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Old 09-23-2012, 02:03 PM   #26
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If they only knew, sure would saved them lot's of stress and hassle, figuring out that men don't want skinny skinny.

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Please rephrase that :P Not all men want BBWS.

Some of us like variety.
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Old 09-23-2012, 06:42 PM   #27
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Please rephrase that :P Not all men want BBWS.

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He did not say ALL men and considering this is posted in the FA/FFA Forum about BBW's on a BIG site, I think it was stated just fine.
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Well the way I saw it the message seemed that way when he used the term men.
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Confidence is at the top of traits anyone can have and nothing is more appealing than a bbw with confidence! I have experienced dating bbw's who were always on one diet or another and doing this new diet and that new diet and wanting to lose weight for whatever their reasons, and it just gets so tiring dealing with a girl who "will be happy when..." (fill in the blank) (when I am a size_____) (when I get down to ______lbs) and until they reach their goal they are unhappy with themselves and their body image. Thanks to places like dims, bbw and ssbbw have learned their are men who love them just the way they are.
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Confidence is at the top of traits anyone can have and nothing is more appealing than a bbw with confidence! I have experienced dating bbw's who were always on one diet or another and doing this new diet and that new diet and wanting to lose weight for whatever their reasons, and it just gets so tiring dealing with a girl who "will be happy when..." (fill in the blank) (when I am a size_____) (when I get down to ______lbs) and until they reach their goal they are unhappy with themselves and their body image. Thanks to places like dims, bbw and ssbbw have learned their are men who love them just the way they are.
And it's so silly, they go on a diet and then they come back bigger than ever and hating themselves even more. Diets are so pointless and depraving. Just live life!
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Can't say I've ever been in that situation before, unfortunately I've never been fortunate enough to find a girl who was bbw. However with my own family I've seen that situation come up time and time again where various family members couldn't believe said person would date someone that fat.
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If it's a devilish pleasure for you to watch somebody simultaneously unhappy with her own body AND confused and frustrated while seeing another woman with a man she likes, i'd say Girl A has dodged a bullet and Girl B is going to have to learn the hard way.

Also, what you personally don't want isn't the same as what all men want. Some DO want skinny skinny and some want Girl B to be 300 pounds heavier.

While I can understand being excited about hooking up with a fat girl, I don't understand why you'd get actual enjoyment out of rejecting somebody else. There have been probably hundreds of posts from FA on this board who are sad, frustrated, angry, and sometimes outright depressed that they have a girlfriend or wife who has many great qualities but to whom they're not attracted. Many frustrated FA seek advice as to how to handle a difficult situation along the lines of "my girlfriend is a nice person with good values and we have a lot in common but I troll fat porn sites every day and fantasize about her being SSBBW."

But you....you enjoy rejecting a woman who likes you. Sorry but that's messed up.
I suppose I could see where your coming from here; but all the same it's more complicated than that. I've had numerous times in life where I've said no to certain girls and they wondered why, and when pressed on the issue I told them the full truth (mind you as tactfully as possible). The problem is in our society some girls won't take no for an answer and then when I've told them the full unadulterated truth as tactfully as possible about what I find attractive and why I am not interested in them, many girls become downright hostile, or condescending, and it gets old after a while dealing with that. Normally I wouldn't want to make anyone feel bad or put down anyone in a social setting, but sometimes some people have it coming to them. When a few girls wouldn't just shut up or leave me alone then yea, if it's the final blow that sometimes needs to be inflicted to keep them from bothering you any more. It's not a devilish pleasure but rather an annoyance. It can become a devilish pleasure though if she pisses me off enough, and she won't leave me alone.
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I recall going out with a really good guy friend of mine once, to the movies. He is quite a handsome guy. I remember in the theater, one of the two girls behind us said, "What is HE doing with a fat chick like that?" I wouldn't consider dating him, he is pretty much my brother...but at that moment, he put his arm around me and I leaned into him, turned back to them and gave them a very rude smile. We had a good laugh about it later and I am very thankful for protective friends. Girls like that amaze me constantly.
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It's been a while; hope this thread is still active. This is gonna be a two parter as I've had some recent observations I thought would be interesting and clever so here goes:

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Confidence is at the top of traits anyone can have and nothing is more appealing than a bbw with confidence! I have experienced dating bbw's who were always on one diet or another and doing this new diet and that new diet and wanting to lose weight for whatever their reasons, and it just gets so tiring dealing with a girl who "will be happy when..." (fill in the blank) (when I am a size_____) (when I get down to ______lbs) and until they reach their goal they are unhappy with themselves and their body image. Thanks to places like dims, bbw and ssbbw have learned their are men who love them just the way they are.
Boston I couldn't agree more. Having confidence should be the name of the game for BOTH genders and irregardless of how big or small someone is. I don't know if you are all aware at all of Coen Nanning's
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https://www.youtube.com/user/curvyshrine/videos

Having confidence is integral to having a healthy relationship because if you are not confident before you enter a relationship, chances are you never will be. You will always find something about yourself that you don't like; (eg. my hair is too short, nose too long, front tooth gap etc), sometimes you just need to roll with it...

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Really, it's because she's been told her whole life that she's ugly.
And that if she just got thin enough, all the men would love her.

And it's completely against the societal grain. Dieting companies make billions every year and I get enough crap just by refusing to go on a diet--my family is always pushing me to start one.

That said, I've been rejected from plenty of guys just for being "too fucking fat and ugly"--so no, rejection is never nice, nobody enjoys being part of it.

But it is important to be an ambassador of the culture rather than treating her like crap.

And honestly, she's not jealous of fat girls. She's assuming that you're predatory, using fat women, or going after fat women because you can demand sex from them the first night. That's honestly the look she's giving you.
"You just want to date her because she's your FETISH."
Nenona, bluntly my dear, you need to get over it. Being an FA is NOT a fetish as soo many people would like to characterize it; it is a preference. For some a gaining or feederism fetish might develop from liking bigger women, but we are not all predatory, and I would dare say the majority aren't, we like what we like; it's no different if someone liked blondes, or tall people, or people with broad shoulders etc. To continue to characterize it as such, is disingenuous and it does damage not only to FAs, but to women who might possibly find them attractive.
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On to part two: As part of a prelude I do have some good news. In the intervening time since this thread first started I've finally met someone (yay!) as of July 2012; the time frame is off slightly cause I didn't get serious with her until after my first post, barely. Anyways my gf and I frequent Planet Fitness in the town I live. My gf is only like a size 18 at most soo she's not really all that big, and from time to time she comes with me late at night to work out. We both have school Mon-Wed and the Uni we got to and so late at night it's a nice bonding time to be in one another's company.

Long story short when I go by myself I like to go late at night because I am kind of an introvert and I don't really like being around a whole lot of people; it's just easier fewer gym rats, fewer distractions, people using machines etc. I've noticed over the past few weeks there are a few girls who frequent the gym at relatively the same time every night. I am polite in passing, but it seems evident to me that one of them in particular likes me because she's usually much more gregarious with me. My gf doesn't come often, but this last week was the first time they both crossed paths, and perhaps not directly to my ladies' face, but to me when I ran into her the next time she had this look of disapproval scrawled across her face insinuating, " Why oh why are you with her? You could do soo much better".

The whole time I was there she gave me that look whenever I'd happen upon her looking our way. Since then when I run into her, she's given me a look of indifference, and I'm assuming it's because of that night. Even with subtle things like that some thin girls make known their disapproval, even when it doesn't really affect them, and to me what she did was rude; that is extremely rude. My gf is just trying to get more in shape, and people are always talking about how fatter folk need to exercise more. Well when someone who cares about his gf brings her to the gym cause she wants to go, we're met with this. It's ridiculous. Christ this looks like a wall of text.
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Since then when I run into her, she's given me a look of indifference, and I'm assuming it's because of that night. Even with subtle things like that some thin girls make known their disapproval, even when it doesn't really affect them, and to me what she did was rude; that is extremely rude.
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When seen with a BBW, the reactions very from taking multiple multi-takes to puzzlement to shock.The multi-takes being the most common for me. That is the reaction for thin women seeing my partner.It was fairly common for thin women to assume that I was not there with the BBW next to me.

Of the times that I have verbally said in front of thin women that I prefer fat women, the most common reaction is the assumption I am joking.The facial expressions are usually somewhere between shock and disgust. Every time I have said this there has been a BBW present, because I feel more women should hear it…if your wondering the BBW usually also looks puzzled, asks me to repeat what I said (in case they misheard or something), and then seems to pay more attention to me than before.That doesn’t always happen though.I have seen it where the BBW also seems disgusted, though I assume it maybe related to an esteem issue.
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Ah, it's the old, old story -- by Aesop, in fact. A fox spied a cluster of ripe grapes and wore himself out jumping for them, to no avail. "I wouldn't like them," he told himself, "They're probably sour." And every time he passed the grapes he gave them a look of indifference.
Dr. Feelgood I'm not entirely sure exactly what your alluding to here.
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I've seen that. Alot of thin boring bodied chicks think their what I want and their not. If the looked like these lovelies I would.
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When seen with a BBW, the reactions very from taking multiple multi-takes to puzzlement to shock.The multi-takes being the most common for me. That is the reaction for thin women seeing my partner.It was fairly common for thin women to assume that I was not there with the BBW next to me.

Of the times that I have verbally said in front of thin women that I prefer fat women, the most common reaction is the assumption I am joking.The facial expressions are usually somewhere between shock and disgust. Every time I have said this there has been a BBW present, because I feel more women should hear it…if your wondering the BBW usually also looks puzzled, asks me to repeat what I said (in case they misheard or something), and then seems to pay more attention to me than before.That doesn’t always happen though.I have seen it where the BBW also seems disgusted, though I assume it maybe related to an esteem issue.
I get that a lot. Kickback if you will... from my girlfriend. She just can't seem to understand why I find her soo attractive. She thinks of herself as being hideous, and even when she glimpses herself in the mirror she can't stand the look of it. I find it bothersome to say the least. But that's just part of the problem, soo many of these girls get jealous cause they assume
we all like the same thing. I think the biggest challenge for FA/FFAs out there is to make people aware of the fact that we really do indeed find larger men/women attractive; how to go about that though, beats the hell
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I had a thin female friend who comes from a wealthy, snobby family one time tell me that she couldn't get with a certain guy because his family didn't have the right genetics. Needless to say, we are not friends anymore.
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And it's so silly, they go on a diet and then they come back bigger than ever and hating themselves even more. Diets are so pointless and depraving. Just live life!
My girlfriend does this as well. Although usually it's in relation to the fact that she refuses to buy new clothes cause either she thinks she's won't look good in them, or she's planning to lose the weight; and then she never does. I think part of feeling good about how you look also has a lot to do with how willing you are to just "use what you have" too. It's always better even if you don't fully like how you look, to at least make an effort to look nice.
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My girlfriend does this as well. Although usually it's in relation to the fact that she refuses to buy new clothes cause either she thinks she's won't look good in them, or she's planning to lose the weight; and then she never does. I think part of feeling good about how you look also has a lot to do with how willing you are to just "use what you have" too. It's always better even if you don't fully like how you look, to at least make an effort to look nice.
Totally agree. From a purely selfish, 'FA' point of view, I've always lamented the tendency of many BBWs to 'give up' on their self-presentation. I get that this is often a symptom of low self-esteem... but it's a vicious cycle. And BBWs who present themselves confidently and attractively rather than in drab T-shirts or whatever are, I've observed over the years, a lot more likely to attract men - whether genuine FAs or just open-minded guys who respond to a woman who radiates self-confidence. In short, people should just rock whatever it is they've got; there's no such thing as a 'hopeless case.'
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Just chipping in here to point out that there is huge stigma attached to fat women that we need to 'make up for' being fat by being beautifully presented all the time. Whilst I understand that isn't what you guys are saying, you have to understand that women, and especially fat women, face a lot of pressure to be well presented and beautiful so hearing men who like BBW complain about those of us who don't want to put in the effort to look well presented every day can be quite damaging. Especially to imply that if we don't feel like spending an hour dressing up every day we must have low self esteem. Like I said, I understand that wasn't what you were trying to say but I feel it needs to be pointed out.

Also, I'm a BBW who generally goes for comfort over style and doesn't do hair/makeup etc... and I've never had a problem attracting men. I honestly think a lot of attraction is based on confidence, personality and having a reasonably attractive face. But that is just my opinion.
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Just chipping in here to point out that there is huge stigma attached to fat women that we need to 'make up for' being fat by being beautifully presented all the time. Whilst I understand that isn't what you guys are saying, you have to understand that women, and especially fat women, face a lot of pressure to be well presented and beautiful so hearing men who like BBW complain about those of us who don't want to put in the effort to look well presented every day can be quite damaging. Especially to imply that if we don't feel like spending an hour dressing up every day we must have low self esteem. Like I said, I understand that wasn't what you were trying to say but I feel it needs to be pointed out.

Also, I'm a BBW who generally goes for comfort over style and doesn't do hair/makeup etc... and I've never had a problem attracting men. I honestly think a lot of attraction is based on confidence, personality and having a reasonably attractive face. But that is just my opinion.
I apologize if I came off as being perceived to say such that women, especially larger women need to always look their best; heaven only knows in society people care too much about the outside appearance, even sometimes I am guilty of that sin; both wanting to look good, or wishing my gf put in more effort before going out. I think the jist I was aiming for was barring society at some point everyone has to come to terms with what they look like, just as bostonbbwluv said or else they'll never come to terms with thinking of themselves as worthwhile or worthy, whatever that really means anymore. The problem in society is that the goalposts are always changing... I think it's better to just find something that makes you happy and everyone/everything else be damned.
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Just chipping in here to point out that there is huge stigma attached to fat women that we need to 'make up for' being fat by being beautifully presented all the time. Whilst I understand that isn't what you guys are saying, you have to understand that women, and especially fat women, face a lot of pressure to be well presented and beautiful so hearing men who like BBW complain about those of us who don't want to put in the effort to look well presented every day can be quite damaging. Especially to imply that if we don't feel like spending an hour dressing up every day we must have low self esteem. Like I said, I understand that wasn't what you were trying to say but I feel it needs to be pointed out.

Also, I'm a BBW who generally goes for comfort over style and doesn't do hair/makeup etc... and I've never had a problem attracting men. I honestly think a lot of attraction is based on confidence, personality and having a reasonably attractive face. But that is just my opinion.
Loopy I think in general in our society both thin and fat people alike are judged a lot more harshly for how they look/present themselves; but I chalk it up to the nature of the "beast" soo to speak. In general male sexual psychology is such that how a woman presents herself is going to have a big impact on how men perceive her self-confidence (we're visual). Once again self-confidence is key; for both genders, any size. If you don't have it, it's like trying to play the game of life a few cards short of a deck of 52.
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Old thread but I had a couple fresh thoughts on this subject.

I've had a few really fit/athletic girls make some really interesting comments to me in this past year. A couple have hinted that if my wife and I were "into this sort of thing" they'd be open to it too. The interest is oriented more toward my wife than me.

At a recent formal event involving co-workers, a very athletic co-worker who's met my wife asked me where she was. When I told her she didn't come she expressed disappointment and said, "I was really looking forward to seeing her all dolled up." There was definitely some interest and disappointment in her voice.

Another athletic co-worker was surprised when I told her I like bigger girls and that I'm married to one. Surprised, but understanding I should say. A few days later she confessed to me she dialed up some porn with fit men and big women and said she "gets it" now. That it was such an awesome combination. A few weeks after that she met my wife and a couple times I caught her staring, her eyes dazzling.

At the same time I've observed all of these I've also seen looks of contempt and disgust from other, fit women. And I also get lots of approving looks from other bigger women who see me out and about with my wife. My conclusion? There's just no one universally right answer. I've observed enough fit/athletic women display intrigue and disgust alike. They think like individuals, not as a block.

But it's always nice when they display intrigue, curiosity and even admiration.
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Old thread but I had a couple fresh thoughts on this subject.

I've had a few really fit/athletic girls make some really interesting comments to me in this past year. A couple have hinted that if my wife and I were "into this sort of thing" they'd be open to it too. The interest is oriented more toward my wife than me.

At a recent formal event involving co-workers, a very athletic co-worker who's met my wife asked me where she was. When I told her she didn't come she expressed disappointment and said, "I was really looking forward to seeing her all dolled up." There was definitely some interest and disappointment in her voice.

Another athletic co-worker was surprised when I told her I like bigger girls and that I'm married to one. Surprised, but understanding I should say. A few days later she confessed to me she dialed up some porn with fit men and big women and said she "gets it" now. That it was such an awesome combination. A few weeks after that she met my wife and a couple times I caught her staring, her eyes dazzling.

At the same time I've observed all of these I've also seen looks of contempt and disgust from other, fit women. And I also get lots of approving looks from other bigger women who see me out and about with my wife. My conclusion? There's just no one universally right answer. I've observed enough fit/athletic women display intrigue and disgust alike. They think like individuals, not as a block.

But it's always nice when they display intrigue, curiosity and even admiration.
I was once asked about, why an athletic guy would be into fat women? The athletic guy will spend a lot of effort weightlifting, exercising, and eating a healthy diet. And then turn around and go nuts for a fat woman who doesn't do any of that.

I will give my theory while ignoring all of the awesomeness of fat women. As a guy who has in the past been super athletic (still exercise and eat a healthy diet but far less strict). It takes a lot of effort to maintain a very low amount of body fat. By contrast, to maintain a weight of, lets just say 300 pounds. It requires eating a lot more calories. It took effort to get to that weight, even though that is really not how the BBW or BHM saw it as they were eating.

Not just that though. From your examples, I am assuming the athletic women you are referring to have a low amount of body fat, and are severely restricting there calories. I use to run marathons, after long runs I would feel hungry for days. If part of their motivation to exercise is to attract a partner, they might look at your wife, and wish they could eat whatever they wanted and still get an attractive guy. They could see her as a person who gets to give into temptation, that they deprive themselves of.

Personally I have grown to love seeing peoples reactions to being in public with BBWs. I am showing I am in a relationship with someone I am super attracted to. My girlfriends Feabie account says she weighs 350. She is a pear. Also drop dead beautiful! She usually wears yoga pants or leggings in public. I do PDA with her frequently. It dawns on a lot of people that I am attracted to her. I am showing off, in my view anyways.

Reading you comment,"A few days later she confessed to me she dialed up some porn with fit men and big women and said she "gets it" now. That it was such an awesome combination." Did you just create a FFA?
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I was once asked about, why an athletic guy would be into fat women? The athletic guy will spend a lot of effort weightlifting, exercising, and eating a healthy diet. And then turn around and go nuts for a fat woman who doesn't do any of that.

I will give my theory while ignoring all of the awesomeness of fat women. As a guy who has in the past been super athletic (still exercise and eat a healthy diet but far less strict). It takes a lot of effort to maintain a very low amount of body fat. By contrast, to maintain a weight of, lets just say 300 pounds. It requires eating a lot more calories. It took effort to get to that weight, even though that is really not how the BBW or BHM saw it as they were eating.

Not just that though. From your examples, I am assuming the athletic women you are referring to have a low amount of body fat, and are severely restricting there calories. I use to run marathons, after long runs I would feel hungry for days. If part of their motivation to exercise is to attract a partner, they might look at your wife, and wish they could eat whatever they wanted and still get an attractive guy. They could see her as a person who gets to give into temptation, that they deprive themselves of.

Personally I have grown to love seeing peoples reactions to being in public with BBWs. I am showing I am in a relationship with someone I am super attracted to. My girlfriends Feabie account says she weighs 350. She is a pear. Also drop dead beautiful! She usually wears yoga pants or leggings in public. I do PDA with her frequently. It dawns on a lot of people that I am attracted to her. I am showing off, in my view anyways.

Reading you comment,"A few days later she confessed to me she dialed up some porn with fit men and big women and said she "gets it" now. That it was such an awesome combination." Did you just create a FFA?
I've encountered that same line of questioning about why a fit male would be interested in a fat woman. I even started a thread on it a while back. I've encountered it from other fit males who want fit women as their partners. I don't blame them for having their preferences but I've also seen plenty take it to nasty levels regarding overweight women. The same goes for some of the fit women I've encountered. Unlike those in the examples above some fit women I've met assume a fit guy has "issues" if he's interested in fat women. And sadly, I've encountered some women who were themselves overweight be suspicious of why a fit guy wanted a fat partner. People are literally all over the map!

As for the athletic women in my examples, I'd guess they actually eat a solid number of calories because they're both actually pretty muscular. I watched one of them pull a 250 pound DL in fact. But they also seem to appreciate a female body with a little more softness to it. My wife is more hourglass: big boobs, relatively small waist, big hips/rear end. That's classic hourglass, save for when most say hourglass "thin" is an assumption. I don't buy that, I think an hourglass can be thick too. And like your girlfriend, my wife also will wear yoga pants and skinny jeans in public. I am not shy about my attraction to her in public and like you, often go so far as to "showing off" because she chose me.
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I was once asked about, why an athletic guy would be into fat women? The athletic guy will spend a lot of effort weightlifting, exercising, and eating a healthy diet. And then turn around and go nuts for a fat woman who doesn't do any of that.

I will give my theory while ignoring all of the awesomeness of fat women. As a guy who has in the past been super athletic (still exercise and eat a healthy diet but far less strict). It takes a lot of effort to maintain a very low amount of body fat. By contrast, to maintain a weight of, lets just say 300 pounds. It requires eating a lot more calories. It took effort to get to that weight, even though that is really not how the BBW or BHM saw it as they were eating.

Not just that though. From your examples, I am assuming the athletic women you are referring to have a low amount of body fat, and are severely restricting there calories. I use to run marathons, after long runs I would feel hungry for days. If part of their motivation to exercise is to attract a partner, they might look at your wife, and wish they could eat whatever they wanted and still get an attractive guy. They could see her as a person who gets to give into temptation, that they deprive themselves of.

Personally I have grown to love seeing peoples reactions to being in public with BBWs. I am showing I am in a relationship with someone I am super attracted to. My girlfriends Feabie account says she weighs 350. She is a pear. Also drop dead beautiful! She usually wears yoga pants or leggings in public. I do PDA with her frequently. It dawns on a lot of people that I am attracted to her. I am showing off, in my view anyways.

Reading you comment,"A few days later she confessed to me she dialed up some porn with fit men and big women and said she "gets it" now. That it was such an awesome combination." Did you just create a FFA?
Fueling fire I think that's it; plain and simple. These women are just jealous. They want to leverage the fact that they think they're attractive to most (if not all males) based solely on their thinness/fitness. Just because someone is fit doesn't mean they necessarily desire to be with someone fit themselves. It reminds me of this interesting video I saw on youtube recently. I watch TYT/Thinktank and one of the interviewers I think put it succinctly; see here:

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It was Chelsey Bex who said it most tellingly. If you look for the part where she talks about being agitated people found her more attractive when she was slightly more chubby it goes to show you that some people have a double standard in that respect. They want people to find them attractive at the size they WANT to be rather than what the person they're attracted to (the object of their affection) actually finds attractive. Some of these girls (and I'm NOT saying ALL GIRLS Loopy, LovesBHMS, Nenona) want to have their cake; and metaphorically eat it too. It doesn't work like that. If you accept the idea that men have different "types" that they're attracted to you have to accept the fact that sometimes fit OR fat or not you may not be their cup of tea.
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There is a lot to respond to in these videos. I noticed everyone in the videos were thin. I think they spent to much time defending thinner people in this. And very little saying that people should be able to be okay with how they look. Self esteem was barely mentioned. A lot of it was hard to listen to. My FAness is very deeply engrained in who I am. I have found over time, I have become less tolerant of people fat shaming. They almost got their message right. People should stop worrying about looking, how society, men, women, and fashion the industry says they should. They danced around it, which you might be able to say they implied it.

I almost feel jealous might be too strong of a word for this. Other than happily_married last two posts, which imply admiration. There was a girl who said she felt sluggish when she has an extra ten pounds on.

I almost feel like this analogy might give the thin athletic view point. A woman work very hard to achieve this body that meets society’s view of beauty. Then she sees an attractive guy go after a girl who clearly doesn’t care about taking care of herself. This would be like a woman who worked hard to gain a million dollar wealth, only to see an attractive guy who wants to be with a poor person. It would be a head scratcher.
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