hot friend who is gaining

maynard · 06-24-2012, 08:22 AM

I have a friend who use to be great shape, and she has slowly started to thicken. She used to be a cheerleader and compete in pageants as well. I can tell she is upset about it, but dont really know what to say to her.

Dr. Feelgood · 06-24-2012, 08:40 AM

In your place, i wouldn't say anything. I might compliment her from time to time on her outfit, or her hairdo, and tell her she looks nice, but other than that I'd leave it up to her. If she complains about gaining weight, you might tell her that beauty comes in all sizes and add that you think she looks attractive. Anything more would be overkill.

maynard · 06-24-2012, 10:11 AM

i have pics if anyone is interested

AnnMarie · 06-24-2012, 10:17 AM

If you don't have her direct consent to post those pictures here, then you will not be doing so. Thank you.

/mod

Jim Miller · 06-24-2012, 07:31 PM

Thanks, AnnMarie. I always get squeamish when people post photos of others besides themselves. Even partners! That's just such a tenuous thing to do, and often outright unethical. I'd like to chime in that I would support a forum ban on posting "identifying" or "intimate" photos of anyone other than oneself or, with explicitly stated permission, a partner.

Regarding the original post...it's all about patience and positive support. Coming to grips with being fat in a fat-phobic society is very hard for most people, but with enough time and sincerity you can make a difference just by being a positive and enriching presence in a person's life.

KHayes666 · 07-01-2012, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Lord J Esq

Thanks, AnnMarie. I always get squeamish when people post photos of others besides themselves. Even partners! That's just such a tenuous thing to do, and often outright unethical. I'd like to chime in that I would support a forum ban on posting "identifying" or "intimate" photos of anyone other than oneself or, with explicitly stated permission, a partner.

Regarding the original post...it's all about patience and positive support. Coming to grips with being fat in a fat-phobic society is very hard for most people, but with enough time and sincerity you can make a difference just by being a positive and enriching presence in a person's life.

I post photos of myself and my fiancee and none of which are "intimate" other than a kiss or so. Unless you're talking about people posting intimate pictures of JUST their partners in which case I too always shake my head when someone does that....unless its in a couples thread or something.

mecob3 · 07-03-2012, 07:21 PM

Post the pics!

06-24-2012, 08:22 AM	#1
maynard Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 6	hot friend who is gaining I have a friend who use to be great shape, and she has slowly started to thicken. She used to be a cheerleader and compete in pageants as well. I can tell she is upset about it, but dont really know what to say to her.

06-24-2012, 08:40 AM	#2
Dr. Feelgood intellectual nerd Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: the Twilight Zone Posts: 4,588	In your place, i wouldn't say anything. I might compliment her from time to time on her outfit, or her hairdo, and tell her she looks nice, but other than that I'd leave it up to her. If she complains about gaining weight, you might tell her that beauty comes in all sizes and add that you think she looks attractive. Anything more would be overkill. __________________ Now all you women, Don't you come around Unless you weigh 'Bout fo' hundred pound... -- Dr. Feelgood & the Interns

06-24-2012, 10:17 AM	#4
AnnMarie ✰cuddly and terrifying✰ Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Twirly Girl Posts: 16,296	If you don't have her direct consent to post those pictures here, then you will not be doing so. Thank you. /mod __________________ So ... yeah.

06-24-2012, 07:31 PM	#5
Jim Miller Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: On Top of a Mountain Posts: 128	Thanks, AnnMarie. I always get squeamish when people post photos of others besides themselves. Even partners! That's just such a tenuous thing to do, and often outright unethical. I'd like to chime in that I would support a forum ban on posting "identifying" or "intimate" photos of anyone other than oneself or, with explicitly stated permission, a partner. Regarding the original post...it's all about patience and positive support. Coming to grips with being fat in a fat-phobic society is very hard for most people, but with enough time and sincerity you can make a difference just by being a positive and enriching presence in a person's life. Last edited by Jim Miller; 06-24-2012 at 07:32 PM. Reason: Added quotation marks for clarity.

06-24-2012, 10:11 AM	#3
maynard Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 6	i have pics if anyone is interested

07-03-2012, 07:21 PM	#7
mecob3 Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 6	Post the pics!