The story of how Chris and I became a couple is kinda strange. It just so happens that he was looking through a bbw gallery and writing all the girls that he thought were pretty. When I received his email, I just had this weird feeling. My heart said this is the guy you are going to marry. My head said you've not even read the whole thing yet. The email consisted of a short autobiography of him and a note just saying that he thought I was pretty. I emailed him back with my short auto biography and then told him thank you for the compliment.
The next day he wrote me asking me to wish him luck because he was getting really liked this girl at work and was going to try to get the nerve up to ask her out. That evening he wrote me telling me that she said no. He was 24 and she was only 17 and she said her parents just would not allow it. He was really upset because he felt like he was going to be alone forever. I told him that love will hit him when he least expected it and (this is a big cheesy line but I was trying to cheer him up) it would carry him away on a magic carpet ride. He told me that if I ever did the magic carpet thing to come his way.
The next day would be the last day I could email him because I had no internet or computer for that matter at home. We happened to switch phone numbers and addresses so that we could keep in touch over the summer. I travelled home that day, but I just could not help but think that he was such a nice guy and I did not want to lose his friendship. It was less than a week after our first email and I already felt like I knew everything about him. I knew of his most recent (a year prior) breakup with a girl that he loved. He had proposed to her and she said yes, but not too long later left him because she decided that she was a lesbian. I guess that is why a year later he was still feeling lonely and upset about not having someone. I knew that he really liked someone who turned him down just a couple days earlier. I also knew his interests, where he lived, and his personality. He was just all around a good guy that I wanted to know a little better.
Being that I did not want to lose touch, I called him that evening when I got home. I told him who I was and he was really surprised because he was expecting us to just do snail mail. We talked for a few hours that night. By the middle of the conversation he was coughing the words I love you. He just kept doing it being silly, but he was serious. I just kept saying what..what...what. He would cough it again. Then he told me seriously. He said, "Michelle, I love you." I was dumbfounded. This is the first conversation I had with him and he loves me. I felt the same way so I told him that I love him too. So by the end of the conversation (May 15, 1996) we decided to be a couple in a long distance romance.
A week later he was in the chat room while we talked on the phone. On the net he talked to my friends. telling them what happened to us. They were so happy. They teased him telling him he had better propose. He said, "Do you want me to?" I said, "Sure if you want to!" So he asked me and I accepted. We met each other two weeks after we got engaged.
To try making this story a little short. He visited and we had a GREAT time. He almost broke up with me in July because after meeting me the stress of being apart was killing him. We both cried for many hours that night until he decided that he loved me to much and didn't want to hurt me. He decided he could bear the pain of being apart more than the pain of knowing he had hurt me. We spent the next 6 month apart talking on the phone on a schedule during the summer. On the net and through email and by phone at school. In November he came to visit me in college. It was the most wonderful weekend. He gave me my engagement ring to make our engagement even more official. The weekend was magical but soon we parted again and lived with the pain once more.
Christmas and my birthday were horrible because I could not be with him. I felt depressed and refused to come out of my bedroom. I just cried all day until I got to hear his voice. I told him I could not handle another holiday without him so I immediately started making plans to be with him on Valentine's Day. I went to see him on Valentine's Day and for his birthday. And just a month an a half later it was FINALLY time for me to move there. We lived together from May to December before we got married. Finally on Dec 2nd in a not so fancy county vault we were married by the county clerk. We didn't care that it was a puny 30 dollar wedding. We finally were married and we cried our eyes out just like it was a 50,000 dollar wedding with our whole gang present. We had us and our friend Dawn (the girl he had asked out after we started emailing) and a vault. We've now been married 5 months and could not be happier.