Yeah, she might be projecting here: Not any kind of pick-up artist; but, just based on my own personal observation of compare and contrast amongst peers: The guys who're actually most "successful" at this, it's not because they have such a great deal of confidence or fight. Although, maybe just a bit more than average. Either just when it comes to this or in general. It really has more to do with how they don't really have so much invested in talking or negotiating with any one person. They literally approach hundreds if not thousands of people in the course of a week's time. Intuitively, they seem to know precisely just how much to put into a relationship as to barely maintain it. But, again, it's more about volume; against the odds of such a wide pool, they're practically guaranteed to "get lucky" with a (relatively) much more consistent frequency.