article - The Reason I Won't Mention My Size On Dating Apps

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Sidhuriel

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It's why participants in Gay Pride parades used to sing "We're here and we're queer." That was back in the days, when it was more of a protest parade than a carnival. If you're happy to refer to yourself by the word that haters use to abuse you, then they can't use that word as an effective term of abuse anymore.
Right!

That's also why I call myself fat, because fat is nothing more than a descriptor like tall etc and nothing to be ashamed about!
I notice it makes people uncomfortable and they usually try to tell me I am not fat, which they mean well but it just shows how taboo fat has become. I'm comfortable in my skin and I show it. We're fat and we're here, deal with it.
 

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We're fat and we're here, deal with it.
That's exactly what I'm thinking. I'm happy with my body. If others aren't happy, then that's their problem for them to sort out. In fact, it's none of their business, because they don't have to live in my body.
 

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I think the focus is entirely wrong. It is looked through the lens of “only large people are judged for their size” which is a complete falsehood.

The reality is, no matter how attracted you are to a persons personality, sense of humor, intelligence, etc, there is a physical component. I happen to only be attracted to larger women. I’m as vapid and shallow as someone who likes tall guys, or abs, or blondes. We all have preferences.

With that said, the thing I hate is being treated like something is wrong for having a bbw preference. Being asked why? Why does anyone like anything? Because you do. It’s that simple.
 

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I think the focus is entirely wrong. It is looked through the lens of “only large people are judged for their size” which is a complete falsehood.

The reality is, no matter how attracted you are to a persons personality, sense of humor, intelligence, etc, there is a physical component. I happen to only be attracted to larger women. I’m as vapid and shallow as someone who likes tall guys, or abs, or blondes. We all have preferences.

With that said, the thing I hate is being treated like something is wrong for having a bbw preference. Being asked why? Why does anyone like anything? Because you do. It’s that simple.
From the FA in my life I heard the same thing. He could wax poetic about the experience of being next to and with a bbw. But the summation was - because he liked his women that way.
 
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