Hi all,
I just wanted to ask the groupthink here about one thing.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now (I'm 18, she's 19), and she's the first BBW I've ever dated. For the most part, it's amazing. I've never been so attracted to someone as I am to her, and mentally and emotionally she provides me with more support than my family and friends put together. She's all in all an amazing girl, and I'm beyond lucky to have her in my life.
There's one thing though. She hates her weight. She's not the type that is constantly complaining about it, or constantly going on fad diets. Rather, she almost never mentions it and when she does it's when she's talking about how ugly she thinks she is. And it absolutely kills me. She deals with enough depression as it is, the last thing I want to see is her hating how she looks, when in reality she's very beautiful (even to a non-FA). I tell her that she's beautiful constantly, but she always kinda looks at me sadly when I say that, like she doesn't believe me. She once told me that her ex, whom she dated for over 1.5 years, never once said that she was beautiful. So I guess that probably effects her a lot.
I really want to change that though. I really want to do whatever I can to help her self-esteem, no matter what.
So basically, my question is this:
1. To the (F)FAs out there, if you have/had a BBW partner(s), how did you help them accept who they are?
2. To the BBWs out there, how did you come to terms with your size?
Thanks in advance guys
I just wanted to ask the groupthink here about one thing.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now (I'm 18, she's 19), and she's the first BBW I've ever dated. For the most part, it's amazing. I've never been so attracted to someone as I am to her, and mentally and emotionally she provides me with more support than my family and friends put together. She's all in all an amazing girl, and I'm beyond lucky to have her in my life.
There's one thing though. She hates her weight. She's not the type that is constantly complaining about it, or constantly going on fad diets. Rather, she almost never mentions it and when she does it's when she's talking about how ugly she thinks she is. And it absolutely kills me. She deals with enough depression as it is, the last thing I want to see is her hating how she looks, when in reality she's very beautiful (even to a non-FA). I tell her that she's beautiful constantly, but she always kinda looks at me sadly when I say that, like she doesn't believe me. She once told me that her ex, whom she dated for over 1.5 years, never once said that she was beautiful. So I guess that probably effects her a lot.
I really want to change that though. I really want to do whatever I can to help her self-esteem, no matter what.
So basically, my question is this:
1. To the (F)FAs out there, if you have/had a BBW partner(s), how did you help them accept who they are?
2. To the BBWs out there, how did you come to terms with your size?
Thanks in advance guys
