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Old 07-06-2010, 02:58 PM   #1
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This is a question I often ask people because being a webmodel/pornstar myelf, I find that it isn't always obvious to date. Some people don't mind what I do BUT some are totally not with it. I respect both sides but I just wanted to see how other's feel on the topic.
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I think it's a matter of trust and self-esteem, really. You've got to be comfortable with the idea of other people boinking or imagining themselves boinking your partner, and to realize that it's just the job. There's an interesting poem by Pablo Neruda that, to me, reflects this:

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Come with a man
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come with a thousand men between your breasts and your feet,
come like a river
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to the eternal surf, to Time!

Bring them all
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Hey everyone, I hope that you are all well

This is a question I often ask people because being a webmodel/pornstar myelf, I find that it isn't always obvious to date. Some people don't mind what I do BUT some are totally not with it. I respect both sides but I just wanted to see how other's feel on the topic.
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Ive no problem with dating either. I know some ppl. would be intimidated by their partner's careers but quite honestly, it shouldn't have a bearing on how each person feels for the other. If the trust and love is strong, there shouldn't be any problems.

Also, i'd be showing her off
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I'd do it for the obvious thrill of saying "woo-hoo! I'm dating a porn star!". Of course, the downside of such a relationship is the potential of looking at your member while taking a burning piss at 5AM and noticing a funny rash, at which point you think "oh no. I'm dating a porn star".
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Really just depends on the person more than anything.

It's a confidence issue mainly. I'm cool with it. Maybe others aren't?
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It would depend on the kind of porn in my opinion. The soft core, lets look at your pretty curves etc kind, no problem at all. But the hardcore variety I would struggle with. Its all about the individuals though. I am extremely jealous and possessive so personally, I know it would not be cool and if i said it would be I'd be lying. There was another thread similar to this on another forum and a lot of actual models also weighed in on the discussion. Most of the girls were, surprisingly to me, single and many said that while most dudes are in theory totally in love with the idea of getting with a porn star the reality for most is more than they can actually stand.
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I'd do it for the obvious thrill of saying "woo-hoo! I'm dating a porn star!". Of course, the downside of such a relationship is the potential of looking at your member while taking a burning piss at 5AM and noticing a funny rash, at which point you think "oh no. I'm dating a porn star".

Haha.
Except this is MUCH less likely to happen when dating a sexworker than
say a random girl you pick up at a party. I promise,statistics back it up!
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Except this is MUCH less likely to happen when dating a sexworker than
say a random girl you pick up at a party. I promise,statistics back it up!
No kidding. Most of the companies know how to protect their workers. And it's much less likely for a webmodel.
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Again, I think this certainly varies according to the psychology of each individual. In my case, I think I would be able to approach and date a softcore webmodel. I would not be able to do so with a porn star.

The reason is because I believe that sexual contact is intimate in nature, hence why, in my own experiences, the majority (there are a few exceptions, of course) of "friends with benefits" relationships tend not to work out-- messy emotional attachment is never far behind.

In the end, I am a monogamous, pair-bonding man, who does not compartmentalize his sexuality into "intimate" or "casual" categories-- sex without connection just somehow seems pretty pointless to me. Therefore, I would not be happy with a lover who could not meet me on that ground.

I realize not everyone is going to agree with me on this, but this is the stance that my life experiences and intuitions have brought me to.
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I don't think whether someone is comfortable dating a sex worker has anything to do with self-esteem, trust or love at all. At the end of the day, we all want to be with someone who shares our values.

To answer your question, I am used to open relationships and lack the possessive streak most people have, so I have no problems with my partner sleeping with others whether she profits from it or not. Though I have never been a webmodel or a porn star, I am not exactly a stranger to sex work and know several strong, beautiful and amazing women who choose to work in that industry so I do understand that it is just a job for most of these ladies, be it posing for suggestive pictures or doing hardcore videos.

Honestly, how they behave outside of work matters more to me. Extreme as it sounds, I would rather date an escort who is strictly business with her clients than a softcore paysite model who lives in her own little fantasy world, spends all day chatting to fans and talking about the compliments she gets.
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I think the real problem would be having the guts to ask one for a date. In my single days I would never have imagined asking a model or porn star for a date because I never would consider myself worthy of their time. My self opinion was always "fat guy" not "stud". Thankfully my wife totally disagrees with me on that subject.
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This is a question I often ask people because being a webmodel/pornstar myelf, I find that it isn't always obvious to date. Some people don't mind what I do BUT some are totally not with it. I respect both sides but I just wanted to see how other's feel on the topic.
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i had a man contact me specifically to tell me why he DIDNT contact me......hmmm?


He went on to say "no self respecting man would date a sexworker... only men interested would be in it for a short term hook-up. I would never LET my girl (bitch please?)dress like that or get in those kind of predicaments".....


I was like ... wow thanks for clearing that up for me. Because I have been a sexworker for quite some time and not so single for most of it.....


Now I just cry myself to sleep every night ...lol

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With an attitude like that, itsno wonder he's single, True. And hopefully he stays single for awhile cuz that's just a nasty thing to do to someone overall.
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'Ve been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

Would i do it again?

Pookie, would we...?

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I would date a web model for a few reasons, but I would never date a porn star, I'm not that kind of guy.
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Softcore more than likely. hardcore Porn might be a bit of a push.
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Models (web model or otherwise) and pornographic actors are just people.
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Sure I would if we had enough in common, but there's usually no way to contact them without coming off as a stalker, loser, or otherwise obsessed fan.
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Hmmmm, I wouldn't really have a problem with it. I wouldn't be jealous or anything because, hell, she's with me, not that dude who thinks that since she's a webmodel, she's willing to do something with him just because he leaves lewd, sexual comments that sound like a total moron wrote them (not anyone here, just saying).

Notice I said webmodel, not porn star. I don't think I'd be able to handle a porn star. lol
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Dating a porn actor is not for me. There are significant value differences between us.
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Except this is MUCH less likely to happen when dating a sexworker than
say a random girl you pick up at a party. I promise,statistics back it up!
Yes, pornstars are required to take an HIV test every 30 days...but..there are high numbers of chlamydia and gonorrhea, but not sure the number of other STD's...
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As to my answer of would I date one?? I'm not sure. I have not been in that situation before, so I'm not sure what I would do.
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Wow this is a good question! lol Um. I wouldn't mind dating a web model at all but someone who did porn would present more challenges than I am able to take on. It takes a certain type of person emotionally and personality wise, to do porn.Besides that and the whole STD thing I believe I would be up for it if they were "the one". I think it would be REALLY interesting to date someone who was in this field. So yeah. If their "worth it".Im down.
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Great question! I would have absolutely no problem dating a webmodel at all. A porn star that had sex with other men would be a different story though. I'm no prude by any means but I wouldn't want my girlfriend sleeping with other men. Similarly, I'd wager most girls I'd date wouldn't want me sleeping with other women. I don't know how open the webmodels here are about their profession (or side gig) but I'm bot sure how upfront I'd be about that to family and friends. Frankly, I know they would jump online immediately and I've no desire to have family look at my girlfriend naked.
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