I think thats a natural reaction. The OP and most of the FAs posting in the thread have expressed guarded and 'not me guvna' responses to the 'weirdo' tag... but I get the impression that most of the people posting here (on the main board on dims) arent a lot like the chap in question anyway... At least it seems that way to me? None of the FAs I've actually met in person seem particularly maladjusted or closeted or anything particularly unlike say, the rest of my friends.Of course there's always the alternative to the rest of this entire post that I'm really just trying to defend myself.
It depends on how you look at it. Every time you masturbate to porn, you're objectifying someone. I admit I do that. Out of sexual attraction, that's granted. Not something you do outside. It's for my own pleasure, and in moderation.
Sex is probably one of the last things on my mind when I approach a lady I like. If it's for a serious relationship, I want a girl with a personality, who's good to talk to. I wouldn't have sex with a chick just because of her physique. One night stand, maybe, just for fun.
Freaks who happen to be FAs, are guys who just view real women who they meet in person as sexual objects, nothing more, etc.
I prefer bigger ladies than is considered "normal", and some related turn ons, :blush: but nothing like the freaky crap some FAs come up with. FA is just a general term for guys who are attracted to big chicks and so on. And those guys can be all sorts of people. Otherwise "average" guys, intellectuals, professionals, even people who you would assume would be anti-fat girl or something, e.g sportsmen. And within the group there are some hardcore fetishist FAs who are so fixated and fetishised, and try to make their fantasies become reality, feeders, hardcore sex, stalkers, disturbing comments, etc.
Fat fetishists aren't exactly bad if they know control, but the hardcore FAs are often embarrassing and unnerving to behold(no offence). Really lets down the honest, well-intentioned guy who likes big chicks.
True. I like fat guys. If i'm someplace in public and a fat guy walks by, my head will turn. Last week i was at the gym and 'distracted' myself while on the stairmaster by watching a fat guy who was weightlifting (more fun than a stupid magazine or ipod!) If i encounter a fat guy through work or a social event, i'll probably check out his belly.
That having been said, it's not a fetish for me. I've recently dated a guy who weighs 130 pounds. I've dated fat guys who lost weight. I don't see an attractive man and start thinking "not fat enough.." I sure don't objectify it.
BUT. Some women do, and i get that. There are women on the BHM board who post about getting upset if a partner loses weight. There are women who if they are not with a SSBHM, just won't get horny enough. There is nothing wrong with those women---it's just how they are.
What's important is how you act, not how you think.
I think thats a natural reaction. The OP and most of the FAs posting in the thread have expressed guarded and 'not me guvna' responses to the 'weirdo' tag... but I get the impression that most of the people posting here (on the main board on dims) arent a lot like the chap in question anyway... At least it seems that way to me? None of the FAs I've actually met in person seem particularly maladjusted or closeted or anything particularly unlike say, the rest of my friends.
I dont deny these guys exist though... You dont have to look far to see myspace is rife with fatty-collectors and anonymous FAs. Thats less obvious to me here on dims but but I've been shown once or twice the kind of lechy, objectifying stuff that gets written in PMs by some FAs.
I'm not sure if the problem is bad enough to warrant action but could this kind of drive-by objectification be avoided by removing PM rights from new posters until they have 50 posts or something like that?
My ex wife is a bbw who hated the fact that she was fat. ( She recently had WLS ) She thinks I am the weirdest guy in the world ( I am ) because I only like bbw's. She has gone on to inform me, that I only like bbw's because they have insecurity issues. ( LOL I told her you gotta meet AnnMarie and Heather and My Sunchips if you think THATS true!). Many people are going to believe what ever they have chosen to, regardless of whatever they are told.
I will say that I am not into some of the more "fetish" things some FA's are into. I am not into being squished, nor do I enjoy to her fat more than I enjoy her boobs or other parts. BUT I am not attracted at all to skinny women in general, I like a fat girl, bbw, phat girl, thick, plump whatever you want to call her..Just something about a woman with soft, voluptious curves that does it for this FA. There are a few exceptions..Halle Barry, Lil Kim ( before all her surgery), Jessica Simpson are 3 "celebs" that I find very hot. Anyhoo,,thats my 2 cents...
Thanks for the compliment, though I am not too sure about the sweet part..I been called ALOT of things, but sweet aint usually one of em! :bow::bow:I like your two cents. See...you come across as every sweet, nice, FA I have ever known in the real world. Un-hung up and cool. Yay, you.
It is all yours! a la Spanky. :bow:Holy Shit!....I have a stamp!
and....I am going to kill you.
(right after I steal this..)
cuz really....my fecking opinion is SO important.
I have yet to meet a normal FA as well. I have also felt used in the past for my fat. It is hard to meet someone who likes you for who you are as a person and not how far down your belly hangs.I totally agree. There are some wonderful, intelligent, kind FA's out there, however, they seem to be the minority. Or at least, as Lilly mentioned, they aren't as prominent.
Sadly, the article you quoted seems to describe almost every FA I ever knew. Most of the FA's that I have encountered make me feel used (for the belly, the boobs, the arm fat or whatever it is they are into) and not at all that they genuinely want to know me as a person. They feel that because they admire my body and "treat me like a Goddess" (code word for oral sex, I guess?) meant that I should be OK with them grabbing my fat and shaking it or using the back of my knee as a vagina. Ummmm yeah..NO.
No idea if any of this makes any sense (what else is new??), but..anyway, I don't think that just being an FA makes someone a freak, but there are definitely FA freaks out there-lots of them.
It is all yours! a la Spanky. :bow:
I like that it looks all lipsticky. You seem like you might be a lipsticky kinda gal!
Oh.. and it is red too. That's fecking important too.
The people in the porn have agreed to be objectified. You can't compare normal relationships or women in general that you have never met before to porn.It depends on how you look at it. Every time you masturbate to porn, you're objectifying someone. I admit I do that. Out of sexual attraction, that's granted. Not something you do outside. It's for my own pleasure, and in moderation.