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Old 02-21-2012, 08:09 PM   #26
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And as for why I'm posting in this thread?
Barracks-lawyer tendencies, I guess.

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Old 02-21-2012, 08:12 PM   #27
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If you're referring to a post I, personally, made on a different topic than the one you were primarily discussing -Rusty
I'm not. I have no idea what post you're talking about and, in fact, don't need to know what it is in order to make the point I'd like to make.
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Old 02-21-2012, 08:12 PM   #28
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I haven't been able to find anything, and I'm willing to concede if I'm wrong but has the FA/FFA boards similarly posted rules that request that if an FA/FFA requests that ONLY MEN (which would exclude FFAs by definition) respond, any posts from women would be considered disruptive (etc., etc.) so women would at least have a head's up that they're not welcome (even the FFAs) and the guys need their alone time in their caves rather than mods arbitrarily deleting posts made by women because they're women? And why if there isn't a rule like that, are so many women's posts summarily dismissed?

All things being equal, why should women have posts deleted after saying they're FFAs on the FA/FFA forums, but men NOT have posts deleted for saying, 'Awwwww honeybunch, don't worry about that guy--you're GORGEOUS, when she's talking about feeling insecure TO OTHER BBWs, rather than asking for compliments? Why can men argue that it's not the same thing or 'that's not what I meant', while at the same time, women's posts are deleted either without a word or told 'if you see your post missing it's because it's the FA forums' without the same allowances made for men in the BBW forums?
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Old 02-21-2012, 08:19 PM   #29
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I haven't been able to find anything, and I'm willing to concede if I'm wrong but has the FA/FFA boards similarly posted rules that request that if an FA/FFA requests that ONLY MEN (which would exclude FFAs by definition) respond, any posts from women would be considered disruptive (etc., etc.) so women would at least have a head's up that they're not welcome (even the FFAs) and the guys need their alone time in their caves rather than mods arbitrarily deleting posts made by women because they're women? And why if there isn't a rule like that, are so many women's posts summarily dismissed?

All things being equal, why should women have posts deleted after saying they're FFAs on the FA/FFA forums, but men NOT have posts deleted for saying, 'Awwwww honeybunch, don't worry about that guy--you're GORGEOUS, when she's talking about feeling insecure TO OTHER BBWs, rather than asking for compliments? Why can men argue that it's not the same thing or 'that's not what I meant', while at the same time, women's posts are deleted either without a word or told 'if you see your post missing it's because it's the FA forums' without the same allowances made for men in the BBW forums?
Cause women have to be patted on the head by the menfolk so they can let us know we are ok.
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Old 02-21-2012, 08:29 PM   #30
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I'm not. I have no idea what post you're talking about and, in fact, don't need to know what it is in order to make the point I'd like to make.
Miss Vickie (in her post) does, and linked to the thread.

I screwed up, there, and I again apologize.

So your point is that I, and generically all male posters, should go well above and beyond the intent of the posted rules. I concur in the sense of a cautionary, "think before you post -- is this REALLY helpful to the original or subsequent posters?" but expecting compliance with unwritten rules is problematic. Yes, I should know better (and almost always act like it), but J. Random Forumposter won't unless someone points him at the post with the rules.

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Old 02-21-2012, 08:43 PM   #31
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BBWs/BHMs and FAs/FFAs have a lot to learn from each other, and do so in a number of Dimension’s forums. However, there remain areas of discussion where FAs/FFAs can especially benefit from the shared experience of other FAs/FFAs.

Some of these areas tend to be repetitive for the journey of many FAs/FFAs; it therefore follows that serious threads relating to that journey be grouped in an accessible fashion.

Such topics include (but are not limited to):

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I appreciate that, CB, and the fact that you would be okay with a re-visitation of the rules, but I wonder why you posted in this thread, where the OP clearly asked for input from BBWs, if you have such close familiarity with the rules. Did you not know the rules at the time, and post in ignorance? Or did you willfully disregard them? You certainly weren't the only man with a Y chromosome to post in that thread, but you're the only one posting in this thread.

I was just wondering what you thought about that.
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Old 02-21-2012, 09:23 PM   #34
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So your point is that I, and generically all male posters, should go well above and beyond the intent of the posted rules.
No...to put it plainly, I guess my point is that I don't get why you generically, and all male posters want so badly to be someplace that a handful of women just told you they may not want you to be.

I do sense a sea change here at the BBW board. I'm not a mod, I don't want to be a mod (*shudder*), and I'm not trying to draft any legislation. But sometimes, it's just a drag to see a sausage party.
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So, lovely (ss)bbws of Dims - HELP! I think I'm gonna have to be the ideas person and have alternatives at hand when he realises some of his usual tricks won't work.
I was planning on responding but since I'm not a SSBBW, I decided to defer to my more plush sisters to share their experiences. I didn't report it at the time because, well, I don't often report posts unless they're egregiously rude. But it made me wonder, is all.

As much as I love the men, I do feel less comfortable posting here knowing that men are reading, and posting in response. Fortunately for me, I have other outlets for issues that I need to discuss with other women. But many of the women here don't. I think their need for a presumably "safe"(ish) space to post trumps the guys' need to weigh in.

But that's just my opinion.
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Old 02-21-2012, 09:31 PM   #36
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As much as I love the men, I do feel less comfortable posting here knowing that men are reading, and posting in response. Fortunately for me, I have other outlets for issues that I need to discuss with other women. But many of the women here don't. I think their need for a presumably "safe"(ish) space to post trumps the guys' need to weigh in.

But that's just my opinion.
Agreed. I've personally always thought there should be a private board for BBWs (similar to the SSBBW board but for all BBWs.)
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