Is there minimum requirement to be considered a BHM?

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  1. Jun 22, 2019 #1

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    I'm not sure if it really exists
     
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    I think it's like porn, you know it when you see it. Some don't consider me that big at all, others are like OMG you are HUGE what happened??? :):):)
     
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    Yeah, I don’t think there’s a set “minimum” - a relatively fit guy with a chubby face and a bit of a belly will usually register as a “BHM” to me more than an objectively heavier guy who carries weight more evenly.
     
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    Good point - it’s not easy to give it an exact scientific measurement. My idea of a BHM starts with stocky/sturdy... and that is to my eye.
     
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    Yeah, I think if you consider yourself a BHM, you are free to use the label. I guess as an objective minimum, you probably don't count as one unless you are at least overweight by BMI standards (so for a 6 foot guy, that would be 185 lbs).

    Everybody has their own 'standard' for what they consider a BHM or not, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
     
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    The other thing is it's up to the receiver, I find. Like when I was "thin" and I took off my shirt on a date, one time my partner said "Oh! I thought you were lean!" "Naw, I'm squishy. Is that ok?" "Yeah, I'm just sayin'."
     
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    As some here know, I've been sorta struggling with this very issue ever since I found Dims. To some I'm not big enough, especially for the FFAs in attendance. And of course to others I'm too fat (I am only recently being able to use that word when describing myself or others). It's why I posed the question on whether I should consider gaining, even though that is not something I'm comfortable with at present.
    Plus I am loathe to refer to myself as a B-H-M. More like a BOM (big okay man).
     
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    I know one when I see one. I've seen guys who were barely overweight, bmi wise, who tickled my FFA fancy, as well as guys who were slightly obese, bmi wise, who didn't register with me at all. Agree with @Starling that faces (double chin+adorable chubby cheeks=❤) and bellies are key points of assessment, for me I also look for those cute pudgy hands and an ample seat (I appreciate large posteriors, and I am incapable of dishonesty ;)). I do wonder the same thing about the BBW side, still grappling with whether or not I can/should/"qualify to" identify as a BBW, if there is a thread on this topic I'd be most grateful if someone could point me to it.
     
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    If I look at a guy and I have to catch my breath, that's a BHM.
     
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    You just know.... if I see a head turner I’m like yup lol. I love really obese men, but chubby, stocky or squishy counts;)
     
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    Well, now I'm hopeful again.
     
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    I think that anyone who self-identifies as a BHM, should be accepted as one. Whether or not they're big enough to be attractive to me is another question. I think that any gainer, who longs to be a BHM, is at least a BHM on the inside.
     
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    Well, I have that going for me at least.
     
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    Moobs on top of a big belly are super sexy! :rolleyes:
     
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    Hell yeah when he sits down *swoon*
     

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