in their 30's to settle down (if they haven't already).
I've been calling it "the 30-something dash."
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Old 06-14-2010, 04:35 PM   #27
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50's = Dead, or life over as you know it??

Just wondering.

50's were not referenced in the original post so I didn't think to add it.
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I just turned 55 and I'm not dead, just a smarta**,
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i have noticed that some times i leave late for work but end up arriving at exactly the same time i would've arrived if i had left earlier. the explanation eluded me for the longest time but really it is quite obvious: at some point the early trains enter some sort of fissure in the time/space continuum, passenger molecules disperse and then reintegrate at a later time.

it might be that something similar happens to single fa's in their 30's. this is just a theory. we need to do more research.
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50's = Dead, or life over as you know it??

Just wondering.
Damn...Old people are sooooooooooo touchy!!!!

LMAO J/K *running away* Don't kill me, Philly!
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Very interesting thought, I'd never considered that.

It seems like a lot of the single FAs I meet in their 40s are divorced, and were married in their 30s, so I'm guessing the same is true of the guys in their 30s now, that most of them are married and some won't be in their 40s.

Hopefully that makes sense.
Makes sense to me.
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Old 06-15-2010, 08:12 AM   #32
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I'm a single FA in my early 30's.
I think the age distribution here just mimics the rest of the world.
I've found there are fewer people close to my age that are single.
I'm usually the odd man out in my circle of friends.
Most of my high school and college friends have gotten married or shacked up.
I know a few recent divorcees and some die hard bachelors.

I think there's a biological urge that hits humans in their 30's to settle down (if they haven't already).
I've been calling it "the 30-something dash."
This pretty much sums it up for me as well. Hate being the odd man out in my circle of friends.
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Damn...Old people are sooooooooooo touchy!!!!

LMAO J/K *running away* Don't kill me, Philly!
Hey, you......if I'm so old, I shouldn't be able to catch you anyway, right?
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Old 06-17-2010, 05:26 AM   #34
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I was actually married in my early 20's and split in my early 30's so
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Very interesting topic. I think it does have a lot to do with the nation becoming fatter and the rise of sites like this. No doubt in my mind that the fact that sites like this have contributed to a lot of people being comfortable with liking fat women.
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i haven't really noticed that a lot. maybe it has something to do with the region i live it. most guys who tend to approach me seriously are in their 30s but its by no means all of them. its probably a good thing in some ways not to find a lot of FAs in their 30s hanging about. thats the age where most men decide they are ready to be serious if they've had relationships before. my gfs call it (33 or so) the age of Jesus, as in "Jesus what took you so long to get all of the skirt chasing out of your system" . its kind of nice to know that FAs are out there and involved just like everyone else instead of hiding away alone with the internet and magazines or only just beginning to find themselves as men. maybe it means their socialization is beginning to look more normal as they approach it with more normalcy. that means fewer are closeted--i hope. in their 20s guys are still learning about themselves. in their 40s there are a lot of divorced or perennially single guys about. but be warned-- a lot of guys in their 30s are really ready and they may push very hard to be serious instead of taking things slow. maybe thats why sometimes there seems to be so much first marriage or training marriage syndrome about. but in general the ones who are truly ready for a loving relationship are very honest and straight forward about it and they don't have any problems showing it as well.
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I'd say about 95% of guys who hit on me are 18 or in their 20s Hell, I'm 38 yrs. old!! Basically, I'm around this age range all the time. I really don't know anyone my age. They are usually years younger or older.
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I'd say about 95% of guys who hit on me are 18 or in their 20s Hell, I'm 38 yrs. old!! Basically, I'm around this age range all the time. I really don't know anyone my age. They are usually years younger or older.
In my late teens and twenties I got hit on regularly by men in their 40's and 50's. Now that I'm in my early 40's, I'm getting hit on by men in their twenties. I'm not complaining.

However, I do think a LOT of 50-year-old men are smokin' hot.
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I don't know if the words are going to come out right, but here I go anyway lol. I've actually given this some thought before so here is my feelings about it.

Fat has always been, generally, not acceptable in a partner because of "peer pressure" or it's not socially acceptable or whatever you want to call it. There's a reason we call it coming out of the closet when an FA finally comes to term with it. (And that is by no means meant to offend our gay/lesbian friends or anything, or to diminish their struggles and the discrimination they endure, just a shared terminology)

So..now, when a man has matured, into say his 40's, he knows himself and what he is attracted to. He is comfortable and secure enough in himself to come out of the closet so to speak and date fat women.

Ok, and...I personally have noticed in the recent years that the younger generation is much more accepting in general, including of fat people. I know not all the younger folks will agree but I see with my own eyes the differences there are now then when I was in high school. Not that every one, in every town, every where is perfect is open and accepting...BUT...back when I was in high school and this is only going back 15 years..there's NO way a fat girl had a boyfriend, a date to the prom, or possibly even any friends at all.

I think that with girls becoming proud of themselves when they're of size and not being embarrassed with who they are, in combination with the explosion of acceptance all races, sizes, sexual orientation, etc the younger folks are realizing people are all just people, and dating a fat girl is no big deal and they just don't care anymore and want to date who they want to date. So, there are more opportunities now for younger FA's and the bigger girls as well.

I'm pretty proud of this upcoming generation
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great points! me too. i love how they aren't ashamed to take the bull by the horns as much as in the past. makes me smile just thinking about it.
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So..now, when a man has matured, into say his 40's, he knows himself and what he is attracted to. He is comfortable and secure enough in himself to come out of the closet so to speak and date fat women.

Ok, and...I personally have noticed in the recent years that the younger generation is much more accepting in general, including of fat people.
Well said. I'd agree with that. I think as people get older they are more likely to say "screw you" to the world, and be who they really want to be. I also think that younger people, are more willing to accept themselves earlier, thanks to the availability of the internet and places like dimensions, and feel that they are not alone.

I'm 23 by the way.
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Well said. I'd agree with that. I think as people get older they are more likely to say "screw you" to the world, and be who they really want to be. I also think that younger people, are more willing to accept themselves earlier, thanks to the availability of the internet and places like dimensions, and feel that they are not alone.

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I second this!

Being a 20 year old... Where the heck are the FAs for me?
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I'm in my mid-twenties, 26 to be exact. I'm currently getting a ton of pressure to settle down and marry. I'm also in a shitty job, in a relationship I'm not quite 100% on, and I'm in the midst of trying to figure myself out.

I think that one of the reasons there aren't a lot of 30 somethings out there who are FAs is because they're either married, trying to get their career on track where they want it to be, or they are trying to find themselves.

Guys in their early twenties are in the fuck&fun stage of their lives. Hell, for most guys that goes until their late twenties, possibly early thirties. Guys in their 40s are pretty set in who they are and their ways, and are trying to find someone, or have already found someone, who can deal with who they are.

So the key is to find someone who you enjoy being with, and enjoy the relationship while it is there. If it lasts, AWESOME! If not, well, there are always more people out there. ALWAYS.

And sometimes it is wise for an older person to date a younger person, to keep things interesting. Studies I've read show that younger men can keep up with older women, and that younger women work well for older men.

Who knows...regardless, maybe the mystery will reveal itself.
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younger guys seem to date outside of their age groups for various reasons. 20 somethings often mention that women in their age group have a lot of body angst. i'm not sure if thats true or a line but in some respects it does seem to have at least a kernel of truth to it. at that age they seem to be more concerned about sex and the newness of trying things than anything else. add to that many women are relationship minded earlier than guys.

maybe some of the young ones feel because of the gap in ages that an older woman will not even take him on as a serious love relationship. they feel she'll be happy to have him because he is younger and fitter than his older competitors. he can then have what he wants in terms of being just a sexual interest to someone without having to worry about misleading them about his intentions. what they sometimes don't know is that older women are no different and they can get attached and want emotional and relationship needs filled as well. they may not be as dramatic in their reactions and they may not make a big issue of it but deep down they have the same feelings as younger girls. the only difference is that they are wrapped in an older package and have more life experience.

advice for younger girls: a career or a job is no reason to put off having a relationship. guys who are really into that usually are out looking for you early. the ones left when you are in your 30s and 40s are often the ones who are hesitant for some reason or another. you can go to college together , start your careers together no problem. but corporations are no reason to put it off if you happen to meet someone and you have a mutual affinity. a career is not necessarily a life. often its just a small part of one if you work it right or a big part only if thats your personal thing. place the most importance and energy into something no one would have to pay you to do whatever that is. don't give your entire life to anyone or anything. always remember it belongs to you and your happiness. it should never be about what the rest of society thinks its cool that you're doing.
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