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So, I have a question. I think I am bisexual, basically because I am really fickle and kinda go in shifts on who I am attracted to, men or women. My question is, is that normal? Sometimes your in a male mood, sometimes in a female mood? Am I just weird?

BTW I am not really out outside of the internet, I have only been in one relationship so, I am kinda new to everything....
The terms 'bisexual, heterosexual and homosexual' are socially constructed in order to simplify the nature of human attraction, which is preposterous.

What I believe is that 'straight' people such as myself will find members of their own sex attractive at some point, and 'gay' people will find members of the opposite sex attractive at some point.

Attraction does not concern itself with what you're 'supposed' to like, based on your claimed sexual preference, it is based on a series of factors which you, as an individual find most pleasing. Your own desire doesn't strictly count on a certain sex to find that special combination of factors, and that's all there is to it.

Yes, there are people who would classify themselves as gay or straight because most of the time, their attraction leads them in one sex or another. But its foolish to restrain yourself to this category because attraction isn't set upon a 'category' as such.

This is the real nature of human sexuality and it is not weird AT ALL so please don't feel that you are.
 

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I got back and forth with whom I like the most...I think that's what really makes a person "bi"...or whatever you want to call it. Sex is sex. Love is love. So yes, you're perfectly normal ;)
 

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Huh, the OP? What happened? That blows! :confused:
Yes, the OP. It's a long story. She tried to force me into a situation I didn't want to be in, and when I resisted she did as much as she could to hurt me. More recently a mutual friend tried to help me get in touch with her and, I'd hoped, renew our friendship. She flipped out at the friend, accused me of raping her twice and ruining her life, and when she found out I'm trans referred to me as 'it'. She then cut the friend out of her life, like she has with so many other people.

I feel bad for her, but there's only so much I can do. I devoted a year to trying to help her work through her issues. My life is mine now.
 

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Yes, the OP. It's a long story. She tried to force me into a situation I didn't want to be in, and when I resisted she did as much as she could to hurt me. More recently a mutual friend tried to help me get in touch with her and, I'd hoped, renew our friendship. She flipped out at the friend, accused me of raping her twice and ruining her life, and when she found out I'm trans referred to me as 'it'. She then cut the friend out of her life, like she has with so many other people.

I feel bad for her, but there's only so much I can do. I devoted a year to trying to help her work through her issues. My life is mine now.
Oh wow, ouch. :mad: I'm glad that chapter of your life is closed.
 

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So, I have a question. I think I am bisexual, basically because I am really fickle and kinda go in shifts on who I am attracted to, men or women. My question is, is that normal? Sometimes your in a male mood, sometimes in a female mood? Am I just weird?

BTW I am not really out outside of the internet, I have only been in one relationship so, I am kinda new to everything....
i know exactly what you mean. i'm bisexual but i often go through periods where i'm in a "boy phase" or a "girl phase". i don't think there's anything wrong or weird about that (though i like weird :batting:). the thing a lot of people don't realize is that sexuality is fluid, even within itself. also, bisexuality is a spectrum, not a binary so you can feel different degrees of bisexuality at different times.

bottom line? go with how you feel and don't feel weird about it; be you! :D
 

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Im very bisexual and have been thinking about this topic for a while myself.
Im 33 soon 2 be 34 in Dec and my whole life Ive been on the fence about it.
Ive come to the conclusion for myself personally Im just me and If I happen to like bith genders than great No problem. You gotta be ok with who you.
My friend once said ok I think I may have the answer for figuring out your dilema when it comes to bi or les or str8t. When u are imaging sex with some one does your view go to w on w or w on m or m on m? I said well Its both and I never see me doing one more than the other nor getting grossed out over one or the other. Now here is where my college world comes into play.
Sexuality is not very finite no specific. The line of sexuality most definitly curves and goes around a bout. So please dont get frustrated at who you are or what you may be as a human. Sex is great and finding out where u belong sexually in this world can be down right confusing or at the most part exhilirating to say the least. So just take careful steps and accept who you are, Lifes a journey so jump in and be safe and take care.
 

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Sexuality and romantic love can be so confusing. To make sense of it all I have come to this conclusion: Human beings are complex creatures. Our sexuality and even some of our needs, desires are complicated. We are all different and beautiful individuals. Sometimes people need labels to try to understand each other. But there is a major flaw in labels and that is stereotypes. There are folks that are not very smart and try to fit you in a little box in their closed up mind. I hate that!

So in a nutshell: I try not to labels folks because I hate stereotypes that come attached to it.:mad:

As for me: I count myself a straight woman 99.9 % of the time. But I love to flirt with everyone!:D I also find beauty and admire all kinds of people from every race, culture, gender, and religion.


And guess what? I am a Christian too.;) I don't care about labels. If you are a cool person, I love you! So be who you are. God made a masterpiece in each one of us. Sending love to you all. xoxoxo:kiss2:

(PS: The reason that I mentioned that I am a Christian is because we are stereotyped to believe we don't love the GLBTQ community and that is totally NOT true. But that is for another thread)
 

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I was thinking about this today, actually. I consider myself pansexual. The people I have dated and loved and been all over the gender map. In general, I find myself attracted to butch women and femme men...this is very general and doesn't count for people who don't fall into the gender binary, etc etc. However, right this moment, when I think about love and lust [and art and that transit little crap], I can only imagine it being with a guy. I think this is because my last relationship was with a guy and I'm still getting over it and can be a little wistful and nostalgic. Once I'm fully beyond all of this and assuming my heart and mind open back up to the idea of love and lust [etc], I imagine I'll go back to not putting much stock into gender at all. So I guess what I'm saying is that, yes, I sometimes have fluctuations in my preferences but not in my orientation.
 

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So, I have a question. I think I am bisexual, basically because I am really fickle and kinda go in shifts on who I am attracted to, men or women. My question is, is that normal? Sometimes your in a male mood, sometimes in a female mood? Am I just weird?

BTW I am not really out outside of the internet, I have only been in one relationship so, I am kinda new to everything....
Good Question. And You are not alone, This is pretty normal. I had male partners and female ones. WEll good luck
 

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I don't believe that being bisexual is the same for everybody. Deep down you know what it is you like and who you are likely to be attracted to both physically and emotionally. I've had days where men do nothing for me and I'm 100% interested in women and vice versa. I guess what I'm trying to say is put a little less emphases on what word fits best to describe you and concentrate on how you feel. The right word will come up eventually. Additionally, check out the Kinsey scale. That really helped me figure myself out when I was younger.
 

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The Kinsey scale isn't all inclusive and sometimes I crave a word for what I am.

Also, giving consideration to "what we are" is the nature of philosophy, of learning...and, if I may say so, is something that can be quite pleasurable in and of itself.
 

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The Kinsey scale isn't all inclusive and sometimes I crave a word for what I am.

Also, giving consideration to "what we are" is the nature of philosophy, of learning...and, if I may say so, is something that can be quite pleasurable in and of itself.
I'm definitely not saying that it isn't something you should seek but sometimes the right word will pop up after you've explored your desires and interests. Don't get me wrong, I know the struggle to figure out who you are. The Kinsey scale is definitely outdated but it allowed me to understand that there isn't a right or wrong way to be bisexual or even sexual.
 

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I'm bi but I definitely lean towards the straight side. I'm very finnicky about the men that I sleep with/date, but not so much when it comes to women. But I'm fairly open sexually, so I'm not really even sure bisexual is the proper term. Basically I am either attracted to someone or not, regardless of if they're male, female, transgendered, genderqueer etc.

And don't call me a pansexual. I don't like that label.

My point is that bisexuality doesn't have to mean you like boys and girls equally. You can prefer one over the other and even be in "the mood" for a boy or a girl. Some days I'm all about women. Some days only gay porn will do the trick for me. Just ride with it and don't worry so much about labeling your sexuality :)
 

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So, I have a question. I think I am bisexual, basically because I am really fickle and kinda go in shifts on who I am attracted to, men or women. My question is, is that normal? Sometimes your in a male mood, sometimes in a female mood? Am I just weird?

BTW I am not really out outside of the internet, I have only been in one relationship so, I am kinda new to everything....
i relate to this :)
 

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My question is, is that normal? Sometimes your in a male mood, sometimes in a female mood? Am I just weird?
I definitely go from male to female mode. Ironically I end up with more men than I do women, but I am way more attracted to women.
 

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Agreed. I tend to end up with more men that want me to facilitate kinky and/or group sex for them. Like all bisexual people are in an exclusive club and know each other like best FWB.

I identify more on the lesbian side of bi, but women are harder to get (for me at least) than men. I run into the anti-bi stigmas more than I don't encounter them.
 

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I'm not bi-sexual at all but I've always wanted to date a guy that was bi.
I was hoping to meet a guy from the Dims board that is bi but that fell through.

I hope for anyone that is struggling to figure out if they are truly bi or not is able to figure out that you don't have to label yourself one way or the other.

As many have already said.. just go with the flow and hopefully you will meet someone that is excited about the fact that you like both but at the very least understanding and accepting. I'm sure there are more women like me that would enjoy being in a long term relationship with a man that is bi.. but have an occassional twist and enjoy having another man in bed once in a while.. or at least let me be in the same room so I can enjoy from watching ;)

yes, I'm a perv and I love it :) just hope to find my other half that's also a bit of a kink :D but of course it's not a deal breaker.
 
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