IMHO the biggest thing you can do is look past appearance. I got great respect for anybody accomplishing that. Taht's what I hope I strive for, if it ever comes to that. I don't want to be so shallow. We can do better. Body positivity is probably more about being able to appreciate what's actually important in this world. And OP, you're probably right. But I think looking at the person--not the body--defines the apex of maturity. EDIT: I don't want to cover everytyhing you wrote in your OP right now.