ODE to OLDER MEN--much sexier than young men

Discussion in 'Fat sexuality' started by KittyKitten, Apr 9, 2010.

  1. Apr 9, 2010 #1

    KittyKitten

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    All my life, I've always preferred men who are older than me. I'm 26 but my boyfriend is 39 going on 40. There is something about older man that rocks my world.

    I do not like young men under the age of 30, most of them are immature. Alot of them have no respect for women. 9 out of 10 times I walk by an older gentleman (35 and up) he would greet me. Only 1 out of 10 young males do the same. They are just so much more respectful.

    I once dated a man 16 years my senior and we are still best of friends (not benefits :rolleyes:). I know a lot of older women hate it when young women date an older man--they say they want us because we are easier to control, naive, etc. What gets me, most of the older females who say crap like that secretly want to smother some hot 25 year old man. Hypocrites. Alot of these females are insecure. A young woman is more mature than a young man. A young woman in her 20s has the maturity of a man in his 30s, for the most part.

    Anyway, we prefer older men because of their life experience, courtesy, maturity, and yes, they are fine in bed. It sounds cliche but they know how to treat a woman. Even my father is 13 years older than my mom. She picked RIGHT.
     
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    There's not much poetry in that post. Wouldn't really call it an "ode".

    "Odious" would be a better adjective.
     
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  3. Apr 9, 2010 #3

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    So you came to my post just to write this crap? The post isn't for you anyway, young man.
     
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  4. Apr 9, 2010 #4

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    I'm posting here anyways. It might have something to do with you insulting me.
     
  5. Apr 9, 2010 #5

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    I didn't insult you, I corrected you on what you said about the President and showed you evidence.
     
  6. Apr 9, 2010 #6

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    I came here to post this crap.

    I think it's great that you like them and that you've had those experiences, however I believe that the accusations you've made against younger men are not only generalities, but haven't been my experiences at all, so I'll just share another side.

    There has been nothing secret about my times smothering 25 year old men, or my enjoyment of just that (well documented in photos, in fact!). I wouldn't waste my time on someone I thought to be excessively immature or irresponsible, and last time I checked there is nothing in the world wrong with silly. (I see you've since edited out silly.... well, I read it, so I'm going to comment on that.)

    If we're to go with your line of thinking (which is flawed, in my thinking) then the women who choose older men may be looking for safe, care takers. Maybe they want to be "prizes" or something, and they're not secure or happy enough to just have fun, enjoy, and confident enough to be the "older woman".

    Hmmm.

    So, while I'm glad you're enjoying your own choice, and I wouldn't put you or it down, I think it's rude to insult those who enjoy other types or the other types they enjoy.

    Where one chooses to get a "good dickin'" is their choice. (And since we're on fat sexuality, I'm going to safely assume this isn't just about his great personality, etc, etc.)



    (Carla/Beej, I will not forget the cupcakes.)
     
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    Do not bring other board issues to this one - either of you. Move along, stay on topic.

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  8. Apr 9, 2010 #8

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    i like how you edited out the fact that you called young men "silly".

    ridiculous.

    i've gotten a good dickin' from younger and older men, and in my personal experience, the older ones were more "silly" than the younger ones. generalities serve no purpose as there are always exceptions. having dated someone 12 years older than me, and someone 4 years younger, i feel i qualify to chime in here.

    keep painting with that broad brush, i like laughing.
     
  9. Apr 9, 2010 #9

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    A lot of younger men would say similar things about older women, changing traits to match gender bias. I have no problem with either and perception is everything. Some of what you say rings with a grain of truth, but some is simply ones experiences coloring perception into what becomes a preference. It's good to know that some girls still find us older guys to be attractive in this youth driven world, and I know some women will agree with this, although I find the double standard slanted in the favor of older men. (such a shame) As we age one of the biggest things we as humans worry about is whether or not the other gender still finds us attractive or whether or not we are desirable.
    It is good to know that the answer to that is YES, we are! Although, no one age group holds the monopoly on maturity.
    Rollhandler
     
  10. Apr 12, 2010 #10

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    Awww, yeeeeeahhhhh.

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    I think it depends entirely on the person himself, no? It's not so much a question of who's more mature than whom, nor if they know how to respect a woman. I think that just has to go with the amount of self-confidence a person gains over their lifetime.
    And again, speaking as the noobling I am, there can be some troubles with a large age gap. Maybe not immediately, but there are significant cultural differences, as well as personal outlooks that change dramatically once you have a gap that ranged over 10 years.
    But that being said, I'm glad you like older men, and I'm sure being appreciated by a younger women makes them happy.
     
  12. Apr 14, 2010 #12

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    Although Spouse is only 4 years older, Old Flame is nearly 15 years older. He is the one who gives me butterflies when I think of him, although I try not to.

    I'm attracted to so many types and I certainly don't have a daddy complex but my fantasies invariably go back to the silver-haired seducer I met years ago.

    Spouse knows we're still friends and it makes him sweat a little---well a lot, but the past is the past and fantasies are just that.
     
  13. Apr 15, 2010 #13

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    There are a lot of nice younger guys out there so don't rag on them too much.A lot has to do with how they were raised.
    I'm 37 and my BF is 57 and is a very respectful man and treats me better than I have ever been.Older guys rock IMO.
     
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    Don't knock the youngins until you've tried one. When I was 27 my boyfriend was an extremely sexy 20 year old. It was never an issue and in bed, fantastic. The 20 yr old knew what he was doing in the bedroom. He had some serious stamina and a willingness to please that I'd never seen before. Plus he thought I was extremely awesome, being so much older. It was fun while it lasted.
     
  15. Apr 16, 2010 #15

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    This pretty much says it all.
     
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    There's hope for us yet!;)
     
  17. Apr 17, 2010 #17

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    I personally enjoy older men. I think it has to do with needing a man that knows what he wants and/or has had the time to get over the partying phase or whatever. However, I sometimes want a guy my age (but on my level). I think I sort of liked older guys all my life because younger guys were always the guys that made fun of me and yadda, yadda, yadda. I just can't see myself with a guy my age because I'd never think he was serious if he approached me. I'd check to see if his buddies were around the corner keeping fatty tabs or something!

    Furthermore, I LOVE an older man's appearance. Gahhhh. Salt n pepper, pants that don't show underwear, and a deep voice *le sigh*. lol I don't know, but I'd never put down younger guys! To each their own, I suppose!
     
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    Oh yeah, salt and pepper older is sooooooo hot!! One of my fave couple of general types. puuurrrrrr.

    But I had to laugh, the younger guys I've dated, or have interest in, don't have their underwear showing and have very sexy deep voices... so yeah, you can have more of each. :D
     
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    No problem with your preference-- although my experience with an older man doesn't deserve the same kind of glowing review-- but I feel the need to stick up for the younger guys. Out of all the guys I've dated, the one who's shown me the most respect-- as in, who I most believe sees me as his equal-- is a year younger than me. Men under 30 on this board have made some intelligent, thoughtful, and sensitive posts. I don't think they deserve to be brushed off so casually.
     
  20. Apr 18, 2010 #20

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    I can't say that I've ever had a problem with younger men and in my experience they've been no less respectful. However, a lot of older men seem more confident with a been-there-done-that thing that I find appealing. Then again I like the enthusiasm of the young.
    For me older men are one of the many 'types' I'm attracted to. Younger men fall into some of those types as well.
     

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