Yup she's right, it's her body and you can't tell her what size to be or what to eat. So yeah you're in a bind and it's tough.She tells me it's her body and I can't tell her what to do (or eat). So it put's me in a bind! <snip> I guess I am just screwed.
What part of being an FA is fantasy? BBW's and SSBBW's are not mythical creatures we are real people with real feelings.I have never tried supporting her in losing weight. I guess I feel that I would be living a lie! Maybe I should learn to keep my fantasy life seperate from my marriage! Never tried this. I need to do or try something! It's really hard living in a house with someone who you don't even want to talk to!
Maybe I should learn to keep my fantasy life seperate from my marriage! Never tried this. I need to do or try something! It's really hard living in a house with someone who you don't even want to talk to!
So she doesn't understand why you are attracted to her....your wife? I thought that was part of the deal when you marry somebody. You are supposed to be attracted to one another.I noticed after I posted this I should have done it in the FA board not the Main board. My wife has told me time and time again she doesn't understand the attaction to bigger women. I've tried to explain it and she says I am lying. She thinks I want her to gain weight to hurt her and make her miserable. I just can't get her to understand.
This sounds like it is about an awful lot more than her weight. If you were in a happy relationship she certainly wouldn't think you were trying to hurt her by wanting her to gain (or not to lose) weight. She might say she didn't want to or that she thought it strange - which would be her perogative - but she wouldn't think that it was you deliberately being hurtful.She thinks I want her to gain weight to hurt her and make her miserable. I just can't get her to understand.
You said it much better than I did...Thank you!HER body. If she wants to lose weight, that is her right. And what's more, she has EVERY right to have her body be the size that she wants it to be... and you have no say over it.
I would say to you the very same thing I've said to men who whine "my wife has gained 50 lbs since we married, and I just don't get turned on by her anymore...." WAHHHHH FUCKING WAHHHHH. It's not ABOUT you. What ever happened to loving the person through good times and bad, sickness and health? Loving the PERSON she is should be the important thing, not the size/shape of the skin she is in.
And honestly.. if you can't find it in you to be attracted to her based on her weight loss, by all means leave her so she can heal and find someone who will love her for who she is rather than what he wants her to be.
i'm sure he had three kids with her out of total malice too, just to sweeten the pot after she dared to slim down on him so his departure could fuck her over that much extraOh yeah, let me give him a hug.
Do you know the pain he is putting on his family? He doesn't want to be with his wife but because he was not man enough to be with a fat chick he lives a miserable life. After he married her and saw it was not right he could have left. Did he do that? Nope, he went on and had 3 kids with her.
Sorry, no sympathy here.
I don't care why he did it, he still did it. There is a lot of potential to cause hurt because of his selfishness. I save my sympathy for better causes.i'm sure he had three kids with her out of total malice too, just to sweeten the pot after she dared to slim down on him so his departure could fuck her over that much extra
So you would rather see her fat and possibly unhealthy rather than want her to be a healthy person for both herself and your three children? And on top of it secretly hope that if she does diet that she will just get fatter because that is what YOU want? That is extremely selfish of you.My wife diets because she says its for her health. I dont think she likes getting to 240lbs either because she doesnt like the way she feels. If I could learn to shut up and just let her do what she wants, she would probably just put the weight back on anyway! It's hard to just stand by and see it happen. I think I've come to the conclusion that this is probably going to repeat itself over and over for our entire marriage and I need to just accept the cycle. I think we need to work on being more affectionate towards each other and maybe I wont make the appearance thing so important. I think sometimes because I dont feel the affection from her I focus more on her looks.