"I'm a BBW and I like BHM, why is that such a bad thing Thread"

Discussion in 'BHM/FFA' started by Surlysomething, Jan 3, 2008.

  1. Jan 11, 2008 #61

    Rounderly

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    YES...I am exactly the same way. As long as someone is fat and both people like it that way, it doesn't really matter to me who the fat one is (although BOTH is an intriguing possibility that I hope to experience soon!).
     
  2. Jan 11, 2008 #62

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    When I met my wife she was a BBW and I was an FA. Two years into our relationship we had an honest discussion about weight. We admitted to each other we preferred to be fatter then we were then. A year later I was a BHM dating an SSBBW. Thirty years later I am still married to my SSBBW and I guess, at 330 lbs., I am an SSBHM.

    Relax and don't look for your BHM so hard, He might be waiting for you to notice he is standing next to you.
     
  3. Jan 11, 2008 #63

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    Good point. My husband and I have gotten a lot larger since we have been married (over two decades now.) It just takes some time, but often nature does the work... ; )
     
  4. Jan 13, 2008 #64

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    I guess technically I'm not lurking--I'm more falling off the face of the planet because work gets crazy. But I'm back for the time being. Forgive me?
     
  5. Jan 13, 2008 #65

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    I really appreciate everyone's addition to this thread.


    Thanks!

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  6. Jan 13, 2008 #66

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    I'm a BBW who likes BHMs its defiantly not a bad thing. If anyone doesn't like it thats their problem. :rolleyes:
     
  7. Jan 13, 2008 #67

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    Technically...you could say that I am a BBW who likes BHM. The truth is I have always been attracted to larger men, I've never been attracted to what some people see as "scrawny" guys. Even if I lost weight and wasn't a BBW anymore I would still be attracted to larger guys because it's just my preference and that doesn't change even if my own size changed.

    It's also not just about size. There's so much more about someone that attracts me to them other than their size. However, I usually know if there is a basic physical attraction before a guy even opens his mouth. lol I think that's the same with everyone though. The chemistry is there or it isn't...regardless of size. I have just always felt the chemistry was there for me with bigger guys....doesn't need to be all muscle, doesn't need to be all fat..just the perfect combination of both makes me melt. LOL :wubu:
     
  8. Jan 14, 2008 #68

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    I haven't been around very long, but I for one find your posts interesting. Hope work lets up a bit for you soon.

    Aurora1, that's my experience, too - there's just a "chemistry" with some people that's almost magical.
     
  9. Jan 15, 2008 #69

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    Interesting topic, it just kind of caught my eye.
    I'm 6ft 2in tall guy and I weigh in at just at 400 lbs. I totally love BBW (ask anyone who knows me, they'll tell you). I'm open about it mainly because I like not having to live in a lie. I'm also married to a great BBW as well. She makes me happier than I ever thought I could be.

    To the topic at hand, I've never met an FFA in real life. I guess that's how a lot of BBW feel about FA's. I do know they exist, but probobly not in my town. I don't think it would have changed my preferance in women had I met one early on as I was always more into bigger girls, but that's not to say I wouldn't have ever dated a skinny girl. Girls are girls, and I like girls... well, most of them. There are a few harpies out in the world, but that is more of a personality disorder than anything.

    I think any person that has a preferance for a person of size ought to be up front about it. Don't feel out of place. I think it really is awesome that there are skinny girls that activly seek out fat guys. That makes me happy and it satisfies my sense of proportion in a social sense. Plenty of skinny guys go for BBW and plenty of BBW Go for Skinny guys, so why not have it the other way around as well?

    As for me, I'm a fat-on-fat kind of guy. That's just how I roll. But, in the great lovefest that life can sometimes be, Skinny people are invited to the orgy in my mind as well.

    Best example I can think of is Last year at the Bash at the Flamingo, when the bashers took over the topless sunbathing pool. There were a few skinny chicks amongst the sea of flesh and they were having a good time. I think it was because they didn't feel a need to be competitive and catty and just decided to enjoy themselves amongst fat people who were having fun themselves. It was that day I got to see skinny chicks having fun with fat people. Up until then, I had always thought skinny chicks just kind of secretly loathed fat people, but then I saw that that just wasn't the case.

    So I don't have a problem with skinny-on-fat or fat-on-skinny. It's just fine with me because it doesn't change who I am. I think we should all get along. :)
     
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    LOLOL, good pun! I just figured out what "rep" is and how to wield it, and you got some for that remark.
     
  11. Nov 6, 2011 #71

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    Cool, Surly, from the male side, as a BHM who adores BBW/SSBBW, I feel exactly the same way!
     
  12. Nov 6, 2011 #72

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    Rise, old thread, rise and live again!!

    :p:D
     
  13. Nov 6, 2011 #73

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    I'm a bbw who hasn't dated a man under 300 pounds in the past 4 or so od years XD
     
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  14. Nov 9, 2011 #74

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    Well, I think everyone understands that real people relate to real people: which means everything about the person that defines them: looks, personality, intellect, sense of humor, selflessness, generosity, kindness, etc.

    As it relates to this topic, I'd like to simply respond with respect to PHYSICAL preferences.

    I'm a BHM - 6' and 325 lbs. I unabashedly am attracted to super busty bbws / ssbbws who are also FFAs.

    It is what it is, and I can't help myself!

    That said, for any real interaction to take place, she and I obviously need to have synergy and chemistry on all of the other attributes, some of which I list above.

    I don't believe this makes me shallow, or discriminatory. I have also had wonderful relationships with women who don't fit my preferred physical ideal. I think as human beings we all like what we like, and seek it out with respect to exercising our preferences. That said, serendipity sometimes comes into play and occasionally - can broaden our horizons. ;)

    I still prefer bigger, softer, more voluptuous gals though! lol
     
  15. Nov 10, 2011 #75

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    I like both bigger girls and skinny girls. Each has their own merits. But any girl who finds me attractive is okay in my book. :)
     
  16. Nov 11, 2011 #76

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    I Love BBW's
     
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  17. Nov 12, 2011 #77

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    Most straight BHMs I know think like this. They want a woman. Levels of attraction differ from person to person, not just a theoretical size.

    I am definitely into fat guys but I will not turn someone away because he is thin/average/buff. I am a face and brain girl first, and if we have a connection, I will find him freaking sexy, period.
     
  18. Nov 12, 2011 #78

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    I posting this because it is a milestone post. I have nothing new to add, except I'm a big hefty guy who likes fat girls.
     
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  19. Nov 13, 2011 #79

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    Exactly. The first look at on a girl is her face. If she has a pretty face then I'm probably gonna like her. (but probably not talk to her because I'm terribly shy in real life. lol) Then when I get to know her it's her sense of humor and personality that keeps me.
     
  20. Nov 17, 2011 #80

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    I'm a skinny male FA, and once or twice a girl I've been interested in (who obviously is a BBW) will shoot me down because...she likes chubby guys! And you know what, I don't even get mad, instead I get a big grin and wish her luck, because we BOTH love the chubby folk and therefore are comrades. :D
     
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