Anyone into D/s ?

BigBeautifulMe · 08-03-2012, 11:31 PM

Anyone here into bdsm? Raise your hand... that is, if it's not currently restrained.

I've sort of recently discovered that being a subbie is an interest of mine. I'm a noob to that community, doing what reading I can on the topic so I don't come off like a dumbass in those circles.

It's been my experience that soooo many of the FAs I meet are more submissive, so I'm also kind of curious how many here are dominant. It'll be interesting to see who posts in this thread.

penguin · 08-04-2012, 12:56 AM

I am, though I haven't been very active in the local kink scene since I had my daughter. I'll play at parties on both sides of the whip, but I prefer to submit within a relationship with a man, and dominate in a relationship with a woman.

seavixen · 08-04-2012, 04:21 AM

I'm a bit of a switch, but, as much as I love control in most other aspects of my life, I prefer the sub side much more sexually. It's not part of my lifestyle, though...just the occasional indulgence.

balletguy · 08-04-2012, 04:32 AM

great post...very much the sub here.

jason'sgottenfat · 08-04-2012, 10:43 AM

Yes and dominant,..........any volunteers ladies??????????

Rojodi · 08-04-2012, 12:24 PM

Yes I am. Dominant...

LinCanDo66 · 08-04-2012, 12:58 PM

Long-time subbie here. And yes, there are Dom FAs out there

BigBeautifulMe · 08-04-2012, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by LinCanDo66

Long-time subbie here. And yes, there are Dom FAs out there

Haha, I had no idea, Lin!

No wonder we get along so well, haha.

LinCanDo66 · 08-04-2012, 04:33 PM

Well if you see me wearing a collar out in public one day, don't be surprised!

Rojodi · 08-04-2012, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by LinCanDo66

Well if you see me wearing a collar out in public one day, don't be surprised!

Collar in public? (Quickly writing in the notebook)

danbsc29630 · 08-04-2012, 08:55 PM

I think we all have a little bdsm within us.

gnoom · 08-05-2012, 02:02 PM

Switch here too...

sweetfrancaise · 08-05-2012, 03:22 PM

I'm completely intrigued by the community, and have the sub fetishes too. I just, um, don't know how to get started (nor have anyone to start with...)

penguin · 08-05-2012, 05:14 PM

Sites like collarme and fetlife can be good places to get started, especially when looking for local groups. Most groups have "munches", which are casual get togethers, usually for a meal and/or a drink. Most go in street clothes, though some will have a kink twist to them, and it's about meeting others in a safe and friendly environment outside of the dungeon. There are lots of public events around the US, including weekend long events with workshops for people of all experience levels.

There are plenty of safe ways to meet other kinksters and to get involved in the local scene. Read a LOT, and remember that it's like a buffet - take what you like and ignore the rest. Or leave it til later. You don't have to put everything on your plate at once.

sweetfrancaise · 08-06-2012, 12:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by penguin

Sites like collarme and fetlife can be good places to get started, especially when looking for local groups. Most groups have "munches", which are casual get togethers, usually for a meal and/or a drink. Most go in street clothes, though some will have a kink twist to them, and it's about meeting others in a safe and friendly environment outside of the dungeon. There are lots of public events around the US, including weekend long events with workshops for people of all experience levels.

There are plenty of safe ways to meet other kinksters and to get involved in the local scene. Read a LOT, and remember that it's like a buffet - take what you like and ignore the rest. Or leave it til later. You don't have to put everything on your plate at once.

Thanks so much for the info!! I'm looking into them...

Rebel · 08-06-2012, 02:40 AM

Happy hunting! You'll have fun even just looking around trying to find out what you need to start asking about, and it gets better from there. Penguin's advice is dead on. If I were you, I would pester her for more clues and hints.
I am a dominant, and i absolutely adore topping big strong women. I hope to hear from you as you discover more about yourself an the Lifestyle i think you'll really come to love.

Miskatonic · 08-07-2012, 05:58 AM

I switch but I prefer to sub. I'm a decent dom, I guess... I just prefer to be the bitch

originaljohnny · 08-10-2012, 07:24 PM

Yep, dom here... No one ever suspects that, just because I'm "nice" and "sweet" on the outside.

CastingPearls · 08-10-2012, 09:52 PM

Switch...................

**largenlovely** · 08-11-2012, 10:34 AM

I'm not into the whole D/s thing but I prefer a man to be a little more dominant than myself

penguin · 08-11-2012, 08:52 PM

The thing to remember about kink, is that you can dabble with a little bit of it or a lot of it or sit at some point in between. You can add a bit of spice to your interactions or you can go for a very spicy dish. It's all completely customisable to your relationship and preferences

Webmaster · 08-12-2012, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by BigBeautifulMe

It's been my experience that soooo many of the FAs I meet are more submissive, so I'm also kind of curious how many here are dominant. It'll be interesting to see who posts in this thread.

It's been my experience that a good many of those who are intrigued by this can enjoy both sides, no matter how they inherently view themselves.

NancyGirl74 · 08-12-2012, 08:48 PM

I would say I'm a submissive...but only when I choose to be.

BigBeautifulMe · 08-12-2012, 09:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Webmaster

It's been my experience that a good many of those who are intrigued by this can enjoy both sides, no matter how they inherently view themselves.

Oh, I agree.

It can be fun to "switch" things up!

BBW_Curious1 · 08-18-2012, 07:58 AM

I'm a switch...sometimes it feels so good to be dominated and other times bad boy needs to be dommed.

08-03-2012, 11:31 PM	#1
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08-04-2012, 12:56 AM	#2
penguin Fnord Dimensions Supporter Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Posts: 5,249	I am, though I haven't been very active in the local kink scene since I had my daughter. I'll play at parties on both sides of the whip, but I prefer to submit within a relationship with a man, and dominate in a relationship with a woman. __________________ Wishlist because I like stuff

08-04-2012, 04:21 AM	#3
seavixen Ditz Extraordinaire Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: oregon Posts: 585	I'm a bit of a switch, but, as much as I love control in most other aspects of my life, I prefer the sub side much more sexually. It's not part of my lifestyle, though...just the occasional indulgence. __________________ I'd rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy.

08-04-2012, 10:43 AM	#5
jason'sgottenfat Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: tacoma wa Posts: 46	Yes,... Yes and dominant,..........any volunteers ladies??????????

08-04-2012, 12:24 PM	#6
Rojodi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 4,838	Yes I am. Dominant... __________________ "True evil is in viewing people as things, and not as people." Terry Pratchett

08-04-2012, 04:32 AM	#4
balletguy Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: I am not sure anymore Posts: 2,167	great post...very much the sub here.

08-04-2012, 12:58 PM	#7
LinCanDo66 Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 42	Long-time subbie here. And yes, there are Dom FAs out there

08-04-2012, 04:33 PM	#9
LinCanDo66 Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 42	Well if you see me wearing a collar out in public one day, don't be surprised!

08-04-2012, 08:55 PM	#11
danbsc29630 Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 168	I think we all have a little bdsm within us.

08-05-2012, 02:02 PM	#12
gnoom cencored by wife Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Rheingau / Germany. Posts: 364	Switch here too... __________________ Foxtrot, Uniform, Charlie, Kilo.

08-05-2012, 03:22 PM	#13
sweetfrancaise Join Date: May 2011 Location: Santa Clarita, CA Posts: 335	I'm completely intrigued by the community, and have the sub fetishes too. I just, um, don't know how to get started (nor have anyone to start with...) __________________ “I try to avoid looking forward or backward, and try to keep looking upward.”--Charlotte Brontë

08-05-2012, 05:14 PM	#14
penguin Fnord Dimensions Supporter Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Posts: 5,249	Sites like collarme and fetlife can be good places to get started, especially when looking for local groups. Most groups have "munches", which are casual get togethers, usually for a meal and/or a drink. Most go in street clothes, though some will have a kink twist to them, and it's about meeting others in a safe and friendly environment outside of the dungeon. There are lots of public events around the US, including weekend long events with workshops for people of all experience levels. There are plenty of safe ways to meet other kinksters and to get involved in the local scene. Read a LOT, and remember that it's like a buffet - take what you like and ignore the rest. Or leave it til later. You don't have to put everything on your plate at once. __________________ Wishlist because I like stuff

08-06-2012, 02:40 AM	#16
Rebel Long Time Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 201	Happy hunting! You'll have fun even just looking around trying to find out what you need to start asking about, and it gets better from there. Penguin's advice is dead on. If I were you, I would pester her for more clues and hints. I am a dominant, and i absolutely adore topping big strong women. I hope to hear from you as you discover more about yourself an the Lifestyle i think you'll really come to love.

08-07-2012, 05:58 AM	#17
Miskatonic Advanced Killbot Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Massachusetts. Posts: 414	I switch but I prefer to sub. I'm a decent dom, I guess... I just prefer to be the bitch

08-10-2012, 07:24 PM	#18
originaljohnny Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 28	Yep, dom here... No one ever suspects that, just because I'm "nice" and "sweet" on the outside.

08-10-2012, 09:52 PM	#19
CastingPearls Go Big Or Go Home Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Possum Grape, AR Posts: 15,178	Switch................... __________________ [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]http://castingpearls-blowingbubbles.blogspot.com/ Free me, free yourself A life of sacrifice controlled me But those promises I made No longer hold me Mercurial more wayward by the hour The shackles fall away I'm in your power People throw rocks at things that shine.

08-11-2012, 10:34 AM	#20
largenlovely Still a Fat Girl lol Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Mobile, Alabama Posts: 5,644	I'm not into the whole D/s thing but I prefer a man to be a little more dominant than myself

08-11-2012, 08:52 PM	#21
penguin Fnord Dimensions Supporter Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Posts: 5,249	The thing to remember about kink, is that you can dabble with a little bit of it or a lot of it or sit at some point in between. You can add a bit of spice to your interactions or you can go for a very spicy dish. It's all completely customisable to your relationship and preferences __________________ Wishlist because I like stuff

08-12-2012, 08:48 PM	#23
NancyGirl74 Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 2,997	I would say I'm a submissive...but only when I choose to be.

08-18-2012, 07:58 AM	#25
BBW_Curious1 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: North Carolina Posts: 55	I'm a switch...sometimes it feels so good to be dominated and other times bad boy needs to be dommed.