http://www.refinery29.com/plus-size-women-dating-app-profile I found this from Plus Model Magazine’s Facebook page’s link. It’s by Laura Delarato. These are my thoughts on the article, but was wondering what others thought. As a FA I cringed while reading a lot of this article. It makes full sense for her to want to be seen as a woman rather than a fat woman. Despite how much I write on Dims about fat women, I usually don’t think of any of my partners that I have had as being fat either. It’s not a rejection of any of their sizes, it’s just not part of most of my thinking. Most fat women I know (IRL) who are having trouble finding relationships, face the same issue. When they meet the guy they met online, they get something like “I didn’t realize you were this big.” Or something very similar. And never hear from the guy again. Even when they make sure there is at least one “unflattering” picture displaying them as fat, or state they are fat in their profile. I sometimes recommend Feabie, but it’s strongly based upon what the woman says she hopes for. I do think she should write off guys, whose first message is, “I love BBWs” As I would assume they are trying for a booty call. No evidence on that, but it’s not hard to try to get a feeling of a person before commenting on the physical. “I’m very much known for my act-first dating method basically going up to people at bars and saying, ‘Hi, I’m Laura. You’re super cute. I’m sitting over at the bar if you think I’m cute and want to keep chatting.’” Well doing that shows tons of confidence. It’s attractive to both women and men. I do like that she seems to like making non-FAs realize that they can be attracted to fat women. But she does seem to crap on FAs. Some of it might just be writing style. I am a FA but not some sort of hero to all fat women. If someone gives you that sense, it’s a good idea to avoid them. I definitely agree with her, don’t settle message.