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I just wanted to post something since I had not written for a while. It's good to see the boards active, and I must reiterate how much better these boards are than the original ones. So I'm still looking for all the FFA's out there to chat with. It gets boring sitting here and seeing all the fakes. lol So what's good out there?!
 

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Oh I'm real, honey, I have the stuffing to prove it! :D
 

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BigFusionNYC said:
123 views and no replies wow Maybe if I add a pic


Dear me, that sure makes me happy inside. ^_^

How much do you weight there?
 

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Dear me, that sure makes me happy inside. ^_^

How much do you weight there?
A lot less than I would if I had a feeder, that's for sure :) lol
You tell me, what do you think I'm weighing in at in that pic?
 

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Totally depends on height, of course...

I will say 450lb, though. Wee, a game! What do we win? :p
 

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Totally depends on height, of course...

I will say 450lb, though. Wee, a game! What do we win? :p
I'll let the winner take me out to dinner, which could get pretty costly, I can put away some food lol

 

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I have been around Dimensions and the BHM/FFA board since '99 and I think I could count the number of FFA's who have self-identified here on fingers and toes. I have no doubts whatsoever that FFA's do exist; but that their numbers and geographical diffusion makes them statistically marginal. It is so unlikely that any of the BHM on this board will actually meet an open and self identifying FFA that we might as well say it is sheer luck. You and I both live in huge metropolitan areas and in a decade, I have actually come face to face with no more than three women who were FFA's, two of whom were in relationships and one of whom had a radically different partner-preference. I know that you haven't found too many in NY and that is just mind blowing. What about BHM in the middle of nowhere?
I think the following quote from Wikipedia sums the situation up dramatically:

["Big Handsome Man"
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Big Handsome Man, abbreviated as BHM is the male equivalent of BBW, Big Beautiful Woman. Usually a target of affection for FFA's (Female Fat Admirers). The adoration of Big Handsome Man is not as widespread as the adoration of Big Beautiful Women, mainly because the fat admiration subculture consist of very few female fat admirers compared to male fat admirers.]


Bingo, it is official...so the question is, what are fat men to do to achieve some kind of social and personal life? My own answer has been activity in the general community and interests outside of the "fat" world...and I think that is one of the challenging aspects of this board...because it is so fat-centric, we tend to forget that life is wide, varied, complex and full of other things to enjoy and find satisfying. Sometimes, when I come here, I just feel depressed, because it reminds me of the unpleasantness of the statistical situation...but then, if I just focus on my art and studies and lecturing and performance and music and such, I feel perky again....it makes sense!
This is why it may be more useful for us to do more threads about other areas of life where we can find commonalities as a culture, but that is just my usual left-field rambling!
I do hope you find your FFA....you are obviously an interesting and notable personality, eh?

BigFusionNYC said:
I just wanted to post something since I had not written for a while. It's good to see the boards active, and I must reiterate how much better these boards are than the original ones. So I'm still looking for all the FFA's out there to chat with. It gets boring sitting here and seeing all the fakes. lol So what's good out there?!
 

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Obesus said:
......the question is, what are fat men to do to achieve some kind of social and personal life? My own answer has been activity in the general community and interests outside of the "fat" world...and I think that is one of the challenging aspects of this board...because it is so fat-centric, we tend to forget that life is wide, varied, complex and full of other things to enjoy and find satisfying. Sometimes, when I come here, I just feel depressed, because it reminds me of the unpleasantness of the statistical situation...but then, if I just focus on my art and studies and lecturing and performance and music and such, I feel perky again....it makes sense!
This is why it may be more useful for us to do more threads about other areas of life where we can find commonalities as a culture, but that is just my usual left-field rambling!
I do hope you find your FFA....you are obviously an interesting and notable personality, eh?
See my problem is the fact that nowadays most women in my age group want the guys that look like boys, you know the no testosterone group of guys with narrow shoulders, and the pointy hip bones and couldn't grow a beard in 8 months. I mean, I just don't sit here and look at the 'fat sites'. I know what real life is but the dating scene out there is mind boggling, all the jerks and a-holes can get girlfriends but "interesting and notable personality" people like myself get over-looked. Then I hear people say "oh, you need to be confident" that's not my problem, if a large man goes into a bar, and has a drink or two and shows confidence in himself and is unapologetic about his weight, and approaches a lady, you know darn well people are like "oh, he's fat, why is he all arrogant and shit". If you just go there to have a drink and chill and watch the game on the TV then it's "oh, look at that loser over there watching the game". The pretty boy assholes don't have to work at it. I mean I don't think I'm Mr. Hot Pants but I'm not ugly and I don't move like other fat guys, (i.e. waddle and slow).

As for FFA's in NYC - I think I dated them all, (all 3 lol) and the common thread among them (FROM MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE) is that they have underlying issues, usually "father issues". They were also of different ages, backgrounds, and maturity levels and such. Another issue is that when I talk to FFA's on here and such, most of them think I'm too fat and others think I'm too thin. So I'm like in the middle gray-ness area.

As for your point about the huge cities, I do find it hard to believe that here in NYC with 10,000,000 people you don't see FFA's more often.

My final point, they say all these things about BBW's getting no love and it's easier to be a fat man in the world - I don't buy it. Ok us Fat Guys don't get hassled for the weight openly and such, and if 3 fat guys are at a restaurant no one is gonna really notice, but if 3 fat ladies were there they would get stared at and such BUT BBW's have an easier time finding dates and admirers and a lil stat I heard - nearly 70 percent of all porn xxx stuff sold in the U.S. and on the internet is BBW related. I wonder what percent of what's left is FFA's and Gay "chubby chasers" buying porn with Fat men? :confused: :confused: :confused:
 

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BigFusionNYC said:
See my problem is the fact that nowadays most women in my age group want the guys that look like boys, you know the no testosterone group of guys with narrow shoulders,
As with all things, men just have no idea. :p

Don't you realize you two are like all other men in this world (who aren’t in a relationship), sitting there complaining that everyone else has it better than you are, or that there are just no women in this world? I’ve heard guys complain that “no one likes the nice guy, so I can’t get a girl”, “no one likes nerds, so I can’t get a girl” and by far the number one complaint “no one likes SKINNY guys, so I can’t get a girl”. I have heard this complaint SO many times. And in fact, the skinny thing is more common than women being turned off by overweight men. Trust me, women talk about these things with eachother. I'm not just talking out of my butt here. :D

If you’re overweight, and a girl is interested in you, she’s an FFA. It’s true, plain and simple. Girls go for what they find attractive. So, 90% of the time (or at least 50%), if a girl is interested in going out with you she’s a secret FFA. Maybe not as much of one as the women on these boards, but she is still into big men. She's not going to get together with you and then tell you to loose weight. She could just as easily find a thin man. I mean, we all only have physical appearance to judge someone before we talk to them. If a woman is interested in your physical appearance, don’t you think that makes her an FFA?

So quit complaining, silly boys. It’s hard for a lot of guys to find a girl, you certainly aren’t in the minority. The important thing is to get out there and talk to women - and be yourself. If you aren't doing that you can't complain. And if you are, good for you. Keep doing it, and make sure you're going places where there are a lot of nice single girls. You don't have to look specifically for FFAs, if you hit on a girl and she hits on you back, she's interested. But you still gotta hit on her first, in most cases. That's the same for all men.

And about the porn, is there ANY porn for women out there? We should be so lucky.... Women, in all things, just aren't as active as men about voicing their opinions. Look on any site like this (I'm not sure if I should say fetish site, but sort of the same). I guarantee, you’ll get 10x as many men as women. We just don’t talk about it, or even think about it as much. It’s still there, but for guys – for evolutionary reasons or whatever – it’s just a lot more important.

And by god, no one except Japanese girls like the “no testosterone” type! :D
 
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