One of the things that I used to counsel my younger airmen was on the notion that you shouldn't get into a relationship with the idea that your significant other needs to change. And while that idea is not exclusive to someone who's a closet FA/FFA the thought remains valid.I've experienced some of those and both were serious FAs, but too ashamed to be seen with/associated with anyone who didn't look like she had rock hard abs. I was good enough to sleep with and then become a "project". Hard pass!
This is my guess. I haven’t tried dating in years so I’m unfamiliar with what’s going on out there in the online dating space. Still, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see how someone could exploit that arena. The only social media I use is FB and even on that I sometimes get random friend requests from smoking hot babes whose single profile pic is professionally photo shopped. Always a new-ish profile and there’s always only a handful of existing friends (all guys). “She” might shoot me a message too, usually something provocative or sexually charged.Or, and this is the VERY likely case, they're fake pictures they took from the internet. I would never reply to anyone without a full photo of themselves.
I think that if they have a problem with publicly sharing a picture of themselves they would just not have a picture at all, or would use a picture of something else, like how some people use flowers or a cartoon character as they profile picture. These people are using a picture of a person minus the head, which, in the world of catfishing and thotbots, seems suspicious.DitzyBrunette said:
Or, and this is the VERY likely case, they're fake pictures they took from the internet. I would never reply to anyone without a full photo of themselves.
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Or they don't like plastering themselves all over the internet. I don't put pictures of myself up for anyone and everyone to see. I think it should b private. It's not a matter of shame, of hiding oneself, of pretending to be something one isn't. Anyone can grab your picture off the internet and do who knows what with it. If I'm talking with someone and they want to see my picture, I will give it to them, privately. I'm not going to plaster it for the whole world to see. I think the whole idea of, if I don't see your picture you aren't worth bothering with, is wrong and I do not understand it. We here on this board ask for acceptance and for us not to be judged, but we simultaneously say, if you don't have a picture up you're not worth knowing. Please explain the dichotomy here.
I've had so many "military men" that have turned out to be scammers wanting to get to know me on dating sites that the word "military" makes me reach instantly for the block button. Many of them claim to be naval officers stationed in Afghanistan while their boats are docked in Kabul Harbor! It's like they're all working from the same script.I have an Instagram account that gets 3 to 5 messages a week from
Military men Saying things like “hi pretty” and wanting to her to know me. It is quite hysterical. I even found one using pictures from a military man that I know. I think if you are male and really looking for a chance around here a good quality picture or a few is needed.
I can often get an idea of where they're from, because of my background in linguistics. A guy once started messaging me on Grommr, saying that he was a young German man living in America and that he owned several high class restaurants. His grammatical mistakes weren't the sort of mistakes that a German would make. I reported him. They checked him out and said that he wasn't a scammer. So, I pointed out to them that his grammatical mistakes were the sort that would be made by a speak of an African language, most probably north-west Africa. They checked him out again and found that he was in fact a Nigerian scammer.I wanted to go back and mention fake pics in my post, but can't figure out how to edit
The "deployed military" thing is really common on ALL dating sites. If they tell you they're deployed military, ask for MANY and "right now" photos with specific instructions. Ask them to do something like stick out their tongue and cover their left eye with their pinky finger and send you a pic. Also read carefully to find grammatical errors. If they're claiming to be American and it doesn't sound like English is their native language, they're probably lying.
With the context that neither of us is in the realm of each other’s intimate interest:And... do I need to take my picture down? Is that why I hardly get any replies/messages? The only reason I have that up there is because I am really, Really, REALLY UN-PHOTOGENIC and it's the best picture I have of myself. Sheesh, I've scared myself a time or two looking in the mirror. Maybe that's it. Oh, and I guess I'm not exactly fit or apparently fat enough either. I need to get a new hobby.