Part Time Gainer...Full time Foodie and FA!
- Nov 18, 2011
- New York City, NY
Following that train of thought, I think we naturally want to be liked as we are...everyone wants to be loved and accepted. But there are those, and I've known many over the years, who are hesitant to let themselves be who they really want to be for fear of judgement by society.I agree with Amy Jo, there are lots of reasons people gain. Emotions, stress, family or friends, or perhaps just DNA.
Liking it I think is somewhat natural. I think people typically want to like themselves, even if often we don't.
Fat also relates to behaviors we like - eating, good food, being with others, partying, etc.
My ex-girlfriend, for instance, was a lot like me...she grew up on the chubby side, was ridiculed for it, and became insecure for a long time. She told me she always wished she could have the freedom to just be fat, eat what she wanted, and enjoy her size without shame.
I think it was our relationship which finally gave us both the courage to go for it and deliberately gain a few and enjoy ourselves. Not sure if she continued on her journey of self acceptance after our break up...but still proudly being myself here.
Sometimes, we need communities like these, positive relationships, and good experiences to teach us not to be ashamed of who we are.