Well, I did say that given a valid reason to cry, I would be more accepting of it, so I don't think I'm lumping every guy that cries into a category who will have to pay for my one bad experience...and I am certainly not into holding on to a grudge. But with that being said, if you try something that puts a bad taste in your mouth, you have a tendency to avoid that same something, because you have had a bad experience with it in the past. That doesn't mean that it is always like that, it could just have been a fluke that the particular something that you tried was bad, leaving you with a hesitation of trying it again, you know?Maybe he felt bad about it? I'm not condoning the doing of shitty things to people but doing something selfish and hurtful and then feeling guilty or bad about it is a fairly normal reaction. It's also pretty bogus to lump every guy that cries into a group that pays for your bad experience (though much like his prerogative to cry, it's certainly yours to do so). I'm not trying to have to deal with a scornful grudge-baby. I'd hate to think you applied this sort of thinking to other situations. Not trying to be mean, just genuinely surprised.
Do you cry when you hurt someone you love? 'Cause I sure as hell do. Doesn't that make you a little insensitive to think he was in the wrong for crying?
If that was the situation and he actually did love me, then I would be more ok with him crying...but that's not the case. I don't doubt that he didn't feel bad for being shitty, but it didn't feel like he cried out of remorse for any wrong doing, more like he cried out of getting caught...kinda like when a little kid cries when they know they are in trouble... I have much more respect for anyone, man or woman, who fesses up to their wrong doings and deals with the consequences like a grown-up...maybe that makes me insensitive, but I just don't have time for grown-up children...again, time to pull up the big boy paints and deal with it.
I'm not saying that I am right for the way I see this, but they are my ways for my reasons, and I have lived and learned enough to know better then to carve this into stone...but any adult who cries because they got caught doing something shitty is lame. I guess all I'm saying is man up to your wrong doings, acknowledge what you did wrong and change your actions instantly...and stop crying about it, you brought it on your self.