^^^ That's one question. I'm mostly wondering about the other FFAs, but BHMs are welcome to answer, too.
The reason I ask: lately, I've found that this board satisfies several of my needs that regular life just can't seem to satiate, and I want to know if others are in a similar position.
Basically, I've noticed that my fetishes for BHM and BBW are getting more extreme...but they can't be fulfilled, since I'm married, and the guy is not quite a BHM. He also says he wants nothing to do with my fantasies. :/ So pretty much every day, I find myself bouncing back and forth between the BHM, GLBT and Weight boards, as well as the library, trolling around for stimulating material. EVERY DAY. It used to be only once a week or so.
Some people have asked why I didn't just hook up with a BHM or BBW who was into all the same stuff in the first place. Well, it's just not that simple! You think I didn't try?? There's a long list of qualities that I absolutely need in a partner (and I'm a fucking weird chick, so the qualities are weird too), and there have only been 2-3 people who have ever possessed a significant number of them - "fat" and "loves having their fat groped" never seem to accompany any of the other stuff! Why this happens, I have no idea....anyone care to shed some light?
So another question: do you (FFAs, gay FAs) find that it's more difficult to find a fat guy who has your ideal personality/interests/style/etc? It's infinitely harder, for me. I like lists, so here are the issues in list format:
1. There's this specific "look" of a guy's face that drives me wild - thin guys (and my husband) sometimes have it, but fat guys rarely ever do.
2. Over the years, I have found many thin guys who have my EXACT taste in music.....but zero fat guys.
3. It's often a good idea to meet potential partners in the places you frequent, right? Yeah...no fat guys there. I have had several regular haunts, and the only fat guys I found tended to be "that fat guy." You know, the creepy one who lives in his mom's basement and doesn't bathe? Yeah, him.
4. The best looking fat guys had BBW girlfriends, and didn't appear to be interested in thin women (happened soooooo many times). So no chance to even find out if we were compatible.
5. I have worked with a few REALLY attractive fat guys in various labs over the years. Problem is, once their lab coats come off, they are wearing clothes that are totally unappealing to me, and when they stop talking science (our commonality), we have nothing in common (and they bore me). Or they were religious, which I don't even get, coming from scientists!
6. The few fat guys who were hot, clean, and into decent music/movies/games/etc DID NOT WANT TO BE TOUCHED. At all. You can kiss them, and they want to fuck you....but somehow, in the process, your hands must stay off anything between the neck and the cock. WTF? I can't live like that.
Ok, this is turning out to be the longest post in my Dims history, but it's been in the making for years. Do you FFAs get what I'm saying, or am I the only freak who dealt with these problems? I know I'm off the market and none of this technically matters anymore...but it still annoys me to remember the years of futile searching, disappointment and rejection.
If you read all of this - thanks! (even more thanks if you have some answers!)
The reason I ask: lately, I've found that this board satisfies several of my needs that regular life just can't seem to satiate, and I want to know if others are in a similar position.
Basically, I've noticed that my fetishes for BHM and BBW are getting more extreme...but they can't be fulfilled, since I'm married, and the guy is not quite a BHM. He also says he wants nothing to do with my fantasies. :/ So pretty much every day, I find myself bouncing back and forth between the BHM, GLBT and Weight boards, as well as the library, trolling around for stimulating material. EVERY DAY. It used to be only once a week or so.
Some people have asked why I didn't just hook up with a BHM or BBW who was into all the same stuff in the first place. Well, it's just not that simple! You think I didn't try?? There's a long list of qualities that I absolutely need in a partner (and I'm a fucking weird chick, so the qualities are weird too), and there have only been 2-3 people who have ever possessed a significant number of them - "fat" and "loves having their fat groped" never seem to accompany any of the other stuff! Why this happens, I have no idea....anyone care to shed some light?
So another question: do you (FFAs, gay FAs) find that it's more difficult to find a fat guy who has your ideal personality/interests/style/etc? It's infinitely harder, for me. I like lists, so here are the issues in list format:
1. There's this specific "look" of a guy's face that drives me wild - thin guys (and my husband) sometimes have it, but fat guys rarely ever do.
2. Over the years, I have found many thin guys who have my EXACT taste in music.....but zero fat guys.
3. It's often a good idea to meet potential partners in the places you frequent, right? Yeah...no fat guys there. I have had several regular haunts, and the only fat guys I found tended to be "that fat guy." You know, the creepy one who lives in his mom's basement and doesn't bathe? Yeah, him.
4. The best looking fat guys had BBW girlfriends, and didn't appear to be interested in thin women (happened soooooo many times). So no chance to even find out if we were compatible.
5. I have worked with a few REALLY attractive fat guys in various labs over the years. Problem is, once their lab coats come off, they are wearing clothes that are totally unappealing to me, and when they stop talking science (our commonality), we have nothing in common (and they bore me). Or they were religious, which I don't even get, coming from scientists!
6. The few fat guys who were hot, clean, and into decent music/movies/games/etc DID NOT WANT TO BE TOUCHED. At all. You can kiss them, and they want to fuck you....but somehow, in the process, your hands must stay off anything between the neck and the cock. WTF? I can't live like that.
Ok, this is turning out to be the longest post in my Dims history, but it's been in the making for years. Do you FFAs get what I'm saying, or am I the only freak who dealt with these problems? I know I'm off the market and none of this technically matters anymore...but it still annoys me to remember the years of futile searching, disappointment and rejection.
If you read all of this - thanks! (even more thanks if you have some answers!)
