Discussion in 'Fat in the Media' started by John Smith, Aug 9, 2019.
Okay, who did this??!!
Hmm, interesting. There is definitely a risk for young people to get taken advantage of by older people in any community, but the consequences of that can be especially bad in our community. I think that no matter what sub-section of society you look at, there will always be people who are predatory.
I feel really sorry for such a young kid getting used like that. Obviously not all FAs or feeders are like that, not at all. The majority aren't, but stories about healthy relationships don't get made into videos, stories etc. Focus is always on the negative.
No matter what the community/fetish etc, the focus should always be on keeping yourself safe emotionally and physically. That's something that gets easier when you are older with more experience and confidence.
I agree with what loopy wrote - exploiting very young and vulnerable people always is a problem. And the internet unfortunately has made it easier to gain access to potential victims for predators of all walks.
Two more things struck me with the video though:
1) One of the worst things about the anti-fat hysteria and ensuing fat bashing in society is that it starts at a point where -especially with young girls - a person isn't even "overweight", not even in the so-called medical sense. A 16-year old girl with a BMI of 24.5 - 150 lbs. at 5'5" - is going to face fat bashing in 9 out of 10 cases in school. With all the consequences for self-esteem, body image and associated issues, etc. - and it probably often turning into a self-fulfilling weight prophecy.
Establishing a realistic body assessment and outlawing weight bashing of all types would go a long way in letting young women grow up concentrating on the truly important matters in life.
2) What annoys me like hell in these cautionary tales is that they always end in a medium-sized health catastrophe due to weight gain. A high school senior who has a hypertensive crisis because of a few weeks of weight gain - even if it was quite a lot of weight in a limited amount of time - has a disposition for or pre-existing cardiovascular issues to begin with.
No organically healthy person at that age has so extreme symptoms.
Also, one other thing that is interesting to me is that this video keeps being shown at the top of my 'recommended' videos on youtube when I am browsing BBW/BHM videos. I think it is interesting that they are strongly pushing a 'warning' type video on people who are looking at fat porn.
SnapChat used to campaign a lot against us in this way, a few years ago... practically impossible to browse on our app wothput falling out one of those Thin-God-fearing shock articles about the Fat Acceptance Perile-- and unhealthy promotion of the Lardashians just along.
Being comfortable in its own skin became the New Black or Yellow... in a negative sense.
That’s the problem with today’s youth. No personal responsibility and always placing blame.
Are you actually defending a man who used his persuasion and cunning to coerce a bigger woman to get much bigger? If fetish molestation was a thing, people like him would end up in jail.
No. I’m not defending it in that context. But one side of the story is only one side. It’s easy to place blame.
It's as much easy as well to not consider he haven't even first informed her about the fact he does have these inclinations before to initiate her.
You cannot start a sexual play when one party isn't even aware about it, lest informed this is actually a foreplay: he molested her by playing on the emotional and ludicrous component of the coaxing manoeuver. That's not fair.
I understand the issues brought to the table with the video.... I just got a creepy feeling that it wasn’t just the guy and his behavior that they were condemning
Video would have been a lot shorter, if they just focused on him manipulating her. Though I am sure a lot of people would find the WG interesting.
I know to many people IRL that put up with to much bs, for the sake of being in a relationship.
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