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Fascinita

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I think most guys who have a hot gal enjoy the idea of showing her off.
Aurora, nobody has anyone else. Not the way you mean it.

I guess I just think a person has to have all the pieces of the puzzle in order to make judgment calls.

~Aurora
I agree we're all guessing here--not judgments so much as offering up opinions based on the information provided by the OP, exploring all sides of the issue and voicing our thoughts. I don't think anyone who's posted against the idea of coaxing wifey into doing a paysite has called the OP names or said he's this or that, so much as trying to reason with him about why it's a bad idea.

Personally, I don't think Mossy's idea is a bad one at all: There are ways for a man to make money by posing for porn. It seems obvious that he should try this route first. :D
 

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Aurora, nobody has anyone else. Not the way you mean it.
*facepalms*

Now I remember why I stopped coming to Dims. It's the twisting of words that's so common. The misunderstandings.

I HAVE a boyfriend. He HAS a BBW girlfriend, me. How dare you tell me what my words MEAN. Would you prefer I said "paired with"? Or how about "enjoys the company of." I'm not objectifying, and I'm not taking away anyone's freedom to say no. I'm just throwing out a different perspective. I don't usually get angry on forums, but when someone out right tells me what I'm trying to say, I'm going to defend myself. That was not cool, not cool at all. :mad:

This entire board is made up of personal opinions. I've been respectful to everyone else's, yet as soon as someone comes out from the pack and disagrees a little bit, they get torn apart. It's disheartening, truly. What happened to old fashioned friendly discussions, eh? I guess those aren't much fun.

Peace Out.
 

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*facepalms*

Now I remember why I stopped coming to Dims. It's the twisting of words that's so common. The misunderstandings.

I HAVE a boyfriend. He HAS a BBW girlfriend, me. How dare you tell me what my words MEAN. I don't usually get angry on forums, but when someone out right tells me what I'm trying to say, I'm going to defend myself. That was not cool, not cool at all. :mad:

This entire board is made up of personal opinions. I've been respectful to everyone else's, yet as soon as someone comes out from the pack and disagrees a little bit, they get torn apart. It's disheartening, truly. What happened to old fashioned friendly discussions, eh? I guess those aren't much fun.

Peace Out.
I concur.....
 

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*facepalms*

Now I remember why I stopped coming to Dims. It's the twisting of words that's so common. The misunderstandings.

I HAVE a boyfriend. He HAS a BBW girlfriend, me. How dare you tell me what my words MEAN. Would you prefer I said "paired with"? Or how about "enjoys the company of." I'm not objectifying, and I'm not taking away anyone's freedom to say no. I'm just throwing out a different perspective. I don't usually get angry on forums, but when someone out right tells me what I'm trying to say, I'm going to defend myself. That was not cool, not cool at all. :mad:

This entire board is made up of personal opinions. I've been respectful to everyone else's, yet as soon as someone comes out from the pack and disagrees a little bit, they get torn apart. It's disheartening, truly. What happened to old fashioned friendly discussions, eh? I guess those aren't much fun.

Peace Out.
There's no need to defend yourself. I assure you, you're not being attacked. I'm not telling you what you're saying, but offering my interpretation of your argument. People do this--it's why words exist in the first place: no one lives in anyone else's head. Misunderstandings occur, naturally. But why come out swinging? No one is being ripped apart. I'm trying to have a conversation here--that's all. If you are that offended by my posts, put me on ignore. You have a choice not to enter into conversation with me, and when you choose to respond directly to me, I'd appreciate some of the same courtesy I extend you.

I'm not responsible for your choice to participate in or stay away from this website, nor responsible for every wrong at Dimensions. In fact, you put some words in my mouth--things I never said. I've been respectful and gone out of my way to explain several times that I'm only stating my opinions. Back off. Whatever's made you this mad, take it out on someone else.
 

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But you must admit, your "impressions" and "taking on faith" are a big load of assumptions.
Absolutely true. But I'd rather assume she's a smart cookie who's already aware of what's entailed before making her decision.
And I said that the OP shouldn't be looked down upon for *wanting* to coax his wife into the paysite world.
Here we disagree. I think it's bad to do it, and bad to want to do it. In any case, I get the idea from his posts that he IS doing it.
I also think that most women enjoy being shown off as well (I know I do!), and that's not just the likes of photos, but just generally dressing nicely and receiving compliments. People like positive attention, at least people who are confident enough to accept compliments.
But... doesn't *she* get to decide how she wants to be shown off? I would think that should be something she gets to agree to. We already know she likes to dress sexy and show herself off, so that part isn't a problem. There's just certain things she doesn't want - and I think that should be honored.
Now I'm not saying that his wife is stupid, I'm not sure where you got that impression. I'm not saying she's not confident either (of course you can be confident and not want to do porn), it's a big decision.
Oh, yeah... I understand you're not saying that at all... it's all a big mess of assumptions, and of course that's not helping, lol. I just chose to assume that his wife had made an informed decision. I don't think either of them are bad people, or stupid, or any of that. [/QUOTE]
The OP asked the question TO paysite models..
So? Models are invited to comment, and they have. Does that mean non-models can't comment? I have input I'd like to contribute, and since the OP didn't exclude (i.e. "paysite models ONLY") anyone, and chose *not* to place this on the paysite board... I chose to post. If my contribution is useless, it can be ignored. If it's disruptive - report it.
I assure you, you're not being attacked.
Ditto. This doesn't have to get heated. I'd like to think we can all contribute ideas/thoughts without offending others or feeling offended if someone disagrees with us.
 

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Shouldnt the confident women, who dont feel the need to show their goods to the world, give him some insight of what his wife might be feeling about it? He asked for opinions from web models for the sole purpose of saying, "see honey, they all do it and think you should as well".
Honestly, I cant believe any woman would defend a man who cant take no for an answer from a woman who he supposedly loves and respects.
He wants the extra money, then let him get a second job instead of trying to pimp his wife.
 

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Shouldnt the confident women, who dont feel the need to show their goods to the world, give him some insight of what his wife might be feeling about it? He asked for opinions from web models for the sole purpose of saying, "see honey, they all do it and think you should as well".
Honestly, I cant believe any woman would defend a man who cant take no for an answer from a woman who he supposedly loves and respects.
He wants the extra money, then let him get a second job instead of trying to pimp his wife.
eeekks covering my penis..wait I dont have one..
 

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See? At least I have something of a filter!

*blows kisses to Lisa*
 

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I was just curious as to why some women have a paysite so I could understand why my wife doesn't want to, seeing that I would have thought she would be interested. I'm not going to push her and if you were to ask her I'm sure she would tell you that her being happy is the most important thing there is to me. Why is it you can't ask a question or ask for an opinion without people blowing everything out of proportion. It seems some people just want to get up on their soapboxes and hear themselves talk or in most cases argue. Am I wrong, I thought we were all here because we love the same thing.
 

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The problem is that my wife has always said no to even posting a regular picture on any website.
When I brought up the subject of her own paysite she said she wasn't interested.

I'm not going to push her and if you were to ask her I'm sure she would tell you that her being happy is the most important thing there is to me.
You say you want her to be happy...BUT...you won't allow her to just not want a paysite, or ' even ' post a regular picture. There has to be some Big Reason, bigger than it not being her thing. Wearing whatever clothing she likes to wear does not automatically translate...for her...to want to share herself with others that way. Seems she is deciding...for herself. I would suggest that you back off of the paysites a bit. The enthusiasm you feel is having you not see the woman in front of you at home. And, that is not just a stranger on a soapbox. That is you giving us the info.

Love the same thing? We all want to coax people into doing things they don't want to do?
 

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I asked her about it but I have not said a thing since, I was just asking a question of people here and I agree with a lot of them. Why are you telling me not to push the paysite thing, I asked her once, is it that hard to understand?
 

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Once you put it out there on the WEB it will be there FOREVER! In retrospect the web is like a Tatoo... its fun at the time, but you can really never remove it!
 
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