How do you say, "No", when they just don't get it?

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  1. Jan 26, 2006 #1

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    I find it rather distressing that my friendly self gets abused on this wonderful forum. I used to think that when fat gals insisted we look on the inside to see the beauty that it would be there. If this forum is representative of what fat women are like then I detect very little internal beauty. Instead I find nastiness, bitterness, loneliness and hostility. Many residue residents are sad because they wonder why they won't be getting a Valentine this year. Is it any wonder? If you are a really nice, caring person guys will be lining up to be with you. There is no need to come online and hope someone notices you.

    If you are a good person then you will treat those you disapprove of as Christ advises. To do otherwise is to reveal more about yourself that you ever thought possible. I know it is easy to react to some inflammatory people but retain love in your heart and you will flame no one.

    At the moment this site is a good place for masochists to assemble. I am beginning to wonder if most fat women have a sense of humour!
     
  2. Jan 26, 2006 #2

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    Once upon a time I was in India, at an ashram. The ashram offerred several interesting groups, all in the aid of having a look at oneself. Some were "light"--meditation, and so on. Others were intense---primal scream, the therapy John Lennon had done right before he'd written and recorded his raw, intense first solo album. I did primal, I did tantra, but first I did "Incounter"---an offshoot of the proverbial "encounter" group.

    There was a guy in the group named Eric. From the first day Eric didn't get along with anybody. Every time he tried to pay a compliment to a woman in the group, he ended up attacking her instead, sometimes subtly, sometimes directly. Again and again, women would tell him exactly what he'd said that they found insulting; again and again, he'd open his mouth and put his foot in it.

    Most people, when they do a group like that and get honest feedback from people, end up dropping the behaviors that get on other people's nerves, the behaviors that keep them eternally frustrated and alone and friendless and always fighting with people.

    Not Eric. From start to finish, he kept doing the same things and being treated the same way. At the end of the group, his conclusion was that every single person in there was wrong except him. He left exactly the same as he arrived.

    He wasn't a bad guy; he just didn't have a speck of capacity to look at himself, even when others pointed his obnoxious behavior out to him.

    May Goddess light your way, Vince.
     
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    *Hands Josh a brewski (or whatever floats your boat) and a pat on the back*
     
  4. Jan 26, 2006 #4

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    Ah, we discover Vince's problem. He only reads his own posts.

    Me thinks you doth PROJECT too much, Vince.
     
  5. Jan 26, 2006 #5

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    Gosh, someone actually trying to help me! What can I say but, thank you very much!
     
  6. Jan 26, 2006 #6

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    Has NFA actually met another admirer in real life? Just wondering. I can't get over how friendly the blokes are on Dimensions.
     
  7. Jan 26, 2006 #7

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    Vince, don't give me that bullshit.

    I and others have been trying to help you, pointing out how you could improve your interpersonal reactions with others, for years now. You either belittle my efforts or ignore me completely, as you have with others. I've watched you play this game, the hapless prawn, over and over, insulting the men and women here, then playing victim when you get called on your shit. There's been invariably at least one poor innocent woman who's sided with you, defended you to the "mean, nasty, catty" women here, claiming we don't understand you. But then, not surprisingly in a matter of time, they too see your pseudo intellectual philospher BS for what it is -- the ravings of a man who either truly hates women or loves them and hates himself for it. The difference now is that you've run through the current group of women, and there's nobody to defend you. (Where's Marcelline, I wonder?)

    Get a new schtick, Vince. This one's old and tired. At some point I truly hope you can look at your behavior and see it for what it is; then, I hope you will try another tact to make friends, 'cause this one's not working.

    And if this is just some sort of pathetic game to get attention, dear Vince, get the hell over yourself and take it elsewhere. 'Cause we're tired of it. Truly, I hope you decide to learn what you should have learned in kindergarten, and be NICE. But ultimately the choice is yours.

    (This is your cue to either make a joke out of my desire to help, or else make some snide reference to something in my history that you've kept on your hard drive for all these years -- just as you've done countless times. Call me a hapless Pollyanna but I truly hope you'll see the error of your ways and grow up, apologize for hurting the nice people here, and start acting like an adult with grown children. 'Cause otherwise, you'll eventually run out of bridges to burn, my friend).
     
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    God bless you, Vickie, for you have a heart of gold. I just wish you would stop being so good to me.
     
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    Vickie I think that he uses and abuses the kindness granted him. He doesn't want pointers...he wants to stir things up and grab attention. Now as a Chippy I of course get attention but I'm here to have fun and lighten peoples day (or try to), not here to cause crap.

    Ignoring is the best tool against this form of being.
     
  10. Jan 26, 2006 #10

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    Completely agreed.

    However: I've been on forums for a long time - whenever certain people show up and cause trouble, "just ignore he/she/them/it" is the most commonly used phrase - and the least commonly listened to and followed.

    So. We know this Vince is a troublemaker. From now on, DON'T speak to him, DON'T try to help him, DON'T acknowledge his presence on this forum, and only give the SLIGHTEST attention to his existence as a person.

    Not. A. Word. To. Him.
     
  11. Jan 26, 2006 #11

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    The problem with ignoring trolls is that not every troll is there to get attention and will slink away when ignored. Some come for their own twisted issues. Vince is such a troll. He's here because he cannot deal with his attraction with fat women. Just look at what prompted his return. He was supposedly rejected by a woman because of his lustful attraction to fat women. Now, either he made up that story which only makes him more screwed up and it says much that this was the background he invented for himself. Or its true, and he wants to take the rejection out on the residents of this board. He is self-fueled and will continue to lash out until he finds a reason to be distracted.

    In the meantime, people unaware of what a hurtful tool Vince is will see his promotion of his self-loathing go unanswered. By ignoring Vince, we give him a platform with which to deliver his message of self-hate unfettered. Some may fall for his trap, most will wonder if this is what this board stands for. I'm not inclined to allow anyone the chance to make that mistake.

    As long as Vince is allowed to post here, people should call him out for his behavior.
     
  12. Jan 26, 2006 #12

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    Dude. Bahhut achha guru hai.
     
  13. Jan 26, 2006 #13

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    Vince, I think you're a hoot. It's pretty obvious that you're intentionally pushing buttons, left 'n right, and then sitting back to watch what kind of new shitstorm you've created.

    I'm not aware of your history with Dimensions, but I sure recognize a troll when I see one. You serve a useful function here -- some groups will play 'circle the wagons' with you cast as the dreaded villian; others will use you as fodder to suit their own purposes. In any event, you're not boring.

    The day that you do become boring is the day that people will stop paying attention to you.

    Until then .... :eat1:
     
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    Ah poor Vince. Sometimes you really have to feel sorry for him.
     
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    Really? I find him quite boring, actually. But YOU, TraciJo, YOU I like. :D
     
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    Vince, let me begin this post as I do all my posts, by explaining that I'm not gay.

    YET (and this is a big "yet") there's something oddly enticing about you. Perhaps it's the Granddaddy Factor (even tho you're a mere 13 years older than me.) Maybe it's the eyebrows. Or maybe it's the way you carry yourself on the forums, freely dispensing fatherly advice where you see fit. But I must say I'm developing quite a strong guy-crush on you. :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:

    Most likely it was your performance in your own late '80s hardcore BBW porn flick, "Tree Trunk Thighs Admirer" that did it. *bats eyelashes*

    I was on the fence before. Rock on, dude. *blows kiss at map of Australia*:wubu:
     
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    I am glad I am entertaining the troops. Tracijo is obviously a great fan of mine.

    To Vickie. I really don't know what to say to you. We have been around this site for at least 8 years. Remember when someone attacked you on the Weight Board? It was over nothing much at all. The person might have just been trying to upset you. Before long Burt arrived to dispatch that nasty person. The same thing has happened when netstalker tried to upset you. I think Burt came on and tried to sort me out once. Well, dear, what gives you the right to personally criticize someone on this forum? Do you think it will be appreciated any more than what others did to you in the past? We are all equally sensitive.

    This is not a site exclusively for fat women. The admirers are welcome here and therefore I am, too. I don't like to see anyone being attacked. Flames have no place here. What you and a few others are doing to me is a flame. You should be ashamed of yourself. Or do you imagine that just because you know some others might support you that you are right in what you do? I find that very sad for someone as empathic as you seem to be.

    If I remember correctly it was some of the good ladies here who attacked Ladyrose in the past. I tried to protect her but she helped her own demise and sabotaged me in the process.

    This really is a very hostile site. You are living proof of that. Just remember that it was the very good citizens of Bethlehem that chose to put Christ to death. They did the same to Socrates. Heck, what I receive here is a mere baptism. I emerge cleansed and humiliated. I wonder why that just doesn't fulfill me?

    You know, it is interesting to watch the interactions. I see many with ulterior motives. Most want something from the others. I do not. I have some friends here so be careful about your generalizations. Statements usually end up being false if you include words like "all".
     
  18. Jan 26, 2006 #18

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    Beware of the troll!!

    Vince the Troll..jpg
     
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    You should perhaps take care and look in your own backyard before looking towards anywhere else.
     
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    Not very Aussie of our Australian Lord mate to not tell us his name. I stand by my posts. I use humour but many fail to see it and assume I am flaming others. It gives me no pleasure to roast others. Imagine if I used my skill to do to others what they do to me!
     

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