Introducing your kids to your bigger SO.

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toecutter18

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It’s not quite time yet, but the day is coming when my 10 and 6 year old boys will be introduced to my 350 ish lbs girlfriend who I’m madly in love with. I’m concerned about their interactions with her. Their mom is a lot smaller at around 160 ish. The whole community as a whole seems to been slimmer so my kids aren’t used to a bbw in their life, neither have I for that matter. I’m finally taking the plunge, just never had the guts to do it before. Anyway, any advice for getting my kids to be welcoming and understanding to make her feel welcome when the time comes?
 

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There are bigger women portrayed on many different things, tv advertisements, movies, sitcoms and other places. I am sure they have seen bigger people. I don’t think her size should be an issue. I would just give them a reminder to be on their best behavior and that this person is important to you. That should do it, if there is an issue correct their behavior as appropriate.
 

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It’s not quite time yet, but the day is coming when my 10 and 6 year old boys will be introduced to my 350 ish lbs girlfriend who I’m madly in love with. I’m concerned about their interactions with her. Their mom is a lot smaller at around 160 ish. The whole community as a whole seems to been slimmer so my kids aren’t used to a bbw in their life, neither have I for that matter. I’m finally taking the plunge, just never had the guts to do it before. Anyway, any advice for getting my kids to be welcoming and understanding to make her feel welcome when the time comes?
I guess that if you are comfortable with your girlfriend, your children will feel that and it will be ok for them.
 

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It’s not quite time yet, but the day is coming when my 10 and 6 year old boys will be introduced to my 350 ish lbs girlfriend who I’m madly in love with. I’m concerned about their interactions with her. Their mom is a lot smaller at around 160 ish. The whole community as a whole seems to been slimmer so my kids aren’t used to a bbw in their life, neither have I for that matter. I’m finally taking the plunge, just never had the guts to do it before. Anyway, any advice for getting my kids to be welcoming and understanding to make her feel welcome when the time comes?
I agree with @DragonFly . I don't know why her weight would even be an issue that needs to be addressed. Introducing her as your girlfriend and someone who is important to you should be enough for them to respect her as a person.
 

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I never warn anybody before the first real meeting. I make no exception, never. When they realize that I have a 400 lbs wife, they just look shyly. It's completely normal to have a fat partner. Your kids will love your fat GF.
 

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I've not gone through this situation, so the below is just based on general handling situations experience.

I don't think you focus on her weight, because that just puts a big flag next to it. Instead I'd suggest:
- you emphasize before the meeting (s) that they be on their politest behavior because she is special to you.
- you keep the first meeting fairly short, to make that first point easier!
- You do say that she isn't like their Mom, that they'll have to get to know her for her.
- You ask them each to have something they like to tell her about (a lego thing they made, their gymnastics class, the funny thing their friend's dog does. Doesn't matter what, just something that will get them talking)
- You tell them that after she has left you all will talk, and you will answer any questions they have, so that they know they can ask you stuff later.
-that you make sure she is ready for kid curiousity and is ready to field questions without offense.

Good luck!!!!
 

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It’s not quite time yet, but the day is coming when my 10 and 6 year old boys will be introduced to my 350 ish lbs girlfriend who I’m madly in love with. I’m concerned about their interactions with her. Their mom is a lot smaller at around 160 ish. The whole community as a whole seems to been slimmer so my kids aren’t used to a bbw in their life, neither have I for that matter. I’m finally taking the plunge, just never had the guts to do it before. Anyway, any advice for getting my kids to be welcoming and understanding to make her feel welcome when the time comes?
I would normally say that this shouldn't be a problem at all if you raised your kids right (this is NOT a condemnation of your parenting). If all along, you've taught your boys not to be judgmental toward people for their appearance but on the content of their character, then you probably have nothing to worry about. If they know that you are happy and that this woman is a source of happiness for you, all should be good. Yes, children are heavily influenced by their peers and that could be something they may have to deal with. But more importantly, you need to show them that you are happy to be with her and that you don't have any fear about being seen with her. You have to show that you are in a normal, happy, loving relationship and as such they should be happy for you.
 

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It’s not quite time yet, but the day is coming when my 10 and 6 year old boys will be introduced to my 350 ish lbs girlfriend who I’m madly in love with. I’m concerned about their interactions with her. Their mom is a lot smaller at around 160 ish. The whole community as a whole seems to been slimmer so my kids aren’t used to a bbw in their life, neither have I for that matter. I’m finally taking the plunge, just never had the guts to do it before. Anyway, any advice for getting my kids to be welcoming and understanding to make her feel welcome when the time comes?

I just don't see what is wrong about dating someone that you appreciate. I don't think you'd be saying the same if ever your girlfriend happened to spurt a 36PPP bra cup, being adorned by a set of hips of 60 inches wide or just being 6 feet 5 tall and have to justifiy front to your kids and community about why your partner does looks so atypical compared to your ex-wife or the rest of your community why does you even compares her to somebody who no longer involvwa this intimely into your life or whoever member of your kinship. That sounds ludicrous to me, I think that the most uneased of you three are definitively not the children.
 

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