Just curious if other people have experienced this before. My first long term partner which ended nearly 3 years ago now, had a HUGE problem with me losing weight. I've always steadily gained weight for as long as i can remember. I'm always going to be a big girl, and i'm proud of that, but back then, i was trying to lose weight. (I've had ovarian cysts a few times now, and doctors have told me that my chances of having children would go up if i lost weight.) My partner got really really angry about it, and worried that he would lose me if i got smaller. Which was really disheartening because i wasn't doing it for appearances. Well, eventually my relationship with him ended, and i went from being a confident happy SSBBW, to an insecure, body conscious BBW. My weight loss made me feel worse. (i'd had a similar relationship before him that ended because i was gaining weight). Is maintaining a larger weight important for guys who like bigger girls, or do you think once you find that special someone, you'll love them no matter what size they are? I know i myself have always prefered bigger guys, but if my fiance suddenly started losing weight (or gaining it for that matter), i wouldn't find him unattractive all of the sudden.