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Old 03-17-2011, 02:04 AM   #26
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Eeyuck-taste disgusting is definitely understandable. Now, what would you consider disgusting visually/in the tactile sense? Just curious...


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I dont know why but when the partner acts foolishly lazy or when I see or feel or taste s.th. disgusting Ill get turned off. In that case, when Im in Bed with such a partner, this partner must have had attracted me before and maybe I realize these problems then, Ill turn off before I get soft.
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Old 03-17-2011, 01:54 PM   #27
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Yes, performance anxiety can be an issue for guys.

Also, I can see some guys being of such an anti-condom mind set for that to be a problem. In sports, coaches take a time out to put the brakes on momentum. Putting on a condom can in effect be a time out in the building of sexual momentum.

As far as worrying about the guys not really being sexually attracted to you goes, I suppose it could happen. From what I've seen, you have NOTHING to worry about there. If that was the issue in the instances you mentioned, you've just encountered a statistical fluke.
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In adolescence pretty much anything (or almost nothing) can trigger an erection. That gets more manageable in the 20s, and slowly drops from there. There is a reason that all sorts of animals get slaughtered to provide body parts for folk remedies for erectile difficulties, and why so much spam is about viagra--the older you get, the less reliable this reflex gets. But mileage will vary drastically between guys, and for the same guy depending on circumstance. It is often going to be less about how attracted he is to the person he's with, and more about how good he is feeling about himself.
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Do men have trouble getting it up for someone that they find attractive? On the other side of the coin, is it possible to get an erection for someone who you don't find especially attractive?
I ask because the past few men I've slept with have had some problems keeping it up. >.> (All in the age range of 20-28yo) This one guy in particular-he'd be erect, then I'd reach for the condom, and as soon as I tried to put it on his package would go all soft again. This also happened when we'd change positions. Guy #2 had no problems the first time around, but couldn't really get it up for round two.
I guess I'm puzzled because my steady high school boyfriend never really needed time to recover, he could go multiple rounds without ever stopping or getting soft.
I'm just having some doubts about whether my expectations are too high, or if I'm just not doing it for these recent guys.
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For many guys, it takes time for them to become harder again after a round of sex. Do you really expect him to get hard within ten minutes of having sex? The situation with your high school boyfriend seems to be quite rare as most guys need time to recover.

Sometimes stress impacts a man's erection.

Some guys hate using condoms and become softer when they put it on. If that's the case, he may need to buy one that fits his, um, size.

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In adolescence pretty much anything (or almost nothing) can trigger an erection. That gets more manageable in the 20s, and slowly drops from there. There is a reason that all sorts of animals get slaughtered to provide body parts for folk remedies for erectile difficulties, and why so much spam is about viagra--the older you get, the less reliable this reflex gets. But mileage will vary drastically between guys, and for the same guy depending on circumstance. It is often going to be less about how attracted he is to the person he's with, and more about how good he is feeling about himself.
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I've already addressed some of this in my above posts....but I'll go over it once more.
My main concern was with the guy who had trouble maintaining a hard on before we had intercourse at all. I threw in my HS boyfriend purely as a reference point-he was my first and I wrongfully assumed that he was in the majority and since then I've only been with a handful of partners so I'm not all that experienced nor am I 100% sure of what to expect in these kind of situations. Hence the post.
Many of the above repliers have been extremely helpful with their honest experiences and thoughtful advice. I really do appreciate it.


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For many guys, it takes time for them to become harder again after a round of sex. Do you really expect him to get hard within ten minutes of having sex? The situation with your high school boyfriend seems to be quite rare as most guys need time to recover.

Sometimes stress impacts a man's erection.

Some guys hate using condoms and become softer when they put it on. If that's the case, he may need to buy one that fits his, um, size.



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Do men have trouble getting it up for someone that they find attractive? On the other side of the coin, is it possible to get an erection for someone who you don't find especially attractive?
I ask because the past few men I've slept with have had some problems keeping it up. >.> (All in the age range of 20-28yo) This one guy in particular-he'd be erect, then I'd reach for the condom, and as soon as I tried to put it on his package would go all soft again. This also happened when we'd change positions. Guy #2 had no problems the first time around, but couldn't really get it up for round two.
I guess I'm puzzled because my steady high school boyfriend never really needed time to recover, he could go multiple rounds without ever stopping or getting soft.
I'm just having some doubts about whether my expectations are too high, or if I'm just not doing it for these recent guys.
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me im ready to go 2 times afterwords after about 5 or ten minutes waiting
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Old 03-18-2011, 07:22 AM   #32
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Having had experience, I'd say that girls react with surprise when I maintain an erection for a long time, so not only do they get round 2, there also get rounds 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 and beyond. They're usually the ones begging to stop.

So, no, it's not unusual, the ones who keep going are the unusual ones.
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Do men have trouble getting it up for someone that they find attractive?
While it certainly matters how attractive and sexy we find someone, sexuality is very much a matter of the mind. Most of the time, things work as planned. Other times they do not, for no obvious rhyme or reason.

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On the other side of the coin, is it possible to get an erection for someone who you don't find especially attractive?
That can definitely happen. Someone moderately attractive who is skillful in the art of seduction can elicit a response where someone supposedly more attractive may fail.

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I ask because the past few men I've slept with have had some problems keeping it up. >.> (All in the age range of 20-28yo)
There is no good, general answer for that. Sometimes our bodies cooperate flawlessly, other times they do not. But it's also a two-way street. How a partner reacts and responds can have a major impact on us.

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This one guy in particular-he'd be erect, then I'd reach for the condom, and as soon as I tried to put it on his package would go all soft again. This also happened when we'd change positions.
There are things that are mood killers for us, stuff that we simply do not consider sexy. If something like that happens, the powers that be may simply turn off the steam, and then that can be that (though the effect can be remedied by a skillful partner).

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Guy #2 had no problems the first time around, but couldn't really get it up for round two.
While sex comes in so many wondrous variations, I've never thought of it as coming in rounds. That sounds more like boxing or some other athletic event. That said, when it happens it can be very nice, and some folks consider it something to brag about. If you put pressure on a guy to "perform" again, you're potentially risking a rep as a difficult partner.

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I guess I'm puzzled because my steady high school boyfriend never really needed time to recover, he could go multiple rounds without ever stopping or getting soft.
Everyone is different. But consider that nature made it so that males could do their part in propagating a species as soon as they were sexually mature, and before they got themselves killed by a sabertooth tiger or disease. So a young body can potentially do more than an older one, though skill and wisdom often more than make up for it.

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I'm just having some doubts about whether my expectations are too high, or if I'm just not doing it for these recent guys.
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If you measure partners by erections and duration, you'll eventually find that the true wonder and awesomeness of sex and sexuality far transcends that.
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"Brewers droop", right? I've had some experience with that, but there was no alcohol involved with this guy. Hmmm...i do wonder if it has to do with the blood thinning effects of alcohol...
Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. That's what lowers inhibitions and also what lowers the ability to perform. Interestingly, the same effect causes people on anti-depressant medication to have performance problems.

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Sometimes I wish I could just take a peek inside what these guys are thinking...
Ehhhhh maybe not, lol!
Men aren't complex thinkers when it comes to sex. It pretty much amounts to "sex good. want sex."
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Good question and good humor question. The answer for me is, "No." It's more difficult to suppress arousal for an attractive lass. Caveats include having the lass mad at me, exhaustion or being under the weather. These things make female magnetism less than effective.

The good humor part is I usually tell the lass in my life such things are her responsibility. Swirling her fingers and watching inattentive leaners or sleepers pop to attention always makes her giggle. A giggling woman goes a long way in stiffening my resolve.

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Men aren't complex thinkers when it comes to sex. It pretty much amounts to "sex good. want sex."
"Men aren't complex thinkers when it comes to sex," has got to go down as the understatement of 2011, so far.
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Some brief thoughts.

1) Hormonal imbalance (including testosterone) in men is much more common in the 20-30 age range than what people care to admit. I'm not saying that most men are this way; just a more significant percentage than our society lets on.

2) Psychological attraction (which includes what a person looks like, their personality, etc.) does not necessarily always translate to physical sexual response (in a man's case, an erection). And a physical sexual response doesn't always guarantee that a man is psychologically attracted to someone.

3) With both of those being true, realize that if a man says he's attracted to you, and in every other way except the hardness of his penis right before 1st penetration he is showing his attraction, then he's probably telling the truth. He is either in a state of anxiety or possible is low on testosterone. If it's a reoccurring problem, a simple talk with a family doctor can go a long way.
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Do men have trouble getting it up for someone that they find attractive? On the other side of the coin, is it possible to get an erection for someone who you don't find especially attractive?
I ask because the past few men I've slept with have had some problems keeping it up. >.> (All in the age range of 20-28yo) This one guy in particular-he'd be erect, then I'd reach for the condom, and as soon as I tried to put it on his package would go all soft again. This also happened when we'd change positions. Guy #2 had no problems the first time around, but couldn't really get it up for round two.
I guess I'm puzzled because my steady high school boyfriend never really needed time to recover, he could go multiple rounds without ever stopping or getting soft.
I'm just having some doubts about whether my expectations are too high, or if I'm just not doing it for these recent guys.
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first of all - no two boners are alike. i mean, just because one guy could get it up at the drop of a hat doesn't mean everyone can.

i'm 25, and although i can get it up pretty easily, it takes a bit of work to keep it up.
but then, i have some emotional issues when it comes to any type of sexual activity, so anxiety definitely comes into play.
(if anyone at this time plans on telling me "just see a family doctor and you'll be all better," let me give you a preemptive and defensive fuck off.)

for this dude, it could be a matter of performance anxiety (it happens) or he's just having a few "bad" nights (which also happen).

if i may ask you a question, have you tried asking/talking to him about this? that might be pretty important.
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There's a reason a few comedians and sitcoms (including "Seinfeld") have mined that few seconds between "He's Up and Ready!" and "The Rubber is Released" for humor. It's not always easy to keep things flowing and strong during proper condom unwrap and wrap.

Twice in my 20s, I lost erections before insertion out of erection exhaustion -- stiff almost from the start of the date, by the time we got down to business much later in the evening, my penis got attitude: "I've been up and ready for hours and I'm tired. Now, I'm sitting down and not getting up again until I'm good and damned ready." Maybe this has happened with your guys.

Also, difficulty in maintaining an erection can be caused by a number of factors -- very tired, mind just somewhere else, sick, just pleasured self relatively recently, dog barking -- unrelated to the partner.

I know sometimes a woman I didn't find particularly attractive did something in such a way that, yeah, I got an erection. Sometimes a particularly good hug, a well-done casual massage, a violation of personal space held just a tick too long. Stimuli can be quite eclectic.
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If a guy can't get it up for a hot woman he needs to go see his doctor -- fast!


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On the other side of the coin, is it possible to get an erection for someone who you don't find especially attractive?
Within reason -- so long as a woman is somewhat attractive -- no problem.

However, if a woman has an evil personality she can kill the mood by talking too much. On the other hand sweet girls get more attractive as you get to know them better.


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I'm just having some doubts about whether my expectations are too high, or if I'm just not doing it for these recent guys.
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I'm guessing its not that these guys aren't into you its that you've just run into guys who don't have much of a sex drive. It seems that American culture (i.e. crappy fast food and hours in front of TVs and video screens) has produced a generation of guys who don't perform too well. A healthy guy under 50 should be able to perform at least twice a night.
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1. Condoms: Personally, they are erection killers for me, the drying out, re-lubing while changing positions, and the temperature difference between being in and out can all effect one's woody.

2. Being girthy is only a problem when one wears too small a raincoat...
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My advice is to have patience. If things aren't getting hard, try other things. Nervousness will kill a hard on. Try not to ask him why or blame yourself...it is really not you.
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Seriously, I know there are "edge cases" out there where someone really does need some medical help or attention to fix a problem like this. But I'm convinced that far more often, it's just other issues that can be addressed without medications. There's simply a LOT of money to be made promising you can swallow a pill and sex will improve.

I can tell you that personally, I've been in that uncomfortable situation where I was with a woman I thought was really hot, and yet couldn't really keep up an erection. Several factors come into play there. One was pure lack of sleep/energy. Sometimes, you've simply gotten up a lot earlier in the morning than you wanted to, worked a long day, and by the time you're with that special someone late in the evening, your mind wants to do it with them, but your body just says "No way.... time for some sleep!" Another factor can be some kind of mental disconnect between what you find attractive about them and what they think guys like you find stimulating.

EG. I was once with a gal I thought was *really* sexy, but it was like we had opposite ideas about her "best body parts" or something. She was fascinated with her boobs and was sure they were what all the guys liked best about her. But honestly? She had WLS a year or so before I met her, and she lost a lot of weight in her boobs that never really came back. So they were kinda "meh" looking. On the other hand? She had a killer pair of legs -- but she shrugged it off as thinking they looked "too big" and didn't like the big calf muscles she had, that I thought were superb! On top of that, her "kinks" and mine didn't really jive either. (I won't get into so much detail it becomes a "TMI thing" ... but let's say she had a fantasy of penetrating an area I consider strictly "exit only".)

There are ALL KINDS of reasons a guy might not get or keep an erection and relatively few justify taking drugs to fix it, IMO. Sometimes it just means the two of you just don't have that sexual chemistry - and I think if you can't explore a way around that together, by finding new "common ground" you didn't initially realize you both found stimulating, maybe it's just not meant to be.



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If a guy can't get it up for a hot woman he needs to go see his doctor -- fast!

Within reason -- so long as a woman is somewhat attractive -- no problem.

However, if a woman has an evil personality she can kill the mood by talking too much. On the other hand sweet girls get more attractive as you get to know them better.


I'm guessing its not that these guys aren't into you its that you've just run into guys who don't have much of a sex drive. It seems that American culture (i.e. crappy fast food and hours in front of TVs and video screens) has produced a generation of guys who don't perform too well. A healthy guy under 50 should be able to perform at least twice a night.
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I guess I'm puzzled because my steady high school boyfriend never really needed time to recover, he could go multiple rounds without ever stopping or getting soft.
I'm just having some doubts about whether my expectations are too high, or if I'm just not doing it for these recent guys.
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You were bloody lucky to have a guy that could do that for so long.

I'm quite lucky with my boyfriend, it can be 5 mins after we just finished and he'll have it up again. But usually i've knackered him FAR too much to keep going again.

I did threaten him with belly once to see if he could actually go again straight after the first round, and he made a rather good job of it - but i'm not THAT evil so I let him stop to give him a breather...!


I'm also quite lucky to have a boyfriend that is so attracted to me, all i've gotta do is show a bit of belly and he gets hard Ack...I love him ^_^

BUT to answer your question properly -

Yes most men do actually need breathers or time between, or at least all the ones i've been with (and all my male friends i've talked to...it was a weird conversation that night lol)
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I did threaten him with belly once to see if he could actually go again straight after the first round, and he made a rather good job of it - but i'm not THAT evil so I let him stop to give him a breather...!
Just to clarify, that is her threatening to smother me with her Belly to the point of passing out. Ealier that night we found out when she is fully on top of me with her Belly, its so big and wide that I can't escape or turn my head to get some air. Its so terrifying we haven't done it since.

Happy she can do that thought my woman is that dominant
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