I'm glad someone brought this up. I grew up in Iowa where you don't even ask a stranger how they're doing. Its a little bit invasive. Now living in New Orleans, its like a different planet. My family is a very huggy affectionate family but not with people we barely know. Acquaintances I see once/year will give me a kiss when I see them down here. My autism doesn't help much. I'm very affectionate with my betrothed but I'm also very attached to my space bubble. My future in-laws are all about the hug and a kiss on the cheek. I never know what to do during this and I screw it up every time. I'm uncomfortable with it but I know I have to suck it up, I just can't get the hang of it. I have fine motor skills problem and having a moving target with a mind of its own doesn't help, neither does the fact that I'm a little distracted by the cement truck in my stomach and my skin being ripped away from my bones . Any tips on this? Do you hug with one arm during this? Is the hug and kiss simultaneous? Do you hold their upper arms or actually hug? I know the kiss is actually just cheeks together and making a kissing sound but that is as much as I've figured out. Its so much easier with the squishys. You just mush yourself into them and it is nice. I don't know what to do with these other people.