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Kat thats how we learn ask questions LOL
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Okay, I suppose that I can see that. I would guess that feeding someone could ignite some sexual feelings. I'm a bather soe I can understand to a degree.
It's not so much the actual "feeding" that arouses, but what the feeding represents and the results it brings. The act of feeding signifies ones surrender, and in fact ones desire to "let go" and get fat. The arousal comes by actively participating in the fattening process, be it your own, your partners, or mutual thing.
 

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It's not so much the actual "feeding" that arouses, but what the feeding represents and the results it brings. The act of feeding signifies ones surrender, and in fact ones desire to "let go" and get fat. The arousal comes by actively participating in the fattening process, be it your own, your partners, or mutual thing.
I think I get it. When bathing someone, I am fully clothed, kneeling beside the tub with all of the tools of the trade (soap, sponges, loofas, shampoo, mittens, etc). And while the person being bathed is naked and the touching can become sexual, it's not so much the touching that is arousing.

Like you've said, it the "letting go" part and the participation part. The bathee must trust and let go of any fear, trepidation, self-esteem, or self-doubt issues. She/he is there, naked in the light (candle light if you prefer) and every flaw, fold, and blemish is on display. But in letting go of all this fear, while someone actually bathes your body but not TRYING to be sexual, can be very liberating. Every crack, crevice, and fold is open for display and being touched and gently cleaned.

For the bather, even though you may be touching areas that are sexual in nature, there is a primary and more satisfying payoff. The very first time you bathe someone there is, understandably, a great deal of tension. Watching and feeling the bathee let go of that tension and relaxing under the gentle touch of your hands while still performing this "service" is quite arousing in itself. So, I kinda get the gist of what you are saying about being a feeder.

Thanks for enlightening me! :)
 

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I think I get it. When bathing someone, I am fully clothed, kneeling beside the tub with all of the tools of the trade (soap, sponges, loofas, shampoo, mittens, etc). And while the person being bathed is naked and the touching can become sexual, it's not so much the touching that is arousing.

Like you've said, it the "letting go" part and the participation part. The bathee must trust and let go of any fear, trepidation, self-esteem, or self-doubt issues. She/he is there, naked in the light (candle light if you prefer) and every flaw, fold, and blemish is on display. But in letting go of all this fear, while someone actually bathes your body but not TRYING to be sexual, can be very liberating. Every crack, crevice, and fold is open for display and being touched and gently cleaned.

For the bather, even though you may be touching areas that are sexual in nature, there is a primary and more satisfying payoff. The very first time you bathe someone there is, understandably, a great deal of tension. Watching and feeling the bathee let go of that tension and relaxing under the gentle touch of your hands while still performing this "service" is quite arousing in itself. So, I kinda get the gist of what you are saying about being a feeder.

Thanks for enlightening me! :)
It is the most incredibly erotic and sensual experience. It is kinda sad that so few will ever experience it.
 

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It is the most incredibly erotic and sensual experience. It is kinda sad that so few will ever experience it.
It's certainly something I'd be willing to try. Maybe one of these days I'll find that person who will lead me to it.
 

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I'd been fascinated with fatness since I was a very young kid. I can remember being around 4 or 5 years old and telling an older cousin of mine that I wanted to be fat when I grew up. "Oh no, you don't mean that," she would say, or something to that effect, but I knew that there was something about the idea of making myself get really big that appealed to me.

As a young man in my teens and twenties, my focus seemed to shift more from gaining weight myself to watching someone else gain - namely a prospective female partner. I would lust after the chubby girls in my classes at school, and imagine what they would look like if they were to get bigger and heavier; fantasizing about watching a woman gorge themselves on mountains of food, gaining weight and getting fatter and fatter.

In more recent years however, the last ten or so at least, I'd say the appeal of gaining weight myself has gradually taken more precedence. I've come to discover and accept that I can be a real pig when I want to! lol I love to eat, I love to stuff myself. I like having a big, full belly; I like being plump and heavy. I enjoy being fed as much as I enjoy feeding. Fortunately for me I have found a partner in life who enjoys these things as well. While neither of us are actively gaining right now due to concerns for our health, neither of us are shy about our love for food and being chubby either, and our life together is all the better for it. :D
 

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Been a Feedee (heaven!). Want to be a Feeder (for real - no virtual), bbwffa.

My boyfriend loves my soft body, but is obsessed with keeping his own free of fat. I care for him, but I'm so unfulfilled at my core. I long for a fat partner in life. Someone who enjoys being/getting fat and would love for me to feed him. Someday my fat Prince will come. :wubu:

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Memories of pumpkin muffins...
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I hope you're OK, wherever you are these days. ❤
 

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Definitely a female feedee here! I'm more of a feedee than WG person but when I notice I've gained weight I'm encouraged to stuff myself lol. I don't stuff myself all the time, but usually my desire to increases during the holiday season.
I usually like to top off my meals with something like water or hard cider but sometimes I'll just want a ton of fast food and soda and attempt a button pop.
 

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Not to necromance this thread or anything, but I am a certain kind of feedee. I think of myself more of a hedonist, instead of having an end goal It turns me on to eat and be fed, to have someone provide me nurturance in the form of tummy yummies, and enjoy the sheer carnal power and beauty of my appetites for everything related to enjoyment of the pleasures of the flesh!!!
 

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What would be the driving force behind being a feedee? I want to explore it deep down.

Do you want to see your body change (as in bodybuilding), getting bigger, and feel that this new body is all you and still expanding and that you have control over it in this way? (This is a sport! I need to see my weight go higher damn it!)
Or do you like the feel of the fat, the wonderful softness of it? (I could play with my fat for hours!)
Do you perhaps find the helpless-nature of it appealing and kinky? (as in: look how overstuffed I look in this clothing, overflowing your swimsuit etc, I am not talking about extremes)
Do you like that it is in some way a dependency (even just imagined) on someone (the feeder) as in dom/sub relation? (He is going to stuff me and I have no power to say no!)
Or is it simply the love of food and you don't care about the consequences? (Yeah, I got fat, deal with it)
Do you like it maybe because it is something that has been on the fringe of society for so long and you feel you are rebelling? (I'll show you, I'll get fat and be proud of it and it will make everyone mad!)
Do you like the opulent nature of it - the overindulgence that is then manifested by you getting bigger?( (I am stuffing myself with so much food, far more than I ever need and it turns me on)
Or is it auto-sexual - it is a turn on when you look into the mirror and see you are bigger? (Geez, I am so sexy!)

I would honestly like to know these answers from feedees.

There is very little talk about this from the feedee point of view and sadly most of it is a derivative of some fabricated fantasy - say watching the feedee porn models that are now flooding all the boards like mad snakes with their OF accounts and paid videos, talking about how they love food and love to get bigger - but this is just a new modern face of the homemade porn industry and as a rule, it is just selling a whatever dream people pay for.

I want to know what drives other people into this. The real story. You can also message me if you don't feel it should be discussed in public. You know in a sort of 'you tell me yours, I tell you mine' pillow talk way.
 
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You hit several points there that kind of describe my evolution into the fat/feedee lifestyle. For me gaining weight unintentionally at first and liking it is what started it. Or not actually liking it at first, but it becoming that way. Then came learning about this whole world and learning new things that appealed to me over the years, like a love for food, being body positive, and not being ashamed of who I am and what I like. Probably if you've read about kinks on here, I'm either into them or have at least tried them lol! Fast forward to today and I've pretty much found my place in the world at this point. I'm a lover of fat, I'm an FFA. I love food and like being fed at times, I go through spurts. I like to see myself gain, as specially if I have someone to share it with that is into it as well. And I'm out of time. Gotta get to work. I hope this answers some of your questions and anyone else that is interested in this thread :)
 

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For me, I had always liked bigger guys although I wasn't into being bigger myself. I then got into stuffing from my attraction to hiccups and the fact that being full can trigger them. It wasn't years later when gaining weight was attractive. I've never gained purposefully but it's pretty easy for me to so it was more like enjoying how my body feels at whatever moment in life I'm in.
At this point, it's definitely a turn on for me to see how big I am in tighter clothes. It's a little of the overindulgence of stuffing, a little of the taboo (I get an intense desire to drink sugary drinks like soda and eat junk food) but it's mainly enjoying the feel of a full belly and thicker body.
 

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Bits of a lot of those, I guess. But I'd say that primarily I just thought fat was attractive and desirable from a pretty young age (no real idea why). And when puberty hit that transformed into part of my sexuality (being fat, pursuing fatness, celebrating fatness, supporting fatness ... the concepts of all that were turn ons).

Yes, there is some appeal in how it is sort of subversive, and yes I love the feel of it and love the look of it (I take and delete a ridiculous number of pictures of myself for someone my age and general plainness, just as a way to appreciate my fatness), and yes I do love food and always have (and that has been paired with fatness back to those earliest memories, too), but I think that all comes from finding fat beautiful and desirable.
 

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Three times in the last week, Hannah has coerced me into feeding her something: Ice cream, apple slices, and pudding. At first, I thought is was just a joke. Then I found it to be funny; we were laughing and joking around with it. But then, with the apple slices, she kind of made it sexual and I found that I was aroused by this. Is she secretly trying to turn me into a feeder?
 

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For Queen, I was never into bigger guys until the last few years. In that time I've found my husband and completed my wants in life. He's an FA though he doesn't really know what that means in our terms. i can live with that.

Tad: I did not have the feeling that you had at a young age. I didn't discover my love for fat until later. My love for fat came well after my adult life, but it's been a part of the last decade of my life now and I don't see that ever changing. I know what you mean. I've gotten rid of pictures from my past and just wanted to have things that remind me of who I am now. A better person than who I was.

BEK: If you have found your amazing, then go for it! It doesn't matter what her flaws are, you can work on it. Just make sure it's right for you. I don't claim to be a person of wisdom, I just know what I gone through already.
 

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So for most, it may be a gradual process, getting fat unintentionally then discovering you are fine with it, then discovering you like it even more and want to get even more fat? I like that :)
It would be interesting to know what turns a person from unintentional gaining into intentional. Would it be that there is a community?
Is it just a mindset, you gain and you are ashamed of it because everyone else tells you it is wrong, but once you find out there are other people and many that like it, then you start embracing it? Interesting.
 

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For Queen, I was never into bigger guys until the last few years. In that time I've found my husband and completed my wants in life. He's an FA though he doesn't really know what that means in our terms. i can live with that.

Tad: I did not have the feeling that you had at a young age. I didn't discover my love for fat until later. My love for fat came well after my adult life, but it's been a part of the last decade of my life now and I don't see that ever changing. I know what you mean. I've gotten rid of pictures from my past and just wanted to have things that remind me of who I am now. A better person than who I was.

BEK: If you have found your amazing, then go for it! It doesn't matter what her flaws are, you can work on it. Just make sure it's right for you. I don't claim to be a person of wisdom, I just know what I gone through already.
Completely relate to all of this. Granted, I was into being fat and loving fat women from a very young age...even before I could begin to describe what it was or why. But the more I allowed myself to explore this part of me as I got older...and stopped apologising for being the "square peg that doesn't fit into the round hole"...it's been more fulfilling than I can ever describe. It just becomes more and more a part of your identity...and one of the many wonderful things that make us unique.

Posting this as I am having an early morning snack...a slice of Italian Rum Cake and coffee! It's the most wonderful (and fattening) time of the year!!
 

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So for most, it may be a gradual process, getting fat unintentionally then discovering you are fine with it, then discovering you like it even more and want to get even more fat? I like that :)
It would be interesting to know what turns a person from unintentional gaining into intentional. Would it be that there is a community?
Is it just a mindset, you gain and you are ashamed of it because everyone else tells you it is wrong, but once you find out there are other people and many that like it, then you start embracing it? Interesting.

I agree with Amy Jo, there are lots of reasons people gain. Emotions, stress, family or friends, or perhaps just DNA.

Liking it I think is somewhat natural. I think people typically want to like themselves, even if often we don't.

Fat also relates to behaviors we like - eating, good food, being with others, partying, etc. :)
 

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Over the many years I've hung around this place, if there is one thing I've learned is that there are many flavours of FA, many paths to enjoying being fat, and so on. There may be more people who have taken one path or another, but there is really not one "this is how it happens" story that you can point to.
 

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