It's not so much the actual "feeding" that arouses, but what the feeding represents and the results it brings. The act of feeding signifies ones surrender, and in fact ones desire to "let go" and get fat. The arousal comes by actively participating in the fattening process, be it your own, your partners, or mutual thing.Okay, I suppose that I can see that. I would guess that feeding someone could ignite some sexual feelings. I'm a bather soe I can understand to a degree.
I think I get it. When bathing someone, I am fully clothed, kneeling beside the tub with all of the tools of the trade (soap, sponges, loofas, shampoo, mittens, etc). And while the person being bathed is naked and the touching can become sexual, it's not so much the touching that is arousing.It's not so much the actual "feeding" that arouses, but what the feeding represents and the results it brings. The act of feeding signifies ones surrender, and in fact ones desire to "let go" and get fat. The arousal comes by actively participating in the fattening process, be it your own, your partners, or mutual thing.
It is the most incredibly erotic and sensual experience. It is kinda sad that so few will ever experience it.I think I get it. When bathing someone, I am fully clothed, kneeling beside the tub with all of the tools of the trade (soap, sponges, loofas, shampoo, mittens, etc). And while the person being bathed is naked and the touching can become sexual, it's not so much the touching that is arousing.
Like you've said, it the "letting go" part and the participation part. The bathee must trust and let go of any fear, trepidation, self-esteem, or self-doubt issues. She/he is there, naked in the light (candle light if you prefer) and every flaw, fold, and blemish is on display. But in letting go of all this fear, while someone actually bathes your body but not TRYING to be sexual, can be very liberating. Every crack, crevice, and fold is open for display and being touched and gently cleaned.
For the bather, even though you may be touching areas that are sexual in nature, there is a primary and more satisfying payoff. The very first time you bathe someone there is, understandably, a great deal of tension. Watching and feeling the bathee let go of that tension and relaxing under the gentle touch of your hands while still performing this "service" is quite arousing in itself. So, I kinda get the gist of what you are saying about being a feeder.
Thanks for enlightening me!
Memories of pumpkin muffins...Been a Feedee (heaven!). Want to be a Feeder (for real - no virtual), bbwffa.
My boyfriend loves my soft body, but is obsessed with keeping his own free of fat. I care for him, but I'm so unfulfilled at my core. I long for a fat partner in life. Someone who enjoys being/getting fat and would love for me to feed him. Someday my fat Prince will come. :wubu:
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Completely relate to all of this. Granted, I was into being fat and loving fat women from a very young age...even before I could begin to describe what it was or why. But the more I allowed myself to explore this part of me as I got older...and stopped apologising for being the "square peg that doesn't fit into the round hole"...it's been more fulfilling than I can ever describe. It just becomes more and more a part of your identity...and one of the many wonderful things that make us unique.For Queen, I was never into bigger guys until the last few years. In that time I've found my husband and completed my wants in life. He's an FA though he doesn't really know what that means in our terms. i can live with that.
Tad: I did not have the feeling that you had at a young age. I didn't discover my love for fat until later. My love for fat came well after my adult life, but it's been a part of the last decade of my life now and I don't see that ever changing. I know what you mean. I've gotten rid of pictures from my past and just wanted to have things that remind me of who I am now. A better person than who I was.
BEK: If you have found your amazing, then go for it! It doesn't matter what her flaws are, you can work on it. Just make sure it's right for you. I don't claim to be a person of wisdom, I just know what I gone through already.
So for most, it may be a gradual process, getting fat unintentionally then discovering you are fine with it, then discovering you like it even more and want to get even more fat? I like that
It would be interesting to know what turns a person from unintentional gaining into intentional. Would it be that there is a community?
Is it just a mindset, you gain and you are ashamed of it because everyone else tells you it is wrong, but once you find out there are other people and many that like it, then you start embracing it? Interesting.