Since I came out to myself only recently, I didn't have my first encounter with a BHM until a few weeks ago. 5'6" and 290 lbs. at a pretty equal weight distribution. (Me, I'm 6'1" at 153 lbs.) I'm totally into him as a person, somthing I can't do without when I'm intimate with a man, so that counts for a lot, but I found short BHMs might be exactly my thing.