Discussion in 'Fat sexuality' started by shirmack, Nov 18, 2008.
Lift and carry (the larger the better) and period play - including free flow.
i just want a bbw gf rn
I don’t know if this counts as a fetish but I like having sex when we have an audience watching. I’ve done a couple times and it’s exhilarating.
I’d love to do this with my wife. There are times I think it might someday happen with the friend I mentioned in the oral sex thread watching. Both have said things that have made me think there is a possibility there. The threshold for what is kept private from this person is just much higher* than with most people. I wouldn’t hate being on exhibit for her, and she’s alluded to me she would enjoy seeing it.
But I’m talking about a room full of strangers. Not some no-holds barred orgy, but a place where we all go to have sex with our own partner just with everyone else watching and enjoying.
My wife did mention she wants to do a sexy photo shoot and found a photographer who does this sort of thing. Takes pics of couples in sensual poses, and unlike many photographers who do this work, will capture full sexual activity through conclusion of the act. She gets closeups I’d intimate parts and moments (like the moment penetration happens). My wife asked if I’d be comfortable having sex in front of her and I’m all for it. She wants to lose weight before we do it, and I can respect that. I do like the idea of pics of her at her current weight or heavier weight levels prior to dropping some pounds but she has to like it too.
In the meantime I’ll just continue to hope an opportunity with her friend presents itself and we all take advantage of it!
*probably a thread/discussion in its own right!
I have to commend you on your daring and adventurous nature hm. The fact that you are confident enough to even entertain such an event is reason enough to applaud. Have to give kudos to your wife as well. In today's society, the thought of sharing one's significant other in even the tiniest ways tends to anger most women. However, I'm sure she is confident in your relationship which lends itself to more audacious thoughts/deeds. As a fellow man, I wish you all the best in making these desires reality!
Many, many years ago I dated a gal who had a bit of a secret fetish that I found out about the hard way (pun intended). But she felt the need to "trick" me into playing into her little freaky side. I suppose not everyone would have been up for it.
We had been dating about a month and she suggested that we take a weekend getaway to a city (in this case Dallas, TX) so we could explore and dine etc. I was fine with it but thought it odd when we checked into our hotel, that she requested the 10th floor or higher. I figured that she just wanted a view of the city. We found a nice restaurant to have dinner, did a little window shopping ad then headed back to our room.
We settled down in our room, took showers, and as I was getting on my comfy shorts, I noticed that she was not. She had the curtains parted about 6 inches and was just standing there naked, looking out at the city. When I came up behind her and wrapped my arms around her, it felt like her body was electrified! Without taking her eyes off the window she whispered, "Would you fuck me in front of all of these people?"
Now, I'm not a shy guy (at least I wasn't back then) and I certainly wasn't ashamed of "the goods" so to speak but I took a moment to pause and let the analytical side of my brain to figure out what was up. She was hornier than I had ever seen to that point: the room was cool but not cold and her nipples were hard as ever, she had goosebumps all over her body, and her breathing quickened. There were a couple equally tall buildings but none in a direct line of sight and someone from the ground would be able to see but only if they looked directly at us. It was winter and already dark out. My desire to see where this went overrode my fear of getting caught (apparently). I stripped off my shorts and we began to have sex. I was behind her and she was bent over looking out the window. After just a couple minutes she began to moan, softly at first and then more loudly. Suddenly, she flung the curtains wide open with such force, it startled me (but did not stop me). When she started to climax her voice became louder and she placed her hands on the glass of the window displaying her whole body for the world to see! I was dumbfounded (but again not so much that It made em stop).
During the weekend, we did that several more times using different positions but always with her staring out the window. We dated for about 6 more months and I always made sure to find places where she could engage in her exhibitionist side.
Padding is one of my fetishes. Most guys who pad do it because they get sexual arousal out of it. It's great fun doing it with someone else, who is also padded. It can be hard work getting each other to climax but it's jolly good fun. Here's a photo of me about to have some "jolly good fun".
I should clarify: she doesn’t share me. She shows off how in control she is though. Especially to this specific friend because this friend more or less “coached” her into the dominant person she is today. Turns out she lives vicariously through my wife a little.
No worries. I didn't mean share physically anyway. I meant sharing the experience or even perhaps the visuals.
I see. Yes, she has shared visuals. She even said she’d want to show this friend the pictures if/when we ever got them done. I am fine with that. I’ve even wondered if my wife would be open to having her take pictures for us.
Big, beautiful women with spiffy eyeglasses.
I like voyeurism as well.... But more like.. look what im getting pleasure wise from my partner and the other person just has to watch
So the person watching is just watching as opposed to giving you pleasure or getting it from the person you’re getting it from?
I'm so into inflation and playing with inflatable padding that, when I pass a filling station and I can hear compressed air hissing out of the tyre pump, it hoists my mast.
That’s such a brutal tease! I love it!
I'll throw my fetish hat(s) into the ring and they're fairly 'vanilla' imo. I'll enter them in separate posts.
The first is a hair fetish. No I don't dig hirsute folks ("not that there's anything wrong w/ that" if YOU do). I mean the hair on someone's head. I've had this feeling since I was a toddler growing up in Germany as an Army Brat. I love running my fingers through someone's gorgeous, shoulder length/ or long hair, especially if it's sandy or blonde; and it could be a guy or girl, gently almost reverently. I refer to it as my RAPUNZEL COMPLEX. LOL! But the 1st person whose hair I craved caressing was my first little boyfriend in elementary school. He always defended me when the bullying was too much for me. What's not to love? He had sandy blonde hair in a full sorta cute bowl cut/ Sean Cassidy style (it was the mid 1970s. LOL). He always had to be near me, held my hand all of the time, kissed me even when my parents were around and would proudly tell them why. Bless his heart. I've never forgotten 'Chuckie'. I played with his hair most often during music class. Students sat on the risers, and he'd sit on the level below me purely so I had access. We were never distracted to the point we risked getting in trouble for not paying attention. It was perfect and kept me calm & I wasn't tormented. Chuckie helped me feel safe. He, and his hair, were my security blanket.
I find it all so relaxing & soothing. Does it arouse me me? Depends on whom is under the tresses and if we are or have been intimate in the past. But if it's just a friend and I ask to brush or comb their hair, and they suspect nothing, no, I'm not turned on. It's equivalent to the same happiness & comfort I'd get from brushing a golden retriever. And they're super adorable (even though I'm a Corgi & GSD person)! lol
I obviously have a fat fetish among many others. Beards are one that I have really come to like more lately. My BF grew his out in the winter and I fell in love with it. I love running my fingers through it and the way it feels against my face. When summer came he talked about shaving and I was like nooo!!!! lol!
My 2nd fetish is more intense and adult and the desire grows stronger, as I'm getting older, for almost 18 years. And with this, in seeking out potential players, I am very selective. One has to be; or at least should be.
I absolutely have a lactation fetish! It's also, for me, one of the more "safer" sex practices out there since I'm not really up for being boned. For once I'm doing something for myself and have honestly never gotten genuine pleasure from my breasts. Others had a blast. Feeling like I had to fake enjoyment, sadly, for their sake.
Anyway, I've never been knocked up, never had the desire to be & it's not a prerequisite in order to be able to lactate. I've not 'breastfed' a lover since I was around 38/ 39 yo. Now that I'm older, and sans a steady, kind, attentive and attractive partner to help perform the tit massage and nursing action (those breastpumps [hand held & electronic] are a joke when it comes to my 'J' cup udders), it's very difficult, tiresome and painful on my hand/ arm muscles especially as a woman ages & requires more effort and time to open the flood gates. They're quite pendulous & heavy. The ducts need to be stimulated and opened up to flow. And the nipples need to be aware that "Hey! Someone's craving something from this super queen sized 'dairy queen'! Open the flood gates!" And it has to be a steady, daily activity. Seriously. I learned that from the ob/ gyn office & brochures there. Yet she didn't & wouldn't offer any 'assistance'/ stimulus prescriptions to help boost a milk supply, etc. because in my case it's "not medically necessary [a VERY taboo subject matter: ABF & ANR] since I'm childfree by choice not circumstance and not intending to become preggers." That aspect does zilch for me and is a turn off. That was roughly 2 yrs ago.
Still, breasts are there primarily for two reasons: 1. provide nourishment and 2. help provide pleasure first for the woman and secondly to whomever her partner may be. I'd like to achieve that for once... and always. But I've got to be selective cuz I don't want just anyone latched onto and nursing from my tap. I'll be looking down at you while your doing it. ROFL! No doubt some, not all, guys feel that way if there's an opportunity to get a hummer from a somewhat okay looking gal without requiring beer goggles or rose colored glasses. And we'd have to have a great, friendly rapport of getting to know each other first. Not just, "Hi, how's it going? Now open up and say, 'Ahhh'!" . In time that'll potentially happen later. Tee-hee!
I've a guilty pleasure of watching this type of activity in adult porn vids/ "hucow" vids/ lactating Asian gals/ hentai porn/ etc. of strictly women, of many ages, shapes, colors, sizes inducing lactation and milking their breasts or being milked by someone or doing it to themselves. But usually it's some fortunate partner gleefully nursing on a pair of engorged, milk filled breasts! I crave that sensation! I get aroused even now thinking about it. And to see these women be able to squeeze their areola and nipples and witness the milk 'let down' and drip only to eventually jettison out into arcs of sweet, opaque streams! Quite impressive, arousing and envious I am (but in a good & friendly way. lol.)! I'd love to latch onto those succulent, plump nips as well! If I were a guy, I'd have a hard on as firm and spring-like as a diving board. ROFL. And the tits that just start dripping like a melting vanilla ice cream cone and don't stop? Or those that have multiple mini sprays coming out of each nipple like a 'waving' lawn sprinkler and also- seemingly- don't slow up for 7- 9 minutes straight?!? OMG! Too damn sexy and hot! I want to be able to do that. Watching myself being able to do that would absolutely turn me on and get me off in equal measure!
It's going to be a Hurculean effort on my part and whomever I do eventually find (ideally LOCAL) to assist. It's a serious but fun/ challenging task: as I learned, esp. for my case, whomever is doing the nursing will have to be willing & able to commit to 90- 120 minute suckling AND tender but firm breast massage- minimum 3 times a day- EVERYDAY (if possible. Yeah right, I thought when I was informed of this. But I like a challenge-- depending on what it is. LOL! of the week for who knows how long? *sigh* This would be like a REAL relationship with the level of commitment/ dedication to helping me to achieve my goal fetish. So this is not for the faint of heart or wimpy boob suckler wannabe or heaven forbid "biters" that think boobs are made of rubber and no one ever corrected or the other person was into it. When in doubt or not, fellas- or ladies that love big hooters too, please ask. It shows you care a little. It truly separates the REAL men from the opportunistic tools I have to remind that I don't want penetrating sex. Nor do I get into mommy/ son or infantilism role play. That dries me out like the Sahara.
Oh well, wish me luck that my fetish fantasy becomes reality someday.
Ciao and have a great day/ evening.
Milkmaid Wannabe in Ohio
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