Discussion in 'Daily Living' started by rainyday, Feb 7, 2007.
Photoshop made those unreliable.
This reminds me of a quote from a book I really like, The House of Mirth by Edith Wharton: "His father was the kind of man who delights in a charming woman: who quotes her, stimulates her, and keeps her perennially charming."
jerking someone around who's been nothing but honest and open with you, waiting for them to let their guard down and trust you before you turn tail and run away with no explanation whatsoever, is fucking evil and cruel and makes you an indisputably shitty person.
and you wonder why some women have such low opinions of men.
The single best and most reliable indicator that you are a complete dickhead is if you sigh and say, "You know, women just don't like nice guys."
You know who never uses that phrase?
Men that are actually nice.
Every man I have ever encountered who has said that was light years away from being nice.
Some of you guys are well versed at old-fashioned touches. Opening a door, holding a chair, helping us to put on our coat, your hand in the small of our back to guide us through a crowd. And you're as nice and respectful to the friends of the woman you're dating, and you are to her. Bravo to you - your value is rarely lauded, and that's a shame.
There are so many little unspoken things like that, and doing them really shows us that you care, and that you're a gentleman.
The explanation is about 99.9% of the time that they are a spineless, classless piece of trash who, if asked with a gun to his head why he behaved that way would say, "Because I couldn't stand the thought of seeing her get all emotional. I just can't deal with big crying scenes. It was just easier for me to just run away. And all i care about is what's easiest for me. Which is why i'm such a prick."
what sucks is that i really consider myself an intelligent, perceptive person. i don't understand how i repeatedly fail to see these things coming.
i feel so fucking worthless.
Don't feel that way...really. It has happened to everyone, most more than once. Some of the most beautiful, intelligent women I know repeatedly have such things happen to them. I can't explain it, just know you're not alone.
Double EFF that.
It's the guy that is worthless. THE GUY. Not you.
Also, seriously not being patronizing or sycophantic here, lots of guys do in fact get intimidated and cut and run. They figure they'll take off to eliminate the risk of getting kicked to the curb. A man who thinks he's not good enough for you is always right. Beauty, style, smarts, and confidence can work against you if the man is a dickless wonder. Some of them are secretly thinking "maybe she'll realize she can do better....damn, i better take off now so I don't get hurt. Cause my little boy ego could never handle it."
i really don't want to seem like i'm fishing for sympathy, here. i'm just messed up in the head right now. i'm not thinking clearly. all i can focus on is this shitty sadness and disappointment and how idiotic i feel.
usually i can just remind myself that, you know. there are people in the world who have cancer, AIDS orphans, fucking refugees wandering the earth starving and homeless, and it'll put my stupid little life and my problems in perspective. but right now i'm just consumed by this.
YES, YES, YES!!!!!!!
We really, really will like you for who you are. That's who we want to know.
We're not all bitter, self absorbed bitches.
Just as you getting out your fishing tackle, using sno-seal on your boots, or getting out you auto repair manual should be a clue to us, there are things that should be clues to you.
"We're not mind readers" is a cop-out. Neither are we, but handwriting...wall...get the connection?
I nearly forgot this one....
You know that look I give you when you step out of the shower in the morning, naked and wet, smelling of yourself, soap and shampoo? It's NOT disgust or me checking for shrinkage. It IS pure lust.
Oh and a p.s. to my above post....
Quickies have a time and a place and after the aforementioned shower and before we get dressed for work is that time and that place.
That is all!
Wet man, wet hair....swoon!!!!!!
Don't assume we're gonna say no to kinky sex stuff. Just ask. You just might be surprised.
Oooh! It's true, it's true. That is one of my favorite parts of the day, and I'm always happy when I'm around to see it.:smitten:
seriously. i love nice guys. just not the ones who suck.
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