I love being an FA

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  1. Sep 30, 2019 #1

    mathfa

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    My girlfriend is big, 5'6" and about 195 when I met her and maybe 210 now. And she's always hated her body, and hated that she looks the ways she does. She even struggled with bulimia as a result of her first boyfriend (who was a horrible human being). She's got depression, and sometimes it's really hard to listen to how hard she is on herself.

    But like, over the years we've been together, I've watched her become more confident in who she is. From going from someone who was afraid I would never want to have sex with her, to literally video calling me while she takes a shower, she's just become incredibly confident around me.

    And like, I know that deep down, she probably still isn't happy with how she looks. And that's okay. I never expected to be some magical cure that would fix all her self-confidence issues. But, if my having this preference has given her even the slightest bit of confidence, if its made her life just slightly happier, then I can't begin to describe how happy I am that I was born this way.

    What prompted me to write this was a few days ago, I was talking about one of my math classes (i'm a math nerd sorry), and how the professor was saying he liked drawing curves on the board. She stopped me and said "I know you like curves", then sent me a naughty picture she had been saving.

    Like, the fact that somehow, I've been able to help her in this way is mind-boggling. And maybe that doesn't happen if I wasn't born an FA. Who knows? But like, this was always a preference I used to be ashamed of. But now, like, I've seen how much good it can do for someone, just to be loved in that way.

    Sorry, just some random thoughts. I love my girlfriend. Peace, goodnight :)
     
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  2. Oct 5, 2019 #2

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    i think i can relate in a way to what you are saying. in my case, and i will share something... for the sake of it. my wife has gained about 30kg since we married 6 years ago. needless to say i am very happy with the gain, it has been not intentional and in fact she complains about it very often and it has her on an emotional rollercoaster, but... thank god i am an fa because otherwise i wouldn't so happy i think
     
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  3. Oct 6, 2019 #3

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    Similar experience here. My gf is a little chubby—maybe 180ish at 5’6“, having recently put on a few pounds unintentionally. Goes without saying that her gain makes my heart sing. She doesn’t seem to love that she has gained, but is quicker to throw away jeans that don’t fit than to start exercising or anything. Anyway, we were talking yesterday about her weight and she is still pleasantly surprised that I’m an FA. Like many girls I’ve known, she has learned that society expects her to be skinny. She’s known for at least 2 years that I’m into fat girls, but when I finally got up the courage to ask her if she’d be willing to gain, she was happy that I asked—that she knows she doesn’t have to worry about being slim for me. She told one of her exercise-obsessed friends what I asked her and apparently it helped this friend of hers who thought she would never find a partner if she didn’t lose weight.

    I didn’t choose to be an FA, was never given a box to tic. But I think you’re right that when we own our FAness and are willing to show it, that can be really positive for others. I love being an FA. Thanks for the post
     

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