I get where you are coming from. However, isn't that how it is for everyone? Most people have some difficulty in finding a person to truly share their feelings, likes, dislikes, ideas, emotions with in a genuine and unfettered way (this as opposed to just finding someone for sex). I've really taken to vetting any potential paramours before making the decision to "jump in with both feet" so to speak. That is perhaps why I'm still alone after these few months (but that's a tale for another day). Bottom line, I think Dims and other similar sites are great places to connect with like minded people and share without being judged too harshly.