Question for the bisexuals

Discussion in 'GLBTQ' started by madvfxartist, May 26, 2009.

  1. Nov 24, 2018 #101

    ChocolateBear

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    Wow! Been a while since anyone commented on here.

    I was told there's something called a 'bi-cycle' (or bicycle) if you prefer, in which a bisexual's attraction to sexes changes over time. Sometimes you're really crushing on the cute gal who refills your coffee and maybe it's the hunky cook who cooked your eggs sunny-side up, just the way you like them.

    When I first started exploring my sexuality I was mostly attracted to other men. I didn't really think too much about women at the time, even though I still found them attractive - but nowhere as much as the (larger) dudes I saw in college, and all over the place. At some point in the past 4 or 5 years, I guess I've added females (and gender-fluid folks so I don't leave anyone out) back into my Venn diagram of people I find attractive.

    It was at my local casino here in south Louisiana where I got a job as a security officer, and it allowed me to basically (part of the job) look at people. And I got to explore them in all their shapes and sizes. Young and old. Black and white. Male and female. Skinny and obese. It triggered something dormant in me, and gave my mind all sorts of wonderful fantasies I wish I could've explored in the hotel next door. But none of them materialized because I had to be professional and keep my horniness to myself
     
  2. Nov 27, 2018 #102

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    I've always viewed - no pun intended - bisexuality (and sexuality as a whole) as a buffet, which is an apt description for this site. Some stuff on the buffet you always go back to because you know what it is. Safe. Delicious. No surprises. Some things you don't touch, no matter how many people will tell you how good it is. Some stuff you will try once in a while and you liked it when you tried it. And some stuff you'll try because you've never had it before, and want to see what the big deal is.

    So, keep your plates full. Explore variety if you wish, or not. That's the beauty of bisexuality.

    And, yes, it could also apply to pansexuality as well (those two seem to cross paths pretty often)
     
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    While I have no knowledge or understanding of the bi-cycle (not being bisexual and all) but a couple things you mentioned struck a cord with me. I too, have a job similar to yours where a part of the job is to watch people. This affords me great delight in that I get to indulge in fantasy a bit (no, I'm not a creeper). I've always enjoyed people watching and speculating about certain aspects of others' lives, even if just briefly. Because of that, I became acutely aware that the more I watched people, the more certain body types became appealing to me. Even at a young age, I sometimes found myself attracted to bigger girls. That's never been an issue. But now I notice that the limits of what I find attractive have expanded (there's a pun there but I'll leave it at that).

    And I found your buffet analogy very enlightening (seeing as there's plenty of eating going on). I think what happens in both cases is that as we age, we experience more and our intellect grows. With all of that, we become emboldened and dare to step away from our comforts on occasion (trying new things at the buffet). Sometimes we like what we try and make it a regular thing. Sometimes we don't like it but we can say that we tried and are grateful for the experience. Are there some things I've looked at but haven't tried yet? Sure. Am I ever going to be bold enough to take a sample? Hmmm....
     
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