Call me old fashioned but if I was looking to start a relationship with a woman and she was lifting more then football players and wrestling mountain lions I would head for the hills....The problem might not be the weight it might be because you are Hagar the Horrible...And I say this out of love
Its like any other social setting dude...you dont just walk into a party and say "Hey I like blowjobs whos ready to give me one!"
you stand by the back wall for a bit first
then you make yourself known
then you wait for the opportune to strike