Labels, I can take them or leave them. If you ask 100 people to define what FA/SSBBW stands for, you will have 100 different definitions. As for a man approaching me at the grocery store and asking me out...I am an SSBBW, +500 lbs. Men that would ask me out are the ones that first SEE me....then talk to me--meaning that he is first attracted to my abundance. The mere fact that a man approached me in public, while I was in my sweat pants, no make-up, Little Debbie's and potato chips loaded into my cart--without having previously talked to me--would tell me that he found my size or shape attractive. What gives me shape and size? My fat gives me my shape and size--thus I would presume that this man was either an FA or a feeder. Its not a common experience that a non-FA would approach a woman of my (dare I say) voluptuousness...or perhaps overly rubenesque proportions. I have curves in places that I shouldn't and more rolls than a skate park. I would hope that the man who approaches me would come talk to me cos he found my outside beautiful...but ask me out because he found my mind, humor, intellect, conversation skills, and just plain stubbornness intriguing.