What we need are some sort of Dims drop-off cards - you'd just casually leave one behind where the guy who needs the message would find it.Do you ever have to bite back the temptation to tell people about this community, or FA/FFA in general?
Was just in a gaming store over lunch, and the guy helping me was an adorable BHM (i.e. if you like your bhm cute and cuddly you'd have a high chance of appreciating him, if you prefer the more physically imposing kind with lots of height and broad shoulders then maybe less so). No rings on his fingers, not that that always means anything; he could be in an awesome long term relationship for all I know.
But the whole time I was thinking "I know some FFA on-line who would think you are beyond lovely looking, I bet you'd like places like Dimensions, if you haven't discovered them on your own already" Didn't say anything, just bought my cards and left like a nice polite Canadian who would never intrude on anyone's personal comfort area. But part of me couldn't help but feel I was being a jerk-by-inaction, you know?
I thought i sorted this out in a post years ago....I can sometimes guess based on who people are with or who they are looking at, but I almost would like a gesture hand sign, so you could meet someones eye and give the sign that you understand and agree.
I think I'm pretty easy to Identify as a BHM, What with being this big fat man and all.
but if we need something wearable...
How about pants.
Anyone wearing the 'Plus Size Trousers of BHMness' will be instantly recognisable to both other BHM and FFA.
The FFA may or may not wish to go with the whole big pants thing so I suggest a set of code phrases.
for example an FFA upon seeing a man wearing the signature over sized trousers would approach with the phrase
"How would a girl like me get into a pair of pants like that?"
thus letting the wearer know that she is an FFA.
were a BHM to find himself out without his pants... He could readily recognise another pants wearing BHM and use the phrase
"Where would a guy get a pair of pants that big"
to identify himself.
This would require no-one to buy anything they didn't already have or need..
Those who aspire to BHMhood would also wear Large Pants and aspire to grow into them.
What do you Guys think?