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DonnieD80

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When I was young till mid 20s my prefences were very narrow. I wasn't focused on one body part in particular, what I really liked it was just a nice body for "common standards" with a "little flaw". The little flaw could have been thighs a bit too thick for that body, or a butt a bit too big and bouncy, or a starter belly, or a little muffin top. The "flaw" was very attractive to me, but even more the contrast between a body otherwise "perfect" and that little, isolated sign of overindulgence.


I would have liked a curvy girl, but nothing too exaggerated. I could appreciate a little bit of a belly, but a full blown pot-belly was just gross. So my ideal girl would have been one that would have been "perfect" at 120 lbs, but was carrying 130-140 instead, and the excess showed in a specific place. Also when I started reading stories here on dimensionsmagazine I was only going for the ones labelled "Small Weight Gain".


The girls I was dating reflected that.. they were just slim and fit and I was hoping they'd put on 10-15 lbs (and it happened more than once), or they were carrying those extra few pounds already.


My preference has changed with my age though. My girlfriend when we were in our mid 20s was slim, even skinny. When she started her first proper job things changed a bit. Long days sitting in a office, little energy left after that and more money to eat out.. in one year she went up those 15 pounds that were all I could dream of. Her hips got juicier and a little roll started to form just above her waistband when she was sitting down. That used to be precisely my dream, my endpoint.


As we got into our 30s though my dreams grown bigger. I started to hope to see that little roll becoming a proper one, and then even a spare tyre. Luckily my girlfriend habits didn't change. Many hours sitting, good food from the canteen and many nights at restaurants. Her roll kept growing, slowly but steadily. By the time she hit 35 she had that spare tyre! We met with old friends from university and it was amazing to see my girlfriend, once the slimmest of the group, was then the biggest. She had gained 55 lbs over 8 years, her hips were wider, her thighs chunkier and her muffin top so obvious. Stll she was an hourglass, because her boobs had grown a lot too. I thought that was great, because hourglasses and pears were nice.. I wouldn't have liked an apple.


In my late 30s I started dating my current partner. She was just below 110 lbs and very, very fit. Flat chested, a hint of six pack on her flat stomach, narrow hips, muscly legs and arms. That was till Covid. Many habits changed that year.. less activity, more time at home, as everyone else cooking and baking in our house exploded.. It didn't seem to take a toll on her body initially, untill it did.. it was around Xmas 2020. Her tummy was getting softer and rounder. She was up 15 pounds and it seemed to have gone all to her belly. Suddenly I started to hope it would have kept growing. My new dream was a proper pot-bellied girl, even better if the boobs stayed small, so the belly would be even more the prominent feature. Well, I started "worshipping" that starter belly. My girl found it funny and soon understood she didn't have to worry about her little gain.. she relaxed a lot actually. All the "bad habits" we took up during covid were just getting stronger (take aways, restaurants, lazy long nights on the sofa, always a dessert), even when the gyms reopened we didn't sign up anymore. She had to go up one size with her trousers, and a second one lately. At home she still wear her old t-shirts but they have started riding up her belly, leaving the lower part exposed. A friend called in recently and she opened the door in one of those t-shirts. Nothing was said but clearly her friend's eyes fell a few times on my girlfriend's belly, and she was obviously aware as she was pulling at the t-shirt to cover more. As the friend left my girl laughed and said she has to remember to wear something decent just in case people call in. She has gone up just above 40 lbs since covid started, and with most of them going to her belly there is no way she can easily hide it. Now my dream is for my apple to grow even more there in the middle. Another 20 lbs would be just perfect to make that belly even rounder, softer, maybe even a nice sag as she stands at the door in her small t-shirt, now just a skimpy crop top on her.


And the belly is not the only flaw.. her flat chest got some pounds, but it's clearly just fat so that her boobs look similar to moobs and they have come together with armpit fat and back rolls. Her arms got fatter too, there are some shirts and dresses she can't wear because her arms wouldn't fit in the sleeves or would just look like sausages.


If in the past I used to be a fan of a single little flaw showing a little excess of overindulgence in an otherwise fit girl, now I love to see my previously fit girl sporting a proper belly, you can tell she has been treating herself a bit too well everyday over the past year and a half, and if the belly is not enough she has fat arms and back rolls too. I guess the fit girl is only in our memories and in the memories of our friends.


I even like her hips haven't grown much.. so that she hasn't become more voluptuous, just bulkier.


Anyone alse this drastic change in taste?
 

DonnieD80

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Yeah I agree.. the "flaw" is the most attractive part to me, so a strong point to my eyes, but generally a "flaw" according to the beauty standard that was imposed in the 90s with those super skinny models cat walking. I think finally things are changing though! :)
 

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Yeah I agree.. the "flaw" is the most attractive part to me, so a strong point to my eyes, but generally a "flaw" according to the beauty standard that was imposed in the 90s with those super skinny models cat walking. I think finally things are changing though! :)
They’re not going to change as long as you continue to refer to those parts you find attractive as “flaws”. Even if you find it attractive, using the word “flaw” to describe our different body parts is perpetuating the impossible beauty standards that have ruled back far longer than the nineties. Using a neutral word would, in my opinion, communicate the same thought without reinforcing society’s awful beauty standard.

Please do better. For example, instead of “and the belly is not the only flaw”, change it to “and the belly is not the only difference.” Using the neutral word “difference” as opposed to the negative “flaw”, you’re still communicating the same thought without any unnecessary negativity.
 

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I have to agree with @Donna and @Dromond that the use of the word „flaw“ is not approbriate for a fat admirer.

Other than that, great question and great story.

When I met my wife at age 19, she weighed a mere 155 lbs (about my weight but she’s about 4 inches shorter than me) She wasn‘t fat but chubby and had small tits. Her chubbiness would have almost prevented me from dating her because I was into slim girls with big natural boobs. But I liked her and so we started dating. So even if she hadn‘t gained any weight later on (chubby & small tits), this was already a change of preference (slim and big tits)

We both loved to cook and eat and I vividly remember how I admired her appetite and that I loved to watch her eat. She never seemed to stop eating until she was completely full. In addition to that, she hardly ever exercised and when she did, she rewarded herself with food.

The inevitable consequence was, of course, weight gain. After about 3-4 months into our relationship, she had gained a bit more than 25 lbs and now she wasn‘t just a bit chubby anymore but beginning to become fat. As she complained about her wobbly belly one day, I truthfully responded to her that I loved her including her belly.

Barely two months later, she had gained more weight - almost 20 lbs and when I discovered that she had a cute double belly, I was absolutely thrilled. This was my defining moment as a fat admirer although my preference still wasn‘t totally exclusive yet.

It became more and more exclusive (to the point of becoming a fetish), the fatter she got (up to 285 lbs within 10 years). I am pretty sure that I wouldn‘t have dated if she had weighed 285 lbs when we first met.

285 lbs isn‘t where I would draw the line. More is better, in principle. So I would love it if she gained another, say, 45 lbs. But this is of course her decision.

I certainly have developped some feeder tendencies (a notion I would have rejected emphatically 10 years ago) but I haven‘t lived them out
 

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Not skinny I think covers it. All people can be appealing or attractive just in how they smile, what they say, or how they act. However, skinny just doesn't turn me on or attract me physically. Chubby, plump, curvy, BBW, SSBBW, USSBBW all have their appeal to me!
 

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I have to agree with @Donna and @Dromond that the use of the word „flaw“ is not approbriate for a fat admirer.

Other than that, great question and great story.

When I met my wife at age 19, she weighed a mere 155 lbs (about my weight but she’s about 4 inches shorter than me) She wasn‘t fat but chubby and had small tits. Her chubbiness would have almost prevented me from dating her because I was into slim girls with big natural boobs. But I liked her and so we started dating. So even if she hadn‘t gained any weight later on (chubby & small tits), this was already a change of preference (slim and big tits)

We both loved to cook and eat and I vividly remember how I admired her appetite and that I loved to watch her eat. She never seemed to stop eating until she was completely full. In addition to that, she hardly ever exercised and when she did, she rewarded herself with food.

The inevitable consequence was, of course, weight gain. After about 3-4 months into our relationship, she had gained a bit more than 25 lbs and now she wasn‘t just a bit chubby anymore but beginning to become fat. As she complained about her wobbly belly one day, I truthfully responded to her that I loved her including her belly.

Barely two months later, she had gained more weight - almost 20 lbs and when I discovered that she had a cute double belly, I was absolutely thrilled. This was my defining moment as a fat admirer although my preference still wasn‘t totally exclusive yet.

It became more and more exclusive (to the point of becoming a fetish), the fatter she got (up to 285 lbs within 10 years). I am pretty sure that I wouldn‘t have dated if she had weighed 285 lbs when we first met.

285 lbs isn‘t where I would draw the line. More is better, in principle. So I would love it if she gained another, say, 45 lbs. But this is of course her decision.

I certainly have developped some feeder tendencies (a notion I would have rejected emphatically 10 years ago) but I haven‘t lived them out
LuckyFA, this is the stuff of a great WG story. Why don't you write it? I'm sure lots of people will like it
 

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My preferences regarding womans figures and size has increased substantially. I now hope to have a mate that is 400#+ and have tried to date women over 600#. When i was younger i never had this range of preference. Guess i just want more and more of what i like in abundance. I used to say I liked BBWs, now it is really SSBBW I like. I m tolerant though. Figure and weight is just one factor in a appealing woman to me. But, our dreams are made of images are they not. I think FAs like me, have dream images of SSBBWs and being with them and winning their hearts and companionship. We just like em very big and fat.
 
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Like many my range extended quite a bit over time. Initially I was mainly focused on chubby girls. For a while some of the girls I found attractive would also qualify as thin too. But now I just have a more defined preference range that is usually 200-600 depending on height and shape. However I am not a numbers guy unless I'm actively in a feedist relationship. Even then I'm results-driven more than process. So it's basically helping them reach their goal and then taking care of them as best I can.
 
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My story is quite commonplace. In my young days a lady in the 200-220 lbs / 90-100 kilos range was paradise, with an upper limit around 330 lbs /150 kilos. Then the lower limit of paradise shifted to 265-lbs / 120 kilos (and the upper limit moved accordingly), then it moved to 330 lbs / 150 kilos, and now it's above 365-370 lbs / 165-170 kilos, and the upper limit is the sky.

According to what I read and hear, this increase of the 'ideal' weight through the time is rather common among FAs.
 
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I hadn't thought about it much until I read this thread, but as I look back over the years, I've always been attracted to full, plush figures. I don't know that I have a favorite flavor, as I find them all very hard to resist.
 

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My size preference has definitely evolved over the years. Although “not skinny” has always been true. In my teens and twenties I was mostly physically attracted to women in their 200s. Over the last 20 years that has definitely changed and I now I am very happy that my wife is almost 500 lbs. with a slowly increasing tendency. But this also applies to my own weight. Back then I was in the mud 200s and thought of myself as a fat man. Now I am around 450 and see room for further growth.
 
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i think i responded this same question on a different site mmm but i think i have something else to say. the perception changes, definitely. 10 years ago, well, 15 or 20 years ago, me , standing at 6'2 and in a range of 200-210 pounds, feeling heavy at 220... would see a lady, at 5'5 for example and 170 pounds, curvy, even chubby. that was of course before boberry changed my whole perspective lol. the fat are just chubby now, the obese are curvy, the super obese are just getting started. so that is different. i do not get impressed by someone saying oh i am fat and just has a few rolls and cellulite to show off
 
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I’ve always liked ladies of all shapes, sizes, and colors, but as time has gone on, people on the larger end of the weight spectrum seem more appealing to me.

Not sure if this fits in this thread or not, but I’ve also switched back and forth from feeder/fa to feedee/bhm several times. Now I’m sort of both? Not necessarily a mutual gainer, but someone has to be gaining. Me, her, or both.
 

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Since being with my partner and introducing her to feedism (she isn't really into but is willing to work it into our sex lives) I've found I've been more confident to explore what my preferences are. Before I wouldn't normally think about women really bigger than about 300lbs but now there's not really a limit, and of course I just find it even hotter when they have gained to a larger size! But that's always been the case 😅
 

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Not changed, but expanded.

From a very young age I was attracted to lady's bare feet, I suppose because that's what I was closest to.

Nearing puberty I was attracted to full breasts, then large breasts, then larger breasts. Then I noticed the larger breasts I was attracted to were usually on fat women. This was in my mid teens when I figured out I am attracted to fat women.

Next in addition to huge boobs, huge hips, buttocks & thighs. By this time I was probably 18.

Since then I have found feminine loveliness in big soft upper arms & soft jiggly belly aprons, along with an appreciation of cellulite anywhere it may accumulate upon a woman's flesh.
 

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