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Join Date: Feb 2006
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I have a friend who use to be great shape, and she has slowly started to thicken. She used to be a cheerleader and compete in pageants as well. I can tell she is upset about it, but dont really know what to say to her.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
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In your place, i wouldn't say anything. I might compliment her from time to time on her outfit, or her hairdo, and tell her she looks nice, but other than that I'd leave it up to her. If she complains about gaining weight, you might tell her that beauty comes in all sizes and add that you think she looks attractive. Anything more would be overkill.
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Join Date: Feb 2006
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i have pics if anyone is interested
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If you don't have her direct consent to post those pictures here, then you will not be doing so. Thank you.
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Join Date: Jun 2008
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Thanks, AnnMarie. I always get squeamish when people post photos of others besides themselves. Even partners! That's just such a tenuous thing to do, and often outright unethical. I'd like to chime in that I would support a forum ban on posting "identifying" or "intimate" photos of anyone other than oneself or, with explicitly stated permission, a partner.
Regarding the original post...it's all about patience and positive support. Coming to grips with being fat in a fat-phobic society is very hard for most people, but with enough time and sincerity you can make a difference just by being a positive and enriching presence in a person's life. Last edited by Jim Miller; 06-24-2012 at 07:32 PM. Reason: Added quotation marks for clarity. |
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Join Date: Jun 2012
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Post the pics!
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