Okay, I thought about it quite a bit, and think I can express what I want to say a little bit better regarding this subject.
What, in reality, am I missing by not being involved with a FA? I am hearing women say that FA's pay more attention to their bodies or pay more attention to the fat parts of their bodies.
Well, in all honesty, as long as I am not lacking in the body-attention department, what difference does it make? Also, none of my erogenous zones are in areas where I have heavy fat deposits. Somebody can "pay attention" to my belly or side pudge all day long and it won't do much of anything for me except wish that they were touching the places I *like* to be touched.
Which was my big problem with a FA lover. He paid constant attention to my belly, but that did nothing for me whatsoever. It is not one of my erogenous zones. It did everything for him, but for me it was not sexually pleasureable or even all that pleasureable in a tactile way.
For me, it is my back I like having touched. But since my back was not *fat*, and in fact since my back is very muscular and strong, he did not like to touch it, or did it halfheartedly with a lack of enthusiasm. He wanted to touch my belly to his never ending delight. But when I asked for a back massage, it was like asking him to touch toxic waste because *gasp* I was not _fat_ there and he did not like the feeling of muscle beneath his hands. He wanted a fat lover because he liked the way fat felt, not the way muscles felt.
And of course, he accused me of not enjoying the belly grope-fests because I "did not accept my fat" and if I "loved my fat" I would wind up in orgasmic bliss from having it pumped and kneaded and fondled and squeezed, etc...
But that is just the way my body is wired. Everybody has different erogenous zones. One man will hit the ceiling squealing with delight if you stick your tongue in his ear. Another will just cringe because it icks him out. Does it mean the second man has a hang up about hating his ear because he cannot take pleasure from having it "paid attention to"? No, just how he is wired. Does it mean he is missing out if he finds a lover who hates sticking tongues in peoples' ears? No, not in the least.
Which is why I cannot understand why having a FA lover would make any difference. If my belly, or any other part of my body where I retain a lot of fatty tissue was a major erogenous zone, it would be important that I have a partner who really enjoyed paying attention to it. But since it's not, I can't possibly see what I am missing out on.
Tracy
What, in reality, am I missing by not being involved with a FA? I am hearing women say that FA's pay more attention to their bodies or pay more attention to the fat parts of their bodies.
Well, in all honesty, as long as I am not lacking in the body-attention department, what difference does it make? Also, none of my erogenous zones are in areas where I have heavy fat deposits. Somebody can "pay attention" to my belly or side pudge all day long and it won't do much of anything for me except wish that they were touching the places I *like* to be touched.
Which was my big problem with a FA lover. He paid constant attention to my belly, but that did nothing for me whatsoever. It is not one of my erogenous zones. It did everything for him, but for me it was not sexually pleasureable or even all that pleasureable in a tactile way.
For me, it is my back I like having touched. But since my back was not *fat*, and in fact since my back is very muscular and strong, he did not like to touch it, or did it halfheartedly with a lack of enthusiasm. He wanted to touch my belly to his never ending delight. But when I asked for a back massage, it was like asking him to touch toxic waste because *gasp* I was not _fat_ there and he did not like the feeling of muscle beneath his hands. He wanted a fat lover because he liked the way fat felt, not the way muscles felt.
And of course, he accused me of not enjoying the belly grope-fests because I "did not accept my fat" and if I "loved my fat" I would wind up in orgasmic bliss from having it pumped and kneaded and fondled and squeezed, etc...
But that is just the way my body is wired. Everybody has different erogenous zones. One man will hit the ceiling squealing with delight if you stick your tongue in his ear. Another will just cringe because it icks him out. Does it mean the second man has a hang up about hating his ear because he cannot take pleasure from having it "paid attention to"? No, just how he is wired. Does it mean he is missing out if he finds a lover who hates sticking tongues in peoples' ears? No, not in the least.
Which is why I cannot understand why having a FA lover would make any difference. If my belly, or any other part of my body where I retain a lot of fatty tissue was a major erogenous zone, it would be important that I have a partner who really enjoyed paying attention to it. But since it's not, I can't possibly see what I am missing out on.
Tracy