dating in your mid 40s

svenmad2164 · 05-14-2013, 07:21 AM

Hey guys,i am in my mid40s now,i went through a second divorce,about 4 years ago,i have a fear of dating now since the divorce,i went to one bbw dance and it was like what are you doing here? We dont want you,we dont need you go home,you are not good enough forus

RabbitScorpion · 05-14-2013, 10:31 PM

I have heard elsewhere that a lot of men find themselves unaccepted at BBW dances.

BBWs, in general, have differences among each other in that they are looking for in a man. However, it would seem that most of the women who go to the dances are looking for hot dancers. They are looking for men who are athletic and not the least bit shy. A divorced "Dan Conner" who goes to a BBW dance is going back home alone with no phone numbers in his pocket.

There are BBWs that would be interested in you - you just won't find them at a dance.

Mysti Mountains · 05-17-2013, 06:30 AM

If it makes you feel any better, I have been to a few BBW dances myself, and it seems that the men hang out near the bar and watch everything going on, while the women get out and dance etc...Once I went with a sexy girlfriend and she and I sat and talked at a table without ever being approached...Once, I introduced myself to a guy who had walked in at the same time as us because he really looked like he wanted to dance...we did, and when it came time to give him my phone number and I walked to the bar to get a napkin to write on, a guy at the bar said "I'd like one of those" and I said "A napkin?" and he said "No, Your Number".... I took a married male videographer with me once, and he walked into the club a couple minutes ahead of me....by the time I got inside he said that he feared for his life because all of the women were trying to drag him to the dance floor. He was hiding behind the other men at the corner of the bar. Once again, no one approached me, and we played pool for a while and then left... There are people who go to BBW clubs who would really like to meet someone, but sometimes the atmosphere just isn't right.... Some club nights have a kind of speed dating event early on in the evening where people can sit and actually spend a couple minutes getting to know each other. Whether it's for dating, friendship, or whatever, this kind of event seems to facilitate actual communication which might lead to something more meaningful in the future... One thing to keep in mind at a BBW Dance, the most flamboyant person who is getting all the attention, isn't usually the one you are looking for....don't be distracted....go over and introduce yourself to the girl watching from the corner

05-14-2013, 07:21 AM	#1
svenmad2164 Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: planning to move to columbus ohio Posts: 21	dating in your mid 40s Hey guys,i am in my mid40s now,i went through a second divorce,about 4 years ago,i have a fear of dating now since the divorce,i went to one bbw dance and it was like what are you doing here? We dont want you,we dont need you go home,you are not good enough forus

05-14-2013, 10:31 PM	#2
RabbitScorpion Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 192	I have heard elsewhere that a lot of men find themselves unaccepted at BBW dances. BBWs, in general, have differences among each other in that they are looking for in a man. However, it would seem that most of the women who go to the dances are looking for hot dancers. They are looking for men who are athletic and not the least bit shy. A divorced "Dan Conner" who goes to a BBW dance is going back home alone with no phone numbers in his pocket. There are BBWs that would be interested in you - you just won't find them at a dance. __________________ Knot awl airs our cot buy spell Czech!

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05-17-2013, 06:30 AM	#3
Mysti Mountains SSBBW Goddess Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: NY and So Cal. Posts: 194	If it makes you feel any better, I have been to a few BBW dances myself, and it seems that the men hang out near the bar and watch everything going on, while the women get out and dance etc...Once I went with a sexy girlfriend and she and I sat and talked at a table without ever being approached...Once, I introduced myself to a guy who had walked in at the same time as us because he really looked like he wanted to dance...we did, and when it came time to give him my phone number and I walked to the bar to get a napkin to write on, a guy at the bar said "I'd like one of those" and I said "A napkin?" and he said "No, Your Number".... I took a married male videographer with me once, and he walked into the club a couple minutes ahead of me....by the time I got inside he said that he feared for his life because all of the women were trying to drag him to the dance floor. He was hiding behind the other men at the corner of the bar. Once again, no one approached me, and we played pool for a while and then left... There are people who go to BBW clubs who would really like to meet someone, but sometimes the atmosphere just isn't right.... Some club nights have a kind of speed dating event early on in the evening where people can sit and actually spend a couple minutes getting to know each other. Whether it's for dating, friendship, or whatever, this kind of event seems to facilitate actual communication which might lead to something more meaningful in the future... One thing to keep in mind at a BBW Dance, the most flamboyant person who is getting all the attention, isn't usually the one you are looking for....don't be distracted....go over and introduce yourself to the girl watching from the corner