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Old 07-03-2012, 01:27 PM   #101
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A sage friend had some thoughts on this topic that I am inclined to agree with. First up, I don't think there is any obligation to date people of a particular size and I think many FAs (and non-FAs) do experience genuine attractions toward people that aren't physically their type. I think that, in truth, the attraction is in these cases is driven by the personality; the intellectual connection; and the quality of the personal rapport that exists. Essentially, these things win out over (or in spite of) the core aesthetic being absent. That isn't to diminish or invalidate those things - just to say that the aesthetic attraction is not a primary ingredient of the connection. So what my friend was saying about this is that all that is fine... until the relationship hits a rocky patch. It might seem a bit base but the fact is that in these times, the jump off point for renewing the relationship is usually through sex. And this kind of make up sex is driven by the fact that in spite of having differences, you are still extremely physically attracted to the person on an aesthetic level. If you aren't feeling all of those other non-physical things toward a person at that point then you'll feel a lot less inclined to stick at the relationship and give it another chance. Of course... if the relationship doesn't have those anyway then this might not always be for the best but that's another matter!

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Old 07-04-2012, 01:18 AM   #102
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until the relationship hits a rocky patch. It might seem a bit base but the fact is that in these times, the jump off point for renewing the relationship is usually through sex. And this kind of make up sex is driven by the fact that in spite of having differences, you are still extremely physically attracted to the person on an aesthetic level. If you aren't feeling all of those other non-physical things toward a person at that point then you'll feel a lot less inclined to stick at the relationship and give it another chance. Of course... if the relationship doesn't have those anyway then this might not always be for the best but that's another matter!
That has me thinking about a couple things. A "relationship" means different things to different people. For me a relationship should be about honesty and trust and mutual respect, what some may consider emotional aspects. From my experiences I have found that with the FAs I have been involved with, that it was the physical aspects they were more (or only!) interested in. They also seemed to think that their physical attraction to me would cause me to overlook or forgive their 'misbehaving' or whatever other issue there was.

I guess it all comes down to what two individuals believe a relationship is and what that relationship is based upon. If one person is basing the relationship purely upon what they find physically attractive, and believes that will *solve* any or every issue that may arise, and the other person who is looking more for an emotional connection that is based upon honesty, trust, and mutual respect probably will feel taken for granted and even possibly used when Mr. OhYourFatBodyIsSoooSexyToMe thinks him expressing the lust he feels is going to smoothe everything over.

Even if I am extremely physically attracted to someone, and / or extremely emotionally attracted to them, and / or in love with them, the fact that they are attracted to my fat body isn't an acceptable excuse for them acting disrespectful towards me or is it a get-out-of-jail-free-card. Maybe It's just that I don't even believe in "make up sex" at all because by the time a relationship has hit that kind of low, the other person has already shown their true colors, and physical sex is just that - a physical act. At that point there is usually nothing left worth persuing or fighting for.

That's just me, though.

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Old 07-04-2012, 02:38 AM   #103
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There is a fairly prevalent view on here and in the FA community in general that sexuality and physical attraction form the core of a relationship. Many feel a relationship isn't whole or complete without it. What James seems to be relating is that sex really is the glue that holds it all together.

All that may be true in some cases and for some people but I don't believe it's always the case. Plenty of happy and successful relationships are based on other factors and it's really about the needs and values of those involved. I honestly think in some cases having a sexual attraction can interfere with happiness as it may cause somebody to pursue the "wrong" relationship or may hold together one that's unhealthy or unsatisfying.

As far as being attracted to a wide range of sizes, sexuality is hardly a science. I self ascribe as a heterosexual FA. In a few cases I've been attracted to thin men. Those attractions develop through factors apart from body size but they are sexual attractions. They aren't lesser sexual attractions if the men aren't fat and they aren't less intense.
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Old 07-06-2012, 11:26 AM   #104
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Saw this on jezebel today - and granted, while the subject matter of sex on first dates is not exactly the same as I what I was referring to in my earlier post, their quote from the associated study rang a bell;

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What they discovered was a bit surprising love and sexual desire both activate the striatum, showing a continuum from sexual desire to love.

Each feeling impacts a different area of the striatum.

Sexual desire activates the ventral striatum, the brain's reward system.

When someone enjoys a great dessert or an orgasm, it's the ventral striatum that flickers with life. Love sparks activity in the dorsal striatum, which is associated with drug addiction.

...The areas of overlap indicate that sexual desire transitions into love in many cases, and the feelings aren't separate.
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Old 07-07-2012, 10:55 AM   #105
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All that may be true in some cases and for some people but I don't believe it's always the case. Plenty of happy and successful relationships are based on other factors and it's really about the needs and values of those involved. I honestly think in some cases having a sexual attraction can interfere with happiness as it may cause somebody to pursue the "wrong" relationship or may hold together one that's unhealthy or unsatisfying.
In principle, I definitely agree with this but I also think that the inverse is at least equally true in most (if not the vast majority of) FA cases. Having a sexual attraction for a particular aesthetic can interfere with happiness but equally so can persuing a relationship where it is absent. For both parties.

I don't think that FAs are fundamentally different from non FAs in this regard. With the only significant variation in outcomes arising from the manifestations of fat stigma as they influence the willingness to give and receive size-related aesthetic appreciation.

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Old 07-07-2012, 05:42 PM   #106
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The ONLY physical preference that I have is for a woman to have a big ass and thick thighs. I've dated 100 pound women, 300 pound women, and every size in between. I have no sexual attraction to women without asses. If it's just a wide ass, it's not what I'm looking for. She's got to have a bubble butt. I mean, I want that thing to stick out. I wanna be able to put a drink on it when she's standing up.. Everything else depends on the mind and heart. I like a sweet, nurturing, intelligent woman that can keep me in line. I'm not a submissive man by any means whatsoever, though. I'm actually VERY dominant. If a woman can handle me without getting loud, holding something against/from me, and still calm me down... she's a keeper.

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Old 07-07-2012, 06:22 PM   #107
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The ONLY physical preference that I have is for a woman to have a big ass and thick thighs.
Oh, and cute, maintained feet would be a plus, too.
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Old 10-21-2012, 01:21 PM   #108
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When reading through this thread, I realise that fat admirers are truly blessed because the body of a fat woman offers a huge variety of attractiveness.

When a woman weighs about 250-300 pounds at let's say 5'5, she's of course fat and she carries an excess of 100 or more pounds of body. Isn't it the excess of unnecessary body fat that turns us on?

This fat covers the entire body, but it's not evenly distributed. Some women have huge bellies and thin, yes thin thighs. Others have very fat thighs they can barely walk and not even a belly. I think you get the point.

As far as I am concerned, I prefer an even distribution of the fat with a huge belly as highlight. I love harmonious proportions: Fat everywhere, a round face, a double chin, a thick neck, a thick layer of fat on the back, fat arms, a large butt, fat thighs/legs and an outstandingly fat double belly. Rather small boobs.

I love women of such proportions at all sizes beyond 250 pounds, even 500 pounds or more.

But I wouldn't want to live with an extremely fat woman because it's not very practical to me.

My wife has reached her peak at 290 pounds which is certainly the limit for a healthy and mobile life. We love sports, walking, swimming, ice skating, cycling etc. Of course, we love to eat too, go figure. She stores her excess of body fat exactly the way I love it, very well rounded indeed. When she sits, her huge belly wells forth, and my fingertips don't touch each other when I wrap my arms around her.
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Old 12-12-2012, 01:47 AM   #109
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From a purely physical perspective I'm open to pretty much all body types, from very thin to SSBBW and everything in between. There's no particular rhyme or reason. Either I find a woman physically attractive, or I don't - and as simplistic as it sounds, that's pretty much all there is to it. Ultimately, size is seldom a factor.

That said, if I had to choose one body type over all others, I think it would be a woman of "average" to slightly chubby build overall, but with a prominent, protruding belly...the kind that at first glance appears pregnant, but is actually all soft, squeezable fat. Add some love handles and a good overhang in front, and I'm a happy man!

Also, I'll second the comment about nice feet. I'm very flexible on body type, but pretty feet are a must.
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Old 12-14-2012, 01:08 PM   #110
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The lightest person I've ever found attractive was 5'9 and 85lbs and the biggest I've found attractive was the same height and around 440lbs. One female, one male. So it is suffice to say that for me, weight isn't important for me find someone attractive, even if I do think chubby things are cute!
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This has always made me curious: how many FAs here consider themselves "specialists" (i.e., you have one preference -- let's say for SSBBW -- and one alone); and how many are "generalists" (you can find a woman attractive and sexually desirable whether she be 150 lbs or 650 lbs +)?

For that matter, does a particular shape (e.g., pear-shaped, hourglass, super-bellylicious) entirely decide your preference or is it possible to have a fluid appreciation for a broad palette of types in this regard?

I guess I'm just wondering how flexible you are in your taste, because it seems as though most people here operate from the point of a decided preference for one size that appeals to them exclusively. Maybe I am wrong?
I am a generalist. I have found 105 pound women attractive, I have found 350+ pound women attractive. I like women period. But to quote myself, every thin girl would look better thicker. Simply because fat feels good and its what I like...

I prefer pear shaped girls regardless of their size. I am INSTANTLY attracted to pear shaped women, but every woman has something sexy about her and I'd like to discover what that is So I have been with all kinds of women.

So in short, I have clear preferences, but that does not exclude any woman of any size, creed, race, or religion... Cause there are too many sexy women for that foolishness, lol.
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I can be attracted to all kinds of people. (Men, women, non-binary folks, etc.) To me things like race, weight, or gender are irrelevant in the end...an attractive person is an attractive person.

That said, there are certain things that always initially catch my eye. I might find all types of people attractive, but I am most drawn to fat men and women, at least initially. I also find androgyny sexy, regardless of body type.

I find super-size people incredibly attractive...but in 8th grade I went to a dance with a guy-friend I had a crush on who was 85 pounds. We're still friends and he's still only 110.

So I'll probably always have a strong preference for fat people (I wouldn't be on this board if I didn't) but I can appreciate beauty of all varieties. And as cliche as it sounds, personality goes a long way in making people (more or less) attractive to me.
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I'm disappointed that nobody has coined the term 'bi-sizeual' yet so I'll have to do it.


*bi-sizeual*
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I'm disappointed that nobody has coined the term 'bi-sizeual' yet so I'll have to do it.


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It got coined a while ago. Generally spelled "Bisizual" though. Ann Marie coined it in what... 2006 I think? lol
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It got coined a while ago. Generally spelled "Bisizual" though. Ann Marie coined it in what... 2006 I think? lol
Ha, I've been using that for a while. Or maybe it should be pansizual?!
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I've never heard of this until the other day when someone from Dims said something about it and I was like wait what. I dunno just not something I hear often. XD
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Ha, I've been using that for a while. Or maybe it should be pansizual?!
People use both. Whatever works.
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And let's not forget variosizual!? Over my lifetime I have noticed that whatever size a beloved partner is, that's the size I like best.
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I find women attractive. As long as they are nice, funny, and a good person. I don't just prefer woman who look like sticks. So yes a wide range of sizes i like i guess
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