They were just discussing this on The View. General consensus among the ladies was that is was funny. It's a Comedy and I don't see where it says she was "ugly" just a bit fat.
On the other hand, Shallow Hal stunk, but it may have had something to do with Jack Black, he's awful imo.
You're not a bummer, you're an intelligent woman who is sharing her pain. I hope things get better for you, and I hope you enjoy your therapy. A lot of us are going through hard times, in one way or another.
Your loved ones want you to get help because being immobile isn't the great lifestyle it's cracked up to be.
You can fulfill your desires in less self-destructive ways, if you make your mind up to it. Be creative.