Physical attractiveness really is the limiting factor, however.Um no this isn't All about physical attractiveness.
Rape is the predictable consequence of sexual conflict - much like social monogamy, it evolved out of selective advantages in male control over female reproduction.Your talking about sociological (aka money/social status), natural selection, genetics, and pre-programmed instinctual awareness. Like it or not, somewhere down the line we are all the offspring of rapist and pillagers. I dare you to find someone alive today who doesn't exist because their great-grand-pappy of some 40,000 years go (or much longer) murdered rapped and pillaged.
True, only a minority of women can achieve their physically ideal mate, so the others will tend to optimize their prospects as best they can, leading to high relationship turnover as they proceed to 'trade-up', ad-nauseum.Many women are not with their "physical ideal"
What women claim to be looking for, and their decision weightings are often two very different(ie. contradictory) quantities.they are far more willing to be with someone they sync with rather than someone they think is "just hot". You can go right now on any popular dating service and find many women searching for a guy who can "make me laugh".
No, you don't.If a guy can't connect with women in a way that lets her "feel" him, he's going to be FOREVER-FRIEND-ZONED.
You don't have to be PERFECT, you don't have to be CHISELED, you don't have to be SUPER FUNNY, you don't have to be WORTH A BILLION DOLLARS.
Where PUA comes into its own is in respect to hair-splitting prospects once the physical attractiveness condition is satisfied.You HAVE TO MAKE HER FEEL! I would rather a woman hate me cause she doesn't like who I am; rather than feel indifferent because she couldn't get a clear reading on who I might be and what I might be all about.
So screw all this talk of genetics, natural selection, and whatever else BS people want to trip about. Women feel, and if women don't feel you, (on whatever level, sexual, emotional, etc.) they are Done With You! If they do Feel You, and they think your worth taking a chance on, they're gonna take up up on a date to at least get to know more. I think guys really underestimate how much stress some women can feel about just giving a guy a chance into their heart.
So simple end of story is sometimes "the bastard" has better skills and ability at letting himself and his interest be known to a woman in an attractive evident way. Sometimes, genuinely good guys have an amazing ability to do it too. Usually these are the guys who aren't concerned with needing to be nice. They just hold themselves to values such as being true, just, and perhaps even refreshingly old fashioned.
Sorry didn't mean to Rant...I think.
I didn't mean to imply that, but it is commonly inclusive of 'abusive' connotations.There are hints along the way, and since when is cheating alone the definition of abuse? I sure didn't say that in my post!
It is possible, but much less likely.And who said BHMs aren't able to do the EXACT SAME DAMN THING to a woman regardless of how he or his partner looks?!
You're already straining credulity.My thin and beautiful friend was dating a BHM.
Correction: looks aren't the only variable, but they are a significant one.The guy was more than just a cheater. He was physically abusive and denied everything. To say it's just about looks is completely wrong in every way.
The guys I've dated, except one, have been slim and were not of the cheating or abusive variety. And to this day aren't, even if not with me.
If you call cheating "abuse" then there's something wrong in that. My post meant the abusive type in verbal, physical AND mental. Not just cheating but so much more. In fact, most of the abusive guys weren't cheaters, just ACTUALLY abusive.
He personally knows he was abusive. Admitted to it often, but didn't do a damn thing to change it. She knows he's abusive, but keeps running back. She THINKS he's the kind of guy she deserves when everyone KNOWS she deserves the complete opposite of the guy.So, even if your anecdote is accurate(there are always two sides to every story, and your account is further biased by a second-hand source), we should still expect that BHMs would tend less to abusive behaviors.
Yeah, I disagree with that too.Sorry, I don't like the hype either and I consider myself a hot piece of caramel ass. I don't deal with assholes yet I do not want a doormat either.
The point is, most women want a man who is sure of himself and knows how to protect his territory when need be. I hate how some self serving guys turn this into "women love assholes who mistreat them'. What the hell, women are not all masochists.
An interesting anecdote, I will admit.He personally knows he was abusive. Admitted to it often, but didn't do a damn thing to change it. She knows he's abusive, but keeps running back. She THINKS he's the kind of guy she deserves when everyone KNOWS she deserves the complete opposite of the guy.
It isn't biased if I know their stories first-hand because they openly and verbally admit to it, as well as visual evidence, and the stories all match up.
You can claim that, but it would not be very compelling as a universal statement of fact.Like I said, women are attracted to confident and loving men who respect themselves and his woman. I am a female, I can tell you that.
Perhaps some of these guys don't have a good opinion of themselves and so that turns off many women.
Cheating is all about will, if a man wants to cheat and get some pussy, believe me he will--doesn't matter if he is the CEO of a billion dollar company or the crackhead down 14th street.
If a woman wants an asshole, then she has low self esteem issues.
I think he just missed the memo on this being an FA/FFA website. Perhaps he has no clue what FAisim is really like. I am willing to be he has no clue of the extreme ecstasy an FA/FFA can feel when their lover pics up their belly and puts it on them, or how pleasurable it can be to make out against a wall with their large lovers weight slowly enveloping them in bliss.
There are more of us than you think, some tend to lurk and rarely post, many others are simply living out their daily life unaware of the term BHM/FFA. I had more FFA's before I knew what an FFA was myself. Often these girls identified themselves as, "Chubby Chasers", "Liking big men", or they just like guys with "meat on the bones", and I had one who simply said, "I love belly's". There are plenty out there.Yeah, but not many of us really do(yourself, being an apparent exception).
Oh man now you sound like some of the BBW's lol.....don't worry they are like M&M's they do exist and sometimes they melt in your mouth and in your handsAnd yet another FFA who dates more skinny guys.
No offense, just very frustrating, being a BHM and all.