Discussion in 'BHM/FFA' started by Amaranthine, May 15, 2013.
Oh, I thought this was the happy thread. Oh well
Well, this IS the "any way you want it" thread. So if you've got it the way you want it, and you're happy, this ought to count as the happy thread.
Finally finished her
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Very cool Odette - especially with the raven. (... picking up on those centuries old witch rumors.... )
Very nice needlework, Odette!
Do you ever have to bite back the temptation to tell people about this community, or FA/FFA in general?
Was just in a gaming store over lunch, and the guy helping me was an adorable BHM (i.e. if you like your bhm cute and cuddly you'd have a high chance of appreciating him, if you prefer the more physically imposing kind with lots of height and broad shoulders then maybe less so). No rings on his fingers, not that that always means anything; he could be in an awesome long term relationship for all I know.
But the whole time I was thinking "I know some FFA on-line who would think you are beyond lovely looking, I bet you'd like places like Dimensions, if you haven't discovered them on your own already" Didn't say anything, just bought my cards and left like a nice polite Canadian who would never intrude on anyone's personal comfort area. But part of me couldn't help but feel I was being a jerk-by-inaction, you know?
Yes, I've definitely wanted to tell ppl about Dims, but I don't because I'm pretty sure they'd just think the whole idea of FAness (and consequently me for being into it) was weird, if not straight up perverted. But then most of the ppl I know in real life are the type of uber conservatives who are still afraid of teh gayz and think wimmen should just shut up and do as their patriarch (father/husband) commands.
What we need are some sort of Dims drop-off cards - you'd just casually leave one behind where the guy who needs the message would find it.
I second the BHM/FFA-Dims drop off cards idea!
Those cards might seem cheesy and outdated - but I honestly have found some of the best things (not a website, more practical things like restaurants, specialized stores, courses, etc.) or long needed items with their help.
Anybody have any design ideas? Like an eating, drinking Falstaff as logo???
Great idea with the cards! I think it'd be cool also if we had some way of identifying each other in public should we happen to run into a fellow Dimmer, like the different color coded handkerchiefs that were popular with some LGBT folks awhile back or something like that.
I can sometimes guess based on who people are with or who they are looking at, but I almost would like a gesture hand sign, so you could meet someones eye and give the sign that you understand and agree.
I thought i sorted this out in a post years ago....
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