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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    "if one of your lovers changes in a way that makes you less attracted to him/her/them, at least you have the other(s). I know, that is a crude assessment but is the obvious one" It's absolutely not an obvious assessment. I have genuine feelings and connections for individuals and our...
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    Size acceptance... really?

    Thank you for your kind response. I absolutely need to have regard for all the types of people here who are. My whole source of inner conflict *is* love for people, for who they are and the connections we share, but the physical appearance thing likes to interfere. I have a history of OCD and...
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    Size acceptance... really?

    And please don't be scared of me! I've only posted with my struggles. I don't even have a dick! I'm not into being a feeder or a partner explicitly gaining. I just like fat men and I don't know how to handle this factor in my attraction.
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    Thank you for your support! FYI, polyamory is not generally considered a sexuality. That can be quite contentious! Many will say it is a "relationship orientation" though (which for some is only a choice of relationship agreement, for others an intrinsic identity, for others a bit of both).
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    Thank you! That is what I need to remember. I am getting ahead of myself with what could be.
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    It's not about "having someone on the side". Not all polyamorous people are couples that open up. And what if there are children? It takes a village...
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    And monogamy is conditional on so many things too? That's silly. "their partner": polyamory is not just about a primary dyad. "promiscuity": There are asexual polyamorists. You have a fundamental misunderstanding about what polyamory is
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    I I came to polyamory without any partners at all. It's not about diminishing sexual attraction/activities or people "on the side".
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    Size acceptance... really?

    I have posted here because I have a fat fetish. I have said that I hate that I do. I have posted a thread full of all sorts of inner thoughts that I have because it causes me grief. I don't lose attraction for a *partner* per se because of weight loss, but I feel *something* that hurts. It hurts...
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    This boy... I'm sure he's put on weight in the couple of months we've been seeing each other. And the last time... Hnnhgghhh. He ate so much and his belly was so taut. He is SO PERFECT, except he apparently wants to ultimately "lose fat". And he loves food but doesn't love being fat. Uggh, I...
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    Oh, he knew right from the outset. That makes things extra confusing.
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    Internet addiction and mental health.

    I find Reddit such a lonely place. Partly it's because I'm in the UK yet most users are in the US, so I miss the active times. It just takes one downvote to inspire others to downvote. Don't read into it too much.
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    Iiinteresting. I hadn't heard that before. Do you have any sources on CBT efficacy in ND people? Because I'd love to know more (and it might help me get the kind of help I actually think I need). Weirdly though, I successfully, yet unknowingly, CBT'd myself as a kid with OCD. I once thereafter...
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    I hope you can seek diagnosis! It might do you a world of good.
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    I would be attracted to him as a person, and I guess still attracted to him physically, but not ~super~ attracted to him like I am now. Do you really think being open with him about this is the best idea? It's my problem to deal with, right? What could I reasonably expect either of us to gain...
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    Does anyone else HATE this fetish?

    Thank you. You definitely have my same distinctions between preference/fetish and kink. I LOVE watching a man grow, but I'd rather it happen organically, not intentionally. I don't even understand if he is deadset on losing weight! He says he wants to, but then he overindulges time and time...
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    Update: I don't think anyone can answer for me what I should do, but I hope no one minds if I just update here, sort of like a journal for me to sort out my thoughts. I saw him this weekend for over 24 hours.The tattoo was literally a non-issue! Like, I'm kind of indifferent to it, but it...
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    Hmm, I think I am someone who needs to keep things to myself while still processing - unless things come to a head for me and just need to be said. As I've mentioned, I'm very wary of not guilt-tripping, even accidentally, so I'm still mulling over different courses of action and their...
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    That is a very disrespectful response. Would you suggest someone wouldn't miss their child if they already had two others? You clearly don't understand polyamory, and you don't have to, but you could try not dismissing others' feelings and experiences.
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    Absolutely STRUGGLING in new relationship - changes in appearance

    I'm sure there are many, many women who go their whole lives suspecting they are but never knowing for sure. Fortunately diagnostic investigation of girls is much more common now, but adult women still fall through the gaps.
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