fuelingfire
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http://www.refinery29.com/plus-size-women-dating-app-profile
I found this from Plus Model Magazines Facebook pages link. Its by Laura Delarato. These are my thoughts on the article, but was wondering what others thought.
As a FA I cringed while reading a lot of this article.
It makes full sense for her to want to be seen as a woman rather than a fat woman. Despite how much I write on Dims about fat women, I usually dont think of any of my partners that I have had as being fat either. Its not a rejection of any of their sizes, its just not part of most of my thinking.
Most fat women I know (IRL) who are having trouble finding relationships, face the same issue. When they meet the guy they met online, they get something like I didnt realize you were this big. Or something very similar. And never hear from the guy again. Even when they make sure there is at least one unflattering picture displaying them as fat, or state they are fat in their profile. I sometimes recommend Feabie, but its strongly based upon what the woman says she hopes for.
I do think she should write off guys, whose first message is, I love BBWs As I would assume they are trying for a booty call. No evidence on that, but its not hard to try to get a feeling of a person before commenting on the physical.
Im very much known for my act-first dating method basically going up to people at bars and saying, Hi, Im Laura. Youre super cute. Im sitting over at the bar if you think Im cute and want to keep chatting. Well doing that shows tons of confidence. Its attractive to both women and men.
I do like that she seems to like making non-FAs realize that they can be attracted to fat women. But she does seem to crap on FAs. Some of it might just be writing style. I am a FA but not some sort of hero to all fat women. If someone gives you that sense, its a good idea to avoid them. I definitely agree with her, dont settle message.
I found this from Plus Model Magazines Facebook pages link. Its by Laura Delarato. These are my thoughts on the article, but was wondering what others thought.
As a FA I cringed while reading a lot of this article.
It makes full sense for her to want to be seen as a woman rather than a fat woman. Despite how much I write on Dims about fat women, I usually dont think of any of my partners that I have had as being fat either. Its not a rejection of any of their sizes, its just not part of most of my thinking.
Most fat women I know (IRL) who are having trouble finding relationships, face the same issue. When they meet the guy they met online, they get something like I didnt realize you were this big. Or something very similar. And never hear from the guy again. Even when they make sure there is at least one unflattering picture displaying them as fat, or state they are fat in their profile. I sometimes recommend Feabie, but its strongly based upon what the woman says she hopes for.
I do think she should write off guys, whose first message is, I love BBWs As I would assume they are trying for a booty call. No evidence on that, but its not hard to try to get a feeling of a person before commenting on the physical.
Im very much known for my act-first dating method basically going up to people at bars and saying, Hi, Im Laura. Youre super cute. Im sitting over at the bar if you think Im cute and want to keep chatting. Well doing that shows tons of confidence. Its attractive to both women and men.
I do like that she seems to like making non-FAs realize that they can be attracted to fat women. But she does seem to crap on FAs. Some of it might just be writing style. I am a FA but not some sort of hero to all fat women. If someone gives you that sense, its a good idea to avoid them. I definitely agree with her, dont settle message.
