Thank you. I've never understood this mentality - I think it's the same as me telling a man TO cry, in order for us to have a conversation. Sure, I think some women overdo it and turn on the waterworks in order to manipulate, but believing that that's why we all do it is just kind of sad. We get wound up, we get emotional, and it has to go somewhere - voila! Tears.Do NOT get angry or annoyed with us when we cry about something! That is the worst possible response you could have. If you're going to claim to be the "rational, logical" gender, then BE rational and logical and realize that our body chemistry is different and we are going to cry when we are upset. Don't ask us to be rational and logical at those moments in time. If you want that, date another man.
Can I just get down and worship you for this post right now (even though you stated that you don't want to be worshipped in a previous post)?Don't try to be a superhero for me. It's admirable that you want to be the best version of YOU that you can be for me, but don't push me away because you feel like you don't deserve me until you reach your goals. I'm dating you, not your potential. Let me help you make that journey, and you can help me with mine.
I have a theory, a very deeply-held pet theory, that Disappearing, like much (to be honest) hurtful male behavior, has its roots in the chivalrous instinct gone awry. They don't wanna be the ones to hurt you; they're supposed to be the ones saving you. Helping you. So they can't handle it. When stuff happens that makes them mad at you, or things are unmanageable, or whatever. It doesn't make this behavior any easier, especially over the age of, say, 18, when you should maybe know better, but I think that's where it comes from. It's what makes Southern men, therefore, especially tricky (if you ask me). Have seen it happen quite a bit ("seen" = had it break my heart! but not just me).Honestly, the disappearing-thing is really my only general beef with men. And in my limited experience -there's very few guys who don't do it... What the hell is with that, anyway? Something isn't going their way, so they just... fade away? Do they actually think we don't notice?