FatBarbieDoll
Well-Known Member
Hello again -- just wanted to vent a little because I am feeling down. I had a date yesterday with a guy I met online and was sorely disappointed. His photos were deceptive in that they were/are not full body shots, so he appeared thinner than he was and looked like he had more hair (I am open to dating large men myself but, if he presents as thin and shows up much heavier, I don't like that and think it's deceptive and I really dislike balding), he had filthy nails, which indicates he may not have showered prior to our date and his clothing was very low effort -- his pants even had small holes in them. I try to not judge -- maybe that is the best outfit he had -- but, on the other hand, I am skeptical he didn't have even one nice outfit to wear. As for the showering, not much of an excuse there either.
This got me to thinking that, since I am considered to be unattractive due to my size, if the men I attract are a reflection of my own level of physical attractiveness. He also had extremely thinning hair that was in a low ponytail -- it was so thin that it looked like mere streaks across his head. At least one photo gave the impression that he had much more hair.
Before him, I dated a guy for a couple of months and he, too, was unattractive, but was growing on me slowly because of the way he treated me. Before him, there was my ex, who was a former drug addict with rotten teeth. It's a bit embarrassing to admit this, but I figured I could post here and not get judgment for it, as has been the case in the past.
Sorry to be a Negative Nancy but I am really down and could have cried yesterday and still kinda have the urge to now. No matter which dating app I sign up for, I get lots of messages from men and many are attractive (some are catfish, I know) but all these guys want is sex and nothing more and I don't want to be discarded like a piece of garbage after he orgasms. I don't think men wanting sex proves you are attractive either, even when he is conventionally attractive himself. It seems like, more often than not, it's the unattractive guys who want serious relationships with me and I fear that says something bad about ME.
Thanks for reading.
This got me to thinking that, since I am considered to be unattractive due to my size, if the men I attract are a reflection of my own level of physical attractiveness. He also had extremely thinning hair that was in a low ponytail -- it was so thin that it looked like mere streaks across his head. At least one photo gave the impression that he had much more hair.
Before him, I dated a guy for a couple of months and he, too, was unattractive, but was growing on me slowly because of the way he treated me. Before him, there was my ex, who was a former drug addict with rotten teeth. It's a bit embarrassing to admit this, but I figured I could post here and not get judgment for it, as has been the case in the past.
Sorry to be a Negative Nancy but I am really down and could have cried yesterday and still kinda have the urge to now. No matter which dating app I sign up for, I get lots of messages from men and many are attractive (some are catfish, I know) but all these guys want is sex and nothing more and I don't want to be discarded like a piece of garbage after he orgasms. I don't think men wanting sex proves you are attractive either, even when he is conventionally attractive himself. It seems like, more often than not, it's the unattractive guys who want serious relationships with me and I fear that says something bad about ME.
Thanks for reading.
